I was having a few drinks the other night with a really good cousin of mine. We were talking about our relationships. Somewhere in the conversation I found myself talking about the unhappy aspects of my relationship and was like wait a minute...I know or have heard of people that are going through similar situations and I have advised them on what they should do...
Point is, why aren't I following my own advice LOL
It seems so easy for us to give advice, it's like you know what the right thing to do is, but when it comes down to you...I guess you can call it being stubborn? Not wanting to see the truth?
Does anyone else out there feel the same?
Real quick summary. I'm basically starting to think about my future, I need to start putting into action what I want, yet the one thing I feel holds me back, I've tried to talk to with my partner and get no where. I have this strong feeling that I can change him, and that's what I'm waiting to see.
2007-09-30 07:33:23 · 7 answers · asked by artsygal_cc86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As far as my situation. It's a lot more complicated then what it sounds...aren't all relationship situations like that?
I'm just trying to point out how it is that we are so willing to help anyone...put them before us...and we can't always do the same for ourselves. That's the focus on this post! Please no lectures on my situation hehe...I know what I have to do...I think :P
2007-09-30 07:35:05 · update #1
it's simple, you do help others because you don't want them to experience the pain that you had, bad experiences you had
your such a good person, don't be eaten out by your fears and probs because almost everyone you've adviced listens to you and stand because of you, if you fall, they might fall too
you can definitely change someone for good, but don't change for them for bad
2007-09-30 07:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by jet09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol--- well as you know relationships can be very complicated. One person can not change another. I have thought the same thing about myself when i have been hurt or feel really bad about something and i ask that question that i should be able to answer myself. The only thing i can say is there are times when we need to hear other peoples thoughts on the subject.
2007-09-30 07:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to automatically see ourselves as virtuous and good and others as flawed and not so good. Everybody does it to a certain extent.
As far as your future, I keep a list of goals I want to achieve and another list of rules or principles I want to live by. I've been doing this for well over ten years, and it helps me stay focused on what I want out of life. When I'm depressed or feeling stuck or confused, going over what is really important to me and what I want gets me back on track.
2007-09-30 07:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 07:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but it's the truth.
2007-09-30 07:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit Dancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is - because you are lier and a hypocrit.
2007-09-30 07:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by radharani 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
holla back at ya!! i totally feel u babe ;b
2007-09-30 07:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋