Hi, I am a 30 Yr + normal person living in HK. I have a steady BF. We got along fine but he is more adventerous in bed than I am. Recently he stopped taking any interested in me. I found that he is seeing a fillipina in his office. She is 20 yrs old. I confronted her. She said that she is married, her husband works in Saudi Arabia, and she is only trying to supplement her income. She will leave my BF the day she finds a richer man. Meanwhile, she is giving my man everything he has wanted in bed but I am not willing to provide. Blowjobs, coming in mouth, applying chocolate syrup on the body and then wiping it clean, handcuff. They even videotape their sessions!!! I am concerned about my BF. I can forgive him if he forgets this slut immediately and emerges clean from a medical checkup. But I don't think I can ever match this girl in her actions. My man is a good one at heart and I can tolerate his mistake. But how to ensure that I can retain him for good? Anyone with similar experience?
2007-10-17 05:19:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend should consider himself lucky to have such an understanding girlfriend who is able to forgive him after all his nonsense with this other woman.
However, I'm afraid the only way you are going to be able to keep him as "yours and yours alone" is if you are willing to do a better job of catering to his sexual needs. Sex is a big part of a relationship for guys. I know you think some of the stuff he likes to do in bed is silly, or wierd, but that is what he likes to do and he is probably not going to make any major changes in his lifestyle. At least try to meet him half way; see if you can try out some of the more "tame" things, and keep in mind, lots of people do this stuff, so don't feel you're some kind of pervert or something for trying to please him in bed.
Sex with men: it's a dirty job, but somebody's got to do it!
2007-10-17 05:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This might not happen if you have given him what he wanted all along. You should have not waited the other girl to let him enjoyed the fun he was looking in sex, afterall.
Leave him. Don't be stupid to accept him. If he really loves you, he won't dare to be with the other girl. Remember sex is one of the most important part of a relationship. Maybe, it is his choice to be with that girl. Despite the fact the she is already married.
There are more good men out there who could reciporate the love and care that you could offer. Don't waste your time for a man whom you are not even sure if is willing to be with you after his sexual pleasure with another woman.
2007-10-17 05:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by katkat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do your relationship is doomed. If your boyfriend loved you he would never have slept with this whore. There's no way to recover from this, you will never forget this, and you're foolish to forgive this guy. I don't know which is the bigger problem here; your boyfriend's unfaithfulness, or your self esteem. For some reason you are choosing to tolerate the intolerable, and you have become a person who is willing to accept crumbs in a relationship. Until you fix those problems with yourself, you are always going to be mistreated in a relationship.
2007-10-17 05:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by mt75689 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all can I ask what is your nationality? ahh what can I say you must ask your Bf a bout it talk to him. Well I do not know I guess you can not take a legal action because he is just you bf. It is really hard either way you must con vice one of this two. Woman like that are really hard to beat because they do not care about what other people will tell, In the Philippines there are lot of cases like that and even if you can take legal action it is really hard ceased, Wives still feel miserable. FYI I am a Filipina.
2007-10-17 05:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by shibereta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen,
Obviously, you need to find someone more suited for you sexually and otherwise. Besides the fact that this guy is a crud who cheats and doesn't properly end things with you cleanly before starting up another relationship is a huge red flag. You can tolerate this mistake? Well, obviously, he will have little respect for you if you take him back. Move on.
2007-10-17 11:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rogue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join a convent and forget about your ex...he's been driven to the "Dark Side" and probably has no intention of coming back to 'dry White toast' again!!! You might learn a valuable lesson from this episode of your life: Men can live with boring in bed, so long as you're open-minded about their exploits with other women; being both boring AND closed-minded about your shortcomings is a death sentence!
2007-10-17 05:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if that bothers u i think u should actually find urself another man, some1 who u r compatible with. i m pretty sure that even if u start pleasing ur man and doing as he asks u, makes u his sexual slave.... i really really really doubt that he will just stay with u... he will most likely keep doing it with other girls... he already tasted it... if he continues doing it... is because he likes it... so what on earth makes u think he'll stop??? ur man needs 2 find some1 who is willing 2 do same things as he is... like the fillipina girl... and u need 2 find some1 who u have more commong things with.... u should really start respecting urself.. if u don't... neither ur man or any1 will really respect u... and u know what? u really sound very inmature for a 30+ woman... i m sorry but seriously, what wre u confromting the woman for.. do u have a relationship with her? is she ur man?... NO i don't think so... it's ur "lovely" man whou u should be upset with...even if she tried 2 be with him... i really really really doubt that he woulda done anything with her if he really loved u... so respect urself and find some1 else...
2007-10-17 05:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to live in HK. There are so many people, why do you have to keep this one? He is cheating now, he will keep cheating even if she leaves him. I wouldn't even try to do anything with him, if I were you. He might have STD, and that chick has a husband, she is a cheap skank. Don't you think you deserve someone better?
2007-10-17 05:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Carborane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Compatibility in bed is an important part of a relationship as well if you are unable to satisfy him sexually chances are he will stray again. Best bet is to just find someone else who doesn't mind the missionary position all the time.
2007-10-17 05:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Die S 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you aren't willing to try these things, he is going to keep finding someone that will.
2007-10-17 06:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋