She's a cool girl, but really I just don't have time!! I am married and recently had twin girls so I really have my hands full. I ignore her calls sometimes if I'm busy, but I do call her back when I get a chance. She jokingly accused me several times of "trying to dump her" when I don't answer my phone hoping that she'll take the hint. She knows very well that I'm very busy but she constantly comes over unannounced and calls me at least 3 times a day. Especially when she's having boy trouble or fighting with her mom. I don't mind helping her with her problems but I really really have my hands full. I try to make time for her when I can, but my husband and my girls need me more! I should mention that she's very sensitive but obviously can't take a hint. What should I do?
2007-10-17 02:30:25 · 6 answers · asked by Naka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, she really doesn't help. When she comes over, she'll be sitting on the couch going on and on about her boyfriend going out without her and how her mom is trying to control her. Meanwhile, I'll be running around changing diapers, washing dishes, doing laundry. I think the problem is that we are in different stages in life.
2007-10-17 02:47:32 · update #1
let the girl know, that while you care about her, you have a busy and full schedule, and the two of you will have to plan visits.
she is intruding on your privacy by coming over unannounced three times a day. i'm sure she can see you are busy.
she doesn't seem to have manners or good sense.
sometimes we have to tell people the truth... let her know you like her and care, but you can't stop your life with the kids and taking care of things at home on a whim. --and to call you before she comes over, and you will let her know if you have time or not.
take care.
2007-10-17 03:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if she is trying to tell you something. You are very busy and she obviously sees this, she is just wanting to help you with anything she can, making a bottle or changin a dipar...I'm sure she loves seein you baby girls! She is probably pretty lonely too, hence the callin 3 times a day...if its possible, ask her to come over and hang out for some coffee or helpin around the house...I think thats all she wants. And when she knows she is welcome, she will back off and not come around so much....it just works like that....I know..weird.
2007-10-17 09:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by JB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and make time for her ! She really needs you when she has a fight ! That was nasty.
There is no reason NOT to be pals, but you can have a word and say,"Well, I'm a bit busy at the mo. Mabey another time" OR can she help you out with the twins ?
Best of luck.
2007-10-17 09:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by pop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her the facts, This is not helping you, Trying to do every thing and she no help, when you want to come over call, and if I don't answer the phone I have to much work to do.
2007-10-17 12:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by sofar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it may seem kind of cruel i think you should just sit her down and straight up tell her that you would like to be her friend but you just have your hands full with your twins and your husband!
2007-10-17 09:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is really important, you have to do all these things at "exactly" the same time...ready...good...
First, you need to move your family to a new town, then change your phone numbers. ta-da, all done.
2007-10-18 08:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by photoguy1967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋