Do I stay out of it or talk to him about it. Its such a long story, but to shorten it ...my son is extremely outgoing and has alot of friends, but he is searching for that one good bud. He can't seem to get one and he gets real sad when everyone else is hanging with their "best" friends he doesn't have one. He is left out alot and it breaks my heart to see him so sad. He even told me he wants to switch schools, but he's up and down with that. Its tough cuz he is very popular, he is a football player, very good grades, he is fun etc..... but this has become an issue and I am worried. Do I stay out of it and let him resolve this or talk to him about it? I have suggested so many different things I don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes I worry to even bring it up. I just can't stand to see him so hurt by this.
2007-10-17 02:26:51 · 10 answers · asked by Maria 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's tough because you want to do everything you can to make your child happy but there comes a time when the child needs to be left to make their own decisions. If he is as popular as you say he is then I don't understand why he's being left out. Maybe he should make the initiative and invite friends over to do something instead of waiting for them to invite him. He need not focus so much on finding that one friend he can call a best friend. It will happen eventually
2007-10-17 02:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him or help him to get a besto. I'm just the same as him except I found it better to have LOADS of best friends and not just the one. I know how he feels but he will get over it, and don't make him move schools cuz it won't be any different. He is feeling alone and no help is coming his way. Invite a friend or two over with him and have a little talk with him, try to get him invited into stuff
Your a kind person for helping
And Keera'm is just an asswipe donkey *** ignore her :)
Best of Luck !
2007-10-17 02:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by pop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
Sometimes we feel alone, even in a crowd. I remember being a teen, and i had a lot of friends, but not really a best friend at that time, as well.
Hopefully, he will meet someone he connects with. Meanwhile, maybe he could make an effort to ask friends he likes to do things together -- golfing or whatever it is he and the particular friend are into. Making an effort and inviting others to do things with him, might help.
take care.
2007-10-17 02:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure you know this is part of growing up. I think you should stay as close or as far away as he needs / wants you to. Talking to him about it as much as he needs to is good, but bringing it up too much might make him feel worse.
It sounds like he is flourishing academically and this is fantastic! Perhaps community involvement would be good for him. If there is a local boys and girls club or other venues this might be a good way for him to meet others who he can relate to.
Also remind him that he does have friends (right?) it might take a while to find the 'one' so in the meantime enjoy the friends he has and keep being who he is. Don't compromise his values to have friends. He should be choosing friends whose lives he can affect possitively not them INfecting him negatively.
2007-10-17 02:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Indya M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u should stay out of it, but in it
too at the same time. ahh its confusing
and hard to explain but i was just like ur
son a while back and i just got out of that
situation by doing my hobbies such as writing music
or playing an insturment and that caused me to
make some friends. and become a band
together. must be luck but, just give him
some time and if he's stressing out then he should
do anything to get his mind off of it.
2007-10-17 02:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's not "naughty" he's a drug consumer.it rather is not basically undesirable ,this is amazingly undesirable.next he's pulled out that school and homeschooled or put in yet another college.next he has an alarm placed on his doors and residing house windows, he's drug examined a week(you're able to purchase the drug attempt kits interior the drugstore now).2 -3 instruments of clothing, no inner maximum telephone calls the place you could't pay attention in, NO computing device time by potential of himself with out YOU looking over his shoulder and juvenile corridor if all else fails or greater useful yet a boot camp.Take him to a pair rehab places. tell him he gets priviledges lower back whilst he learns to act.He no longer is "given" money yet has to EARN it. Get his dad in touch too if accessible.you could say "oh, I 'm no longer a foul verify" yet you're patently lacking or you does not be right here asking a thank you to handle this, which makes you stable interior the actuality you already know you don't be attentive to what to do.I also have a youthful brother who became into by no potential disciplined whilst he necessary it because of the fact he became into the toddler of the family contributors and mom threw a greater healthy whilst dad tried to spank him.I have been given spanked by potential of ways.My youthful brother became into in reformatory and doing time in penitentiary by potential of the age of 18.He has been a pothead for some years.He lives in a cellular residing house with out working water next to his dope head pals, does not paintings a common activity. blows any money he gets on weed.He lost his driving force's license on the age of 18 he's 40 two now and each time he became into waiting to get a listening to to get them lower back , he have been given busted for weed or different stuff.Your son will better than in all danger attempt different drugs.you could desire to get him into counseling too.additionally ,church is a sturdy place for him to make NEW pals.He does not get to verify his previous ones anymore till they circulate to church with you.attempt the United Pentecostal churches.a number of the preachers are ex druggies and characteristic powerfull memories additionally, they have a software basically for drug consumers.I overlook the call of it, yet you could ask the pastor.
2016-10-09 09:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..i am 14 years old and im a gurl but to 2 be honest its realli annoying when mom and dad try 2 step in and help us pick our friends.very srry ur son is sad but in fact he mite actually have a best friend..mayb its u?!?!
2007-10-17 02:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well what will you do? find him a friend? its mothers nature to get worried but i really don't think you be any help in this...he'll find someone soon i mean he's only 15...he'll meet someone who he can relate with; there's no reason to get all down over this...
2007-10-17 02:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by crazykiaray23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to volunteer at church or others stuff new hobby's etc...
In life we can't depend on others all the time.
2007-10-17 04:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stay out of it. let your son come to you.
2007-10-17 02:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋