my girlfriend is not a virgin she lost it 2 yrs ago. but now regrets it. she claims she only did it once. but i'm a virgin and feel confused about the whole thing. what should i do.
2007-10-17 03:01:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What does it really matter ?
2007-10-17 03:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 6⤋
Honey, I am not sure what you are confused about, but just because she lost her virginity to someone else, it doesn't mean she is any less of a person. It is very rare that you find adult virgins now days. I have no opinion on it, I am just saying people get into serious relationships earlier than they used to. If you are worried that she will think you don't know what you are doing the first time you get intimate, let me tell you she will be just as unsure as will be. If you are confused for religious reasons..........can't help you there, only you can decide what is right. Don't hold this against her. You loved her before you knew right? Is she still that same person you fell in love with (or like)? If she says she regrets it that means she is sorry it happened so forgive and forget. No one is perfect, give her a break.
2007-10-17 10:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Paula D 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋
The one you marry will not save themselves for you. Christian girls dont save themselves anymore. Nobody will save it for you so why save it for them.
This girl is obviously not good enough for you. Just get the sexual experience and then move onto somebody else. Nobody said you have to stay with her after sex. She is obviously not the one and not good enough for you.
In the real world the one you marry will not be a virgin. The one will not save it for you. So get as much experience as you can. Have sex with this girl then get rid of her. Nobody said you have to stay with her. She will just move on and find someone else after you dump her anyways.
2014-11-26 01:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by D1CFB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to decide what's important to you.
In the end it's not what is said here on YA that will matter, you need to follow your own conscious and do what you know is right for you.
There is no "wrong" or "right" when making these kinds of decisions.
2007-10-17 10:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by Chilly Willy 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
These people telling you to get over it? These are the people who are part of that 50% divorce rate. These are the same people who end up sleeping with many, just to find one.
Why? Because their morally bankrupt and as such, they have no respect for those such as yourself who prefer to have some meaning and purpose in their lives.
If it bothers you, wait and there is no shame in that. If doesn't bother you, that's okay to.Whatever you do, do what is *right for you*, that way you don't end up regretting anything later on.
2007-10-17 10:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Stedway 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'm not really sure what your question is or why you are confused.
Having sex is normal and natural and once it is done you are no longer a virgin. It can't be reversed and most people aren't virgins.
You seem to be hung up on this issue. The bottom line is that you can't change your g/f past and shouldn't judge her for it. Accept the facts or move on.
2007-10-17 10:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
If you love her truely, then it will not matter. I met my g/f when I was 17 I was a virgin. She was not and yes, it would have been nice to share the first time with each other, it's not something that bothers me or brings down the experience. If you two have sex with each other and it's backed by your love for one another, then thats all that matters.
2007-10-17 10:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by Gary 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
well if you really love this girl it should not be a problem for you as you can see she regrets it now.i don't see why you are confused about if you love her it should not matter.my partner was a virgin when we got together and he was 46 then and we are 12 years together now and it didn't make a difference to him about me not being one or he didn't think anything less of me nor i of him..so do what you think is right and that's all that matters be there for each other,
2007-10-17 10:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by ladybit2 1 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Do it bother you that she is not a virgin?
If you believe what she told you & it was only once, even if it wasn't just once, did she use portection?
You might want to ask her to get tested for STD's before the 2 of you have sex.
Bab as for you still being a virgin, don't worry, I think the 2 of you can work it out. You know to some women it is very sexy that the guy is still a virgin.
2007-10-17 10:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋
i wouldn't worry. if there is trust between you and you know she regrets it then just be proud of the fact that she will enjoy it with you and won't regret it, if you are both ready to that is.
lots of people feel pressured into doing something, so it's not uncommon to find men and women who both regret their first times for whatever reasons
but even if she enjoyed it, and was in control and happy and confident with that decision she made, why should it matter to you?
love her for who she is now, and she is with you now. her past shouldn't matter to you
2007-10-17 10:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by ombomstiggywoggles 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
nothing. you just don't have sex until you are ready. if you have doubt, then don't do it. people just do it because others do, that's why they regret. if you feel ready, there's nothing to regret.
2007-10-17 10:04:49 · answer #11 · answered by Carborane 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋