My husband of 7 years is no longer the same affectionate love magnet that he was when we were dating. I have tried role play, pornos, spontaneism! I am still very interested in my husband and I tell and show him that a lot. I have discussed it several times that I am in need, and that I am yearning for his affection and would enjoy having a more active sex life. He has recently told me that he was not motivated however, he love me so he is trying. He also stated that I need him for everything and sometimes he thinks I put too many eggs in one basket and feels I should socialize and talk with another confidante. My husband to me is a hypocrite because he says he wants to work on it and is not a quiter and that I am the quiter and that our relationship is not just about sex! He also stated he enjoys sex, "Oh I love sex he says"! So then why aren't we having it more often. Why most I force sex upon him which sometimes works out and sometimes he doesn't last for more than 10 minutes!
2007-09-30 07:22:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hes flaking out somewhere, maybe hes cheating on you.
2007-09-30 07:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you are too clingy and needy. He is too sure about you. You need to turn the tables on him, use reverse tactics. You don't have to be mean, just become distant and unconcerned. Don't call after him, don't look for him, when he comes home hardly even notice. Find something else to do. If you are strong and can hold out long enough, he will come around to find out why you are not insecure anymore. He will become the insecure one. So be strong, you can do it. Don't ask for sex either. You need to put some mystery into the mix.
This works if you can hold out. Give it a try.
2007-09-30 14:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you can ask another guy that you know to talk to him - to motivate him and ask him tough questions. That is, if there's anyone in his life that he looks up to or is a good example. Don't let him know you're behind it though.
I don't know if you're a Christian or not - but we're not supposed to find all of our fulfillment in our husbands. God put a void there that only He can fill. And if you can somehow get your focus on Him, it might change your viewpoint of your husband and he'll break through this.
2007-10-04 14:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by missbede 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years is a significant period of time to be married. Maybe he is just experiencing a bit of boredom, in bed and in the relationship. A good couples therapist should be able to assist you with that situation.
2007-09-30 14:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,, maybe he smokes too much and needs exercise, this happens, take him out for walks, if he won't do it , I'll go with you .
2007-09-30 14:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE COULD BE SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION.. ALOT OF PEOPLE DON'T EVEN KNOW THAT THEY ARE DEPRESSED... I WISH I COULD TELL YOU WHAT YOU SHOULD DO.. GO WITH YOUR HEART ON THIS...
2007-09-30 14:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by wenwen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋