she let all 3 of us take turns with her in the bedroom...it was goin to be my first time but i got scared and just talked to her...now she wants to be my girl friend but i told her i couldnt date a girl who let all my friends bang her while i was there...i like her a lot and she is very pretty..i just cant get the image of my friends doin her over and over again..i need some advice!! what should i do???
2007-10-17 02:53:28 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are young, she is young. Wear a condom and have fun.
2007-10-17 02:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Okay first of all how old are you guys? Secondly....if you want to be friends with this girl fine, but go with what you first said to her. "I couldn't date a girl who let all my friends bang her..."
You've already said it. It sounds to me as if this girl is in desperate need of attention which is why she so easily gives herself away. I hate to say it but she needs some serious therapy.
Be friends with her, but let it go no further than that. She is going to wind up being some sort of STD statistic or even pregnant at the rate she is going. Who knows she might already have one and now your friends have it. You did the right thing not sleeping with her. Don't be in a rush to have sex and don't feel pressured to do it either. When the time is right you will know it. It really isn't something to play around with either. Just having sex one time with the wrong person could mean a death sentence.
2007-10-17 03:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, the girl needs more advice than you do. You may want to keep her as a friend it appears she needs friends not lovers. But as a girlfriend you should probably back off. Just to have girlfriend is not a trophy. She does not seem like the type you could trust in a one on one relationship. You will have a wonderful relationship when the right girl comes along. No need to rush. How old are you and your friends? Your parents raised you right. Good Luck.
2007-10-17 03:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, she definitely seems like an undecent person. You're right in being hesitant. Seriously, you shouldn't go out with someone who just goes around banging everyone. You need a girlfriend who's honest, trustworthy, and loyal. Although she's very pretty, is that the only reason you like her? You might think she's nice...but it might be just b/c you were blinded from the start. There are so many other girls out there that probably have better personalities than her. So wait for that one special girl to come into your life, and don't waste your time with her. I know its harsh...but its true! =]
2007-10-17 02:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by julia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know the answer to your own question. If you know you can't get it out of your head then why even bother. You will only bring it up later on down the line whenever you all get in an arguement. If you all start a relationship this will always be in the back of your mind and there will be trust issues cause you may feel if she did it once she will do it again.
2007-10-17 03:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sugastack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I cannot believe this girl has such low respect for herself. I take it she is still at school so she hasnt even turned 16 and has sex with 2 guys (that you know about). talk to her and find out why she done this. was it for the attention? And also you need to think about if you do get together will she put pressure on you to have sex. Because it doesn't sound like you are ready. Which is fine. don't let any1 tell you otherwise! Dont just go with this girl so you can lose your virginty, find yourself some1 special! good luck!
2007-10-17 03:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kirsty N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously young and so is she. Most teenagers are torn between their hormones and their desires to do things which will make other people like them. The fact is that you considered having sex with her too, and you haven't dumped your friends for treating this girl like a piece of meat, yet you are condemning her for "letting them" do this.
For some reason, our very enlightened society has decided that girls who have sex are sluts, while those who don't are frigid bitches. Men can have sex, or not, and they are just fine. Yet everyone at your age is confused about what is the right thing to do. We condemn the women, but not the men, for that.
This girl sounds like someone who badly needs a friend. She seems to think that she has to let boys have sex with her in order to be accepted, and she wants you to be her boyfriend because you are the only one who didn't take advantage of her. This is an opportunity for you to do something really worthwhile.
You can be her friend. Not her boyfriend - she doesn't really need a boyfriend, even if she thinks she does. She needs to learn to like herself, rather than hoping boys will like her. You can talk to her and let her talk to you. You can let her know that she is pretty and nice and deserves better than boys who would gang-bang her. Tell her, because this seems to be the truth, that you can't be her boyfriend because you feel guilty that you even considered using her like your friends did, and both of you can be better than that. And do not - I repeat, DO NOT - have sex with her.
You could change this girl's life. If she realizes that she is likeable for more than being pretty and easy, she can make something significant of herself. Then, and only then, would it make sense for the two of you to have a relationship. Both of you would be wothy of a good relationship, and your interactions would be those of mutual respect.
2007-10-17 03:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart stay away from this girl, god knows how many more guys she has had sex with, & did any of them use a condom? more then likely NOT.... You could end up getting an STD. Think aobut it, do you want AIDS, you are young this would affect the rest of your life. YOu need to find a girl that doesn't put out to who every has 3 legs (if you know what I mean.) Have respect for yourself & for amy other female that will come in to your life as you get older, do you want to give them a disease & ruin their lives?
Please just be friends with this girl if you need to have any kind of relationship with her, NO SEX, save your health & possible your life.... this is coming form a mother with 2 sons.... I can not stress it enough to guys CONDOMS, CONDOMS, CONDOMS. It doesn't matter if she is on the pill or any other form of birth control, it will not protect you from STD's a latex condom will.
2007-10-17 03:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing, and need to move on. A girl that will sleep around with so many people, specially being friends, at the same its not worth your time. You being a virgin need to get with a girl that is going to be appreciative and that cares for you. This girl does not cares about herself let alone about you. You deserve better, and I give you props for not going thru with the other kids.
Good Luck!
2007-10-17 02:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by SIUKEY G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey......stay away from her, FAR FAR AWAY!!!!!!! She is someone who obviously does not respect herself, for whatever reason there is definitely some issues going on with her. You want a girl who doesn't just go home from school with three guys and let them have their way with her. She may be pretty and you may be attracted to the BAD girl in her, but sweetie really, she's not the kind of girl you really want. Just think, if she came home with you three, how many other boys has she done the same thing with??????????
2007-10-17 02:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs serious help, she could be looking for love and attention, its a good thing that you did not follow your friends.
You could be friends with her and like they said maybe find out what her reasons for allowing three guys to bang her. Maybe thats what she might need a good friend to help her in the right direction. If you ever take it to that level make sure she is tested first you never know what she could have and how she did!!!
2007-10-17 03:15:52 · answer #11 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋