Family & Relationships - 30 September 2007

2007-09-30 08:07:48 · 25 answers · asked by misty p 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-30 08:07:18 · 7 answers · asked by nasreen 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My dad was an alcoholic when I was younger. After my mom took years of emotional abuse she filed for divorce. My dad had custody of me on weekends...he'd either call to cancel cuz he was drinkin...or he just wouldnt show up. After years of having nothing to do w/ him..I found out he has diabetes..pretty badly too..he wrote me a letter months ago blaming me for a lot of stuff...i wrote him one back tellin him how much he had hurt me through the years...he never wrote back..for the 1st time in years this past december we got together...unfortunately for my grandma's funeral...we talked for awhile...I want so badly to have him in my life again, but at the same time something is holding me back. I feel as if he abandoned me for so long he shouldnt get to know the person i've become...after all who i've become is no thanks to him..however, he is very sick n i wouldnt want him dyin thinkin that his daughter hated him...please help....

2007-09-30 08:06:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

If somebody steals or attempts to steal your spouse or close one away from you, what should you do if this spouse or gf will not listen to you after fighting for her, and goes with the other person who is trying to steal her away from you? Should you seek revenge, or just let go and let karma do it's job?

2007-09-30 08:06:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wedding is skeduled for the second week of october, and I can not get my birth certificate!I was born at Saint Mary's hospital in Hoboken N.J. and now i live in Puerto Rico...I tried vitalorg.com and reg mail with a money order -and nothing yet! I am going nuts! Everithing is payed for... but withought it there will be no wedding!!! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!

2007-09-30 08:04:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

however, my wife is very passive with them. Both her mother and sister get away with bossing her around and making my wife do all the birthday and family crap that involves them.
Although, I have to admitt it's gotten better over the years, but it still happens at least once a month.

They also call on me for everything they need. Fixing cars, toilets, sinks, ceiling fans, landscaping , etc. ...

The other night, my mother-in-law rose her voice at me because I was running late taking my son to Cub Scouts, and the mother-in-law was there to watch my two year old daughter.
My two year old cries when my son and I leave for scouts without her ( she is a huge distraction at the den meetings).
But last meeting both my son and I were running late, and my mother-in-law was pissed off because she had taken my daughter out, and when they came home we still hadn't left.
My wife's mother yelled, "WHY HAVEN'T YOU LEFT YET, I D0N'T WANT TO HAVE TO HEAR HER CRYING"!

2007-09-30 07:58:12 · 5 answers · asked by BIGDAWG 4 in Family

A friend of mine came to stay with me the other day because she ended her relationship with her live in bf after she found a girl's phone number in his wallet. when she asked him about it, he denied it and when she laid down the proof, he got mad at her for snooping and she decided to leave him because of his lying. he keeps calling her and coming by my home trying to win her back. its my understanding that he hasnt done anything with that girl, and my friend believs him as well but the lying is what is ticking her off. anyways, my other lady friend (seeing how he begged and apologized) told her to give this man another chance, but to just watch out for herself by starting to do the same thing as he was doing (going out with other men and stuff). i say that is trouble waiting to happen, and i suggested that she either take him back and let him prove his loyality to her, or just end it if she cant seem to trust him any longer. what would you do, and would be ur suggestion to her?

2007-09-30 07:57:54 · 18 answers · asked by mama2be 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I dated a guy for about 6 months, but we were good friends for about 11 months before we started seeing eachother romatically. After 6 months we drifted apart because he lost his job and sort of cut me (and everyone) out his life while he was looking for a new job. It took him 5 months to find a job in his field. All the time he was looking, I always let him know that I am here for him even htough he rarely called me anymore. I always sent him a card, or interview clothes, or lottery tix (lol) and nice phone calls, but he didn't really acknowledge any of them, which I blamed on him being a little depressed, so I brushed it off.

Now he has a job that he is doing well in finacially and he satred to come around. And then poof, I called him once and told him how crazy I am about him and he didn't call me back for 2 weeks.

I left him a VM last week - l said I won't pursue him anymore, that I know he could care less about me.

He hasn't called me back. I guess I was right?

2007-09-30 07:51:47 · 15 answers · asked by sephia 1 in Singles & Dating

I was watching this couple on TV who have been married for 25 years - they were dating for 4 years before they were married. They were giving a younger couple advice about it and some of things they said touched me:

- the husband said in order to love someone, you have to love yourself and you have to LOVE and accept the partner's "negative/weak" qualities FIRST before loving the "positive/strengths" so then you will love the person more. He said girls will be moody sometimes and he learned to love and accept it and vice versa

- Always stay positive, never give up on yourself and on your partner - DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT OTHERS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT YOU TWO "who cares?" - even when there are problems, (financially, situational, etc...) always stay strong and say, "it's okay, everything's going to be okay.."
- THINGS change, PEOPLE change but when the two of you can grow as individuals (do your own thing) but still be there for each other, it's a good thing (CAN SOMEONE ADD ON MORE TO THIS, I'd love to learn more)

WHAT DO YOU THINK? TRUE? CAN YOU GUYS ADD MORE? I APPRECIATE ALL THE WISDOM :)

2007-09-30 07:48:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My bf and I had been together for 11 years and were engaged.... We broke up a few weeks ago.... We were having a lot of problems.... He was the one that wanted the break-up more so than me.... I have done a lot of thinking and don't want to lose him.... I want to be w/ him for thr rest of my life.... I feel our problems/issues can be worked through and we could really be happy again.... When we first broke up he was really leaning toward making things work and getting back together.... We spoke today and he really feels like it is over now.... He wants his freedom and has been going out and having fun.... I have been doing the same but I believe will wear off quickly and the love we have is so real.... BTW I am 26 and he's 28.... So it's natural to feel that way as we're young.... Will he get bored when the excitement of partying wears off and come back.... ? He says he feels like a caged bird who needs to fly..... Please help guide me.... I want him back so badly.... !

2007-09-30 07:48:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I recently lost my virginity and I try to enjoy sex as much as possible. My problem is that I don't know how to move when he is on top of me and vice versa. He is always pleasuring me and I don't know how to pleasure him. Any tips or advice?

2007-09-30 07:47:38 · 11 answers · asked by angelbabe_49 2 in Singles & Dating

My man left at 8pm last night to "go for a drink" but he'd be "right back". It is now 1:45pm the next day here and he comes waltzing in with the nerve to ask me for money so he could go out to watch football. He said I can't take away his time and his football. Seems to me being out from 8pm last night and all night and now this afternoon is enough time away when you have a family with kids!? I told him no money and then he was like screw you and walked out again. What is going on?

2007-09-30 07:47:29 · 13 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We have gone to the next level..(see previous posts).

My gf 24 would likeus as a couple to play on cam for total strangers and sometimes mates...

Would you consider this....What was the outcome..

Martyn

2007-09-30 07:45:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have 2 or 3 days off a month 2gether. I just really want to spend time with him.On Friday, we did a couple of things and he gave me my birthday gift. He got me an expensive purse. It was nice but I prefer 2 pay our bills before spending like that. I have told him that the best part of his gifts are the cards,as I can read what he is unable to say.Saturday was my actual birthday and I had to work. His job asked him to come in for a bit and he agreed.He said he would be back by 12. I told him I was looking forward 2 spending at least 30 min 2gether on my birthday.He didn't come home until I had left for work.He then went to his buddy's house and played video games for 9 hrs. He text me 1 time to say sorry for going in to work.This really hurt me.He was 2 busy playing games to go get a card.He said I was an ungrateful B*****. He mentioned burning my purse and a divorce.He always threatens that when he's mad. I feel like I am not a priority. His stuff added 2 my bad day

2007-09-30 07:42:56 · 15 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My hubby is constantly 5-6 days a week going out after work for hours and hours. This Friday night he was out until 3:00AM then went out last night and never came home yet. I am still waiting for him! The best part he took my car and I am stuck at home because he has the only keys to his car also! He is not interested in sex anymore. He never eats at home anymore. I make meals and wait and wait and they just get thrown out. We have a young child who I take care of all the time. I am lonely and tired of things. He is almost 40 years old and acting like a college kid! All of the guys he hangs with are divorced or single..what does that say too? Do all men do this?

2007-09-30 07:40:03 · 26 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-09-30 07:39:42 · 13 answers · asked by ÌÆÍò´º 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm really curious, does anyone actually believe this?? I mean, I have read it given as a reason over and over and over and once upon a time believed it as a reason. Then I see my cousin-in law go 7 years and 2 children and then they got married, and I know others, just don't know specific details. Do you believe in this old addage, or do you think it has passed on with time?

2007-09-30 07:37:49 · 28 answers · asked by ocean's mommy 4 in Weddings

I don't like my husband looking at internet porn on his own. Please bear with me. I am not a prude, in fact far from it. We are swingers and enjoy doing this occasionally with other couples or single males or females. We belong to a swingers site (with members photos)and I have no objection to him looking at this site when he's alone. We also have a good and frequent sex life when we are alone. We are both 50 by the way. My previous husband was totally wrapped up in porn and I think this is where my dislike/phobia/fear or whatever it is lies, but I can't get over it. I can't dismiss it. I have offered to look at it with him but so far he has not taken me up on it. We had a big upset earlier in the year and he promised he would not do it again. I fear he is as often when I have been out for a long while the history on pc is deleted, and its not at any other time. If he IS looking at it again, then I feel so defeated because he is lying and deceiving me. What would you do if you were me?

2007-09-30 07:36:23 · 8 answers · asked by Caroline 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I was having a few drinks the other night with a really good cousin of mine. We were talking about our relationships. Somewhere in the conversation I found myself talking about the unhappy aspects of my relationship and was like wait a minute...I know or have heard of people that are going through similar situations and I have advised them on what they should do...

Point is, why aren't I following my own advice LOL

It seems so easy for us to give advice, it's like you know what the right thing to do is, but when it comes down to you...I guess you can call it being stubborn? Not wanting to see the truth?

Does anyone else out there feel the same?

Real quick summary. I'm basically starting to think about my future, I need to start putting into action what I want, yet the one thing I feel holds me back, I've tried to talk to with my partner and get no where. I have this strong feeling that I can change him, and that's what I'm waiting to see.

2007-09-30 07:33:23 · 7 answers · asked by artsygal_cc86 3 in Friends

Soo... I have always sed that i wuldnt go out wid mi mates ex as that is betraying them but then now i reli reli reli like my mtes ex and im trying to resist going out wid im but i like him i no how this feels to be betryed as it has happened to me with my first love tis not nice but they arnt even friends no more but i wuldnt no how to tell my mate.

2007-09-30 07:31:39 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

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2007-09-30 07:31:39 · 7 answers · asked by mimi26 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife and I have a 14 month-old daughter who we named to honor both of our mothers. We used my mother in law’s nickname, used mainly at work, as our daughter’s first name and a version of my mother’s first name as her middle name. We told everybody our name selection prior to the birth and everything seemed fine until I called my mother to announce our daughter’s birth. That’s when she started raising the biggest stink about how we showed favoritism towards the other grandmother by naming our daughter this way. We refused to change our name choice but agreed that my parents can call her by any nickname they like. The catch is that they insist that everybody else call her that nickname before they start using it themselves. Of course everybody calls our daughter by the name we chose, so for the past 14 months they haven’t called her any name at all, just referring to her with pronouns.
What are your thoughts about this behavior and ideas on how to settle this dispute?

2007-09-30 07:31:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-30 07:30:42 · 24 answers · asked by redspice1955 1 in Weddings

Ok I am 22 yo female, Me and my wife got married Aug 1st of this year.... She know's alot about my past, I was raped by my cousin, it started at a really young age.. She knows this. But there are somethings that I am not telling her about it. And I feel like I need too.... Should I? I do love her, and I want too be able too open up too her all the way!!!! Yes I know being raped is not my fault, but it makes me feel so bad everytime I try to talk about it.... I am just worried that she is going to feel diff towards me after I tell her everything!!!!!! HELP PLZ!!!!!!

2007-09-30 07:30:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and myself our both widowers, we just got married and now we are having a hard time getting along. He never says no to his kids and they disrespect him all the time, when I get tired of it I let him know and he then gets very mad at me and says very mean things to me and tells me it is no big deal about the way they talk to him, and that he trust them and it is okay for them to run around all night (15yrs old) and hang out with anyone anytime they want. If I keep my mouth shut and stay to myself then the only unhappy person is me. But sometimes I have to say wait a minute this is not right and all hell breaks loose. I have not spoken to my husband in three days, he does not seem to want to fix the problem or go to counseling. I put everything into this marriage to make it work, he thinks everything is fine and I need to keep it to myself

2007-09-30 07:29:36 · 11 answers · asked by catrat 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I dated this guy for three years, he's married. He's only been married three years. I got a divorce over him because he said he would do the same thing. Obviously he has not. We broke up on Friday and now he has a myspace account stating he is single. He's already looking for some one new. I should I tell his wife? I really would love to make him hurt like he hurt me. I also want a classy style revenge, if there is that type of thing!!!

2007-09-30 07:26:24 · 35 answers · asked by Nadie0822 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I was at his house and he gave me this drink it said on its "tropical Japanese Beer" i saw the word "beer" on it and i knew it was achoal and illegal because i am underage (15) i poured the drink in the sink and this white foam came out (like beer) and i said uncle this is beer he said no no all pop drinks do that.. i was like okay.. and i drank it. at first i didnt feel anything but i my stomach it came like this hot burning feeling. Was this an alchoal or a typical drink? Also my cousin (9) drinks it all the time. I pride myself on never doing sex/drink/smoke/drugs/steal i will be terrified if this was alchoal.

2007-09-30 07:23:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My husband of 7 years is no longer the same affectionate love magnet that he was when we were dating. I have tried role play, pornos, spontaneism! I am still very interested in my husband and I tell and show him that a lot. I have discussed it several times that I am in need, and that I am yearning for his affection and would enjoy having a more active sex life. He has recently told me that he was not motivated however, he love me so he is trying. He also stated that I need him for everything and sometimes he thinks I put too many eggs in one basket and feels I should socialize and talk with another confidante. My husband to me is a hypocrite because he says he wants to work on it and is not a quiter and that I am the quiter and that our relationship is not just about sex! He also stated he enjoys sex, "Oh I love sex he says"! So then why aren't we having it more often. Why most I force sex upon him which sometimes works out and sometimes he doesn't last for more than 10 minutes!

2007-09-30 07:22:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was talking to a lady the other day, and we were talking about marriage (not me and her, but just in general).
She said; "if you want to know how good a wife is, look at her husband, if he is happy and smiling then you know she is a good wife." She said it also works both ways.
The guy who she is married to seems extremly happy all the time and says she is fantastic in all aspects of their relationship.
What do you think?

2007-09-30 07:19:33 · 21 answers · asked by ? 5 in Marriage & Divorce

What profession?
a.Child psychiatrist [psychiatrist for children]
b.Dermatolodist [doctor for skin diseases]
c.pedologist [doctor for children]
d.gynecologist [doctor for woman]

Details:
i'd like to:
A. be something that it can be useful when i am volunteering.[if i study plastic surgery it won't be useful in africa population].
B. give me oportunities to continue my studies [for a master as an example]
C. open me doors to other kind of enviroments, not only to hospitals. [ i'd like to work in a magazine for a medical article or as a researcher in a cosmetic company for tests or something like that]

Please i need your help. thanks.

2007-09-30 07:18:14 · 19 answers · asked by kittana! 2 in Singles & Dating