I am divorced person.I got marraige on just three years ago and having one daughter aged Two.After marraige,my Ex-wife always gone to her parents house and stayed with them.Whenever I called her to live with me or stay with me,she began to blame me that I am lazy,I am not worth to earn money to run the family.Still she talk about me that I am the liar,towards her relations and family.Her parents also supporting their daughter and says that they are not ready to sent her daughter to live with me.I have waited for her along past two years,and tried many way to compramise her,but all in vain.I have filed case at court to make her to live with me.But she is not ready to live with me.But another point is,If I talk to her means,She will not hesistate,and talk with me as lovable person.At last I have appealed for divorce,she also accept it,
ready to give a divorce .I got disappointed in my marraige life.If I set my mind towards in alternative way I Can't.Please make my vision in right way.
2007-10-17 02:46:18 · 7 answers · asked by madawin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you've dodged a bullet. Basically you'd think that you'd be in love if you got married, but she can in no way love you to do this. I take it English isn't your first language, and probably it's not hers too, as this would be too weird a situation to happen in a typical western relationship.
Next time get married for love.
2007-10-17 03:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have your own issues such as a problem holding down a job or any addictions problems then you first need to work on yourself. You mentioned that she said you are not worth earning money to support a family. You didn't specify what she meant exactly. Money is an important security factor for us females. But while saying this, most women respect a man as long as he puts in a full 40 hours a week and always shows up. While I know good jobs are difficult to find nowdays even if it is a low paying job...as long as you do this most women will respect that in a man despite what his wage is. Your wife may feel more secure at her parents as she knows she is taken care of. No court in the country can make ANYONE (other than a minor child) live with you even if you are married. Divorce is very difficult, I know as I'm currently divorcing my husband after 11yrs. Even letting go of really bad relationships is painful. In fact divorce is rated as more stressful than the death of a loved one. Give yourself plenty of time to grieve for your loss. It can be a long and painful process, the first six months are the worst. But use this time to force to better yourself and work on any improvements you need to make you a better person. Not for her, but yourself. Do not get involved too quickly in a new relationship...even though I know for men this can be extremely tempting since you are at a low and vulerable state. But when you feel you are ready make sure to do it slowly and start out as friends first. Hold off on the sex as long as humanly possible. It makes a better relationship in the future. Good luck and always know that there is someone out there just for you. All people basically want the same things in life to feel loved and wanted and valuable to someone else so if you start as compatable friends first and always treat your partner right you will be on the right track to a fullfilling and happy relationship in the future. Also no matter what your feeling are for your ex always make sure to remain a constant in your childs life. It isn't their fault.
2007-10-17 10:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to accept the fact that she was not emotionally able to leave her parents and be a wife so now you have to tell yourself that what she does is something you can't control and look for someone else who does not listen to her parents instead of her husband. they are possibly the ones who have convinced her that you do not make enough money. If you look around and don't get into another relationship too fast, you will find the right person and have a happy marriage with someone else, and if the day ever comes when she wants you back, you can be the one to tell her to go back to her parents. Good Luck in the future.
2007-10-17 10:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are going to feel as you do about marriage, you were greatly disappointed. In time these feelings will fade and you will once again have hope and trust in marriage. Sometimes it is who a person marries that make the difference. It does appear as if you married a girl who is somewhat immature and still too attached to her parents. A mature grown woman would have known that her first obligation should be towards her husband. You picked the wrong girl to marry, this does not mean that one day you will not be able to be happy with someone who is ready to commit and have the same goals and values when it comes to marriage. I know you will one day find that girl. Best of luck to you!
2007-10-17 10:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn;t want you and rather be with her parents. Accept this and move on.
Soon you will find someone that will love u and accept you for who you are.
I'm sorry
2007-10-17 09:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad you're not willing to deal with that crap anymore, that's enough to drive a person half insane.
2007-10-17 09:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, find someone else
2007-10-17 10:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by davey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋