I dated this guy for three years, he's married. He's only been married three years. I got a divorce over him because he said he would do the same thing. Obviously he has not. We broke up on Friday and now he has a myspace account stating he is single. He's already looking for some one new. I should I tell his wife? I really would love to make him hurt like he hurt me. I also want a classy style revenge, if there is that type of thing!!!
2007-09-30 07:26:24 · 35 answers · asked by Nadie0822 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you shouldnt.
The wife will not believe you anyway..appearantly she is already in denile...or has her head buried in the sand.
Havent you done enough damage ?
2007-09-30 07:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Did you tell your husband that you were cheating and decided to divorce him for someone else? If you didnt then you should have then. Never give up something for nothing.
Also yes you should tell his wife, and be woman enough to say what you did. You were wrong to continue a relationship for 3 years, knowing he was married. Did you think he didnt touch his wife or anyone else during that time. You're being vengeful, when you should actually be truthful. Send her a letter and let her know he's cheating and has cheated with you. Revenge is never classy, but honesty always is.
Honeybee (hilarious), Tannanne (definately agree), Pappysgotit, & BryanMcCarey, you guys could never be more right.
2007-09-30 07:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Beautifully Disigned 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you can live with the fact you will hurt her more than anyone can be hurt in life. She may already know what type of man he is, but I surely wouldn't wish to be the one to break the news to her, if she doesn't. It will devistate her and bring her more pain than you can imagine. She has done nothing to you, but you, on the other hand, have contributed to the breakdown of her marriage by having a longterm affair with her husband. Leave them both alone and please realize that there was no future with someone like him; be glad he is out of your life. You need to do nothing to see revenge take place; he will 'get his' in time without your help. You went into the affair with your eyes wide open; knowing he was married and a cheater; what did you expect? He is poison and will only hurt any woman in his path; pick up the pieces and start a wonderful new life without him - that is all the revenge you need.
2007-09-30 07:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is, see if she is cheating. The chances are she has known for a while and is taking her revenge. If she is not then set her up with a friend. Get something going between the wife and the friend. This way she will be less likely to murder the both of you when she finds out anyway.
Seriously, don't tell her. She has probably put up with enough of this guys crap and ethically should be dumped on by you of all people. GET THE POINT.
2007-09-30 07:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that you should of never gotten involved because you were married and so was he. That said this guy is a prick for cheating on his wife but he is not looking for a new wife he has one of those he is looking for something out of his marriage to get his rocks off. You want to tell his wife so you hurt a whole family because he lied to you and now is looking for someone new....Maybe you should just let it be and move on with your life, he will be caught eventually.
2007-09-30 07:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing classy about telling his wife. It only makes you look like the scorned woman. He's a player and his poor wife, if she really wants to know, will find out without your intervention.
2007-09-30 08:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you will hurt his wife, but will that really make you feel better. You were wrong and now it is coming back on you. Deal with your demons and move on with your life. Because he has. Learn from what has happen and grow from it. Getting him back will make it worse for you..... trust me!
It really will not make you feel any better. He will probably tell his wife that you are crazy ect and they will still be together. Just leave it along and let his demons catch up with him. Nothing done in the dark stays in the dark.
2007-09-30 07:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by Rejeana L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think revenge would be a bad thing.I too have been in the same thing its not good to tell the wife it only makes things worse.and for the thing of you getting a divorce you were not happy or you wouldnt have been with this man.the best thing for you to do is just try to move on,it will be hard but it will be ok.GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-30 07:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely tell his wife. She deserves to know - and he's being a creep putting up a myspace stating he's single. Do it for her sake - she needs to know the truth!
2007-10-04 07:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by missbede 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were conned, plain and simple. Since it was your fault in the begining for cheating on your husband and dating a married man, I would say to chaulk it up to a learning experience and move on. By contacting his wife, you will just be setting yourself up for an even worse reputation once this woman spreads the news about you all over your town.
2007-09-30 07:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, she needs to know about this rogue of a husband as he hasn't just cheated once - but is continuining to do it.
Remember though - she IS going to be hurt. Remember too, the messenger often gets shot in the foot.
On Oprah they once agreed that women should tell - I did it the next day and wow, did I have to suffer the consequences. As long as you are prepared for that, go ahead and get a classy victory on the so and so!
2007-09-30 07:31:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋