how can i tell my husband that i would like to work, i work for him but he never pays me.?

Question

he owes the company we work, all the income is the family trust which i'm not included, i came here with nothing, he pays for everything, my son, my niece education, am i asking to much, but i really work hard, really hard i just dont have the guts to tell him that i would like to have a salary or just work for somebody else, but i still be working with him i just wanna work just a couple of hours to to others so i could have some money for my self,

Answer 1

Wow this is a tough one, I dont know alot of info regarding the company, but I do know one thing about marital assets and that is that they are shared equal, so your hubby must treat you as his equal, in business and home life. And if he owes the company money, how would be pay you? wouldnt that be defeating the purpose? And why are you not a part of the family trust? And listen to that word carefully, family trust, say it to yourself a few times in your head. When you married this man you became his family, so therefore it is time for you to be included in all financial issues. Its also past time for you to stop being fearful of what hes gonna think, and get some balls and tell him this is how its gonna be! Your the wife here, your supposed to share and comunicate. These are problems that come up when a husband and wife work together, this is why they say its also not a good idea, as it leads to fights and arguments. So the advise I give to you is to start looking for a new job away from your husband, I mean for gods sake, a girls gotta have some cash! And start communicating better with this man, Dont come off harsh and ready to fight, keep it simple as men are simple creatures and dont like alot of drama, so when you do confront him, keep it light. Good Luck!

Answer 2

he probably sees no reason to pay you since the money would be coming out of the money you both have from the company. you could find a job you like and tell him you want to try that to get other work experience, or just for a change. If you are his wife, it is perhaps strange that you are not included in the family trust. do you have a joint account for the money the company makes? If he expects you to work but doesn't give you any money for yourself, it sounds like he may be very controlling and you do need to get other employment somewhere else in order to have the money you want to have for your own needs. Tell him he should pay you because that gives him a deduction for wages for you when tax season comes around.

Answer 3

Seems like alot of the answers are being pretty hard on your husband so, I'll give him the benefits of the doubt. I sympathize and would probably want to be paid if I were in your situation but, maybe your husband thinks that the money produced by the business is both of yours so, you don't need to be paid. maybe you could ask to be legally included in the trust? I would approach it as a sense of security for you, that you want to be legally part of your personal and business relationship. He ought to care about you feeling comfort and want to include you. You could ask to be paid too but, wouldn't that money just go into a joint account anyway? I think what you really want is access to the family money and a legal claim to the cash flow the business produces. I think you should address those by asking to be added to the trust and maybe discuss how much mad money you BOTH are allowed to spend. That way it doesn't look like you've got your hand out but, are intereseted in the family's overall finances.

Answer 4

Well, you aren't included in the trust? Then if anything was to ever happen you will end up with nothing? You said he pays for everything, does that include that he gives you spending money also? You may just want to talk to him in a nice way and express your feelings. Maybe split your time at his business and work part-time somewhere else.

Answer 5

Put the law down. He is your husband. He may own the company but so do you. Let him know you need to get some pay so you have a few bucks in your pocket to rub together. He will understand. It sounds like he is driven and might not notice that you aren't taking a salary. Make sure you let him know you need some spending money too.

Answer 6

After marriage everything that comes in the house is owned by both husband and wife, irrespective of how much efforts who has put in.
I understand that you too need ur own money, if u ask him for salary he would be hurt plus it would not look decent of u too. you can put it other words like I need this amount of money for myself as i have to do blah blah things. I am sure he would not mind giving it,
but if u think that he would be reluctant then find a job first and then tell him I have a good offer and they r paying good money can I join?

Answer 7

The IRS will want to know about this. When you work - you should be paid - whether it's family or not.

But we can't give you the guts/backbone/courage or whatever you want to call it - to tell him that you not only want to be paid - you deserve to be paid.

I would urge you to go into counseling for some help in learning to stand up for your rights. If not for you - then for your children - who should see their mother as a pillar of strength rather than a cowering slave.

Answer 8

Be patience you get enough besides you came here with nothing, he pays for everything, my son, my niece education, so get the little from him to cater for other needs.

Answer 9

there is nothing wrong with wanting to earn a little money for yourself,it's your human right to do so,why are you afraid to tell him this?Is he violent or aggresive?You don't owe him anything,if he chose to pay for you he can't throw it back in your face.Talk to him and ask him to understand your position,maybe he has come to depend on your help but remind him that he doesn't own you,you are not his slave!Be strong,don't be afraid.

Answer 10

Find another job and tell your husband that your boss appreciates you as an employee, he pays you to work for him which is what a boss is suppose to do.