Last weekend my aunt cleaned out her closet and ended up bringing my mom 2 garbage bags of clothes. She told my mom that they were meant for me but if there was anything she wanted to take it. My mom is about 6 sizes bigger than her sister so nothing in the bags fitted her. Now seeing as I'm the same size as my mom I gave the clothes to the one person I knew who needed them and could fit in them, my daughter. She is the same size as her great aunt so I figured as long as someone was using them it wasn't a waste. Now my mom is very upset with me because she's saying if I didn't want the clothes I shouldn't have taken them. My daughter really needed new clothes and she really appreciates them( she recently went through a teenage growth spurt and most of her old clothes don't fit anymore). My mom is saying that I basically didn't accept the gift and that I had no right to give these things to my daughter. Did I really do something wrong or is my mom overreacting? continued
2007-10-17 02:40:42 · 11 answers · asked by Lostlove 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't want to start a family feud over something as simple as clothes. Plus I've always taught my daughter that just because things aren't brand new as long as they're new to her they're just as good, so she had no problem getting used clothes. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
2007-10-17 02:42:52 · update #1
your mom is out of line. What you did was a good thing and helped you and your daughter. Call your Aunt and thank her for the clothes and tell her that although nothing fit you, it did fit your daughter and you both are gratefull for her charity. What your aunt gave was not a gift, but something she gave versus throwing away.
2007-10-17 02:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Doh Doh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is TOTALLY overreacting. Obviously, if you are the same size as her and both of you are bigger than your aunt, she would know that there is no way you can fit into these clothes. Why would she not want to see them go to good use and be used by her own granddaughter? I don't understand that attitude. You might want to give your aunt a call to explain to her what you've done just to see if she minds. If she specifically wanted them for you and no one else to use then she'll let you know, but I can't understand why she would care if you gave them to your daughter if they fit her and not you. Then you can clear it up right at the source and your mom won't be able to say anything more about it.
2007-10-17 09:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can probably solve this by phoning your aunt and thanking her for the clothes ~ say that although unfortunately nothing fit your mum or you, your daughter now has some lovely things thanks to her great aunt's generosity.
If your daughter also speaks to her aunt, or writes a nice 'thank you' card and teams it with a nice box of chocs for her auntie, I believe the problem would be solved.
It may be that your Mum is concerned her sis will feel a bit used to find the clothes have 'travelled down the line' (although she shouldn't feel that), so maybe some flowers or chocs for her would smooth the waters.
Personally, I think you sound smart and sensible and so does your daughter. Recycling clothing makes good sense financially AND as a consumer. Your daughter will go far if she has these principles to live by!
Cheers :-)
2007-10-17 10:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you did anything wrong the clothing is being used and is not being kept in a closet hiding your daughter is happy with them i think your mother has a problem,why don't you take your daughter to your aunt with some of the clothes on and let her know how much she appreciates them i think in time your mum will be all right about it after all it was only clothing and not a family heirloom you gave away.
2007-10-17 10:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I would've done the same thing. Maybe your mom is just upset because she couldn't fit any of the clothes and she's just looking for a way to start an argument with you because she's upset at herself and just wants to fight for the sake of fighting.
You did the right thing. Your daughter has some new clothes and your aunt is probably happy to see her clothes being put to good use.
2007-10-17 09:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is the one with issues- control issues. Don't let her guilt you over something so petty.
I am sure your aunt would love a thank you note from your daughter, and appreciate that someone got use of the clothes that everyone involved knew would not fit either you or your mother.
2007-10-17 10:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter can probably thank your Aunt (by writing a nice thank you note) for the wonderful gift of clothes.
Your Aunt didn't want them anymore, and i'm sure she'd be happy someone could use them.
Your mother? She isn't making any sense.
2007-10-17 09:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i think your mom is overreacting. Who cares if they went to your daughter instead of you. Your aunt must of known that you and your mother wouldn't fit in them. I am sure she is glad that someone is going to get use out of them. thats just crazy.
2007-10-17 09:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope you did nothing wrong
& its your Aunt clothes why is your Mom mad at you???
As long as your Aunt don't mind your mom shouldn't worry over this
2007-10-17 09:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom is overreacting. As long as someone can use them, she should let it go. It's her grandchild for God's sake.
2007-10-17 09:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by KMCinNJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋