Ok I am 22 yo female, Me and my wife got married Aug 1st of this year.... She know's alot about my past, I was raped by my cousin, it started at a really young age.. She knows this. But there are somethings that I am not telling her about it. And I feel like I need too.... Should I? I do love her, and I want too be able too open up too her all the way!!!! Yes I know being raped is not my fault, but it makes me feel so bad everytime I try to talk about it.... I am just worried that she is going to feel diff towards me after I tell her everything!!!!!! HELP PLZ!!!!!!
2007-09-30 07:30:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes I am married too a girl, shes intersexed.... aND ABOUT THIS ALL BEING BS.. Well you have the right too think what you want too think, I cant make you think like I want you too.... But really if someones going to say something plz be nice.... I really need too know what too do...
2007-09-30 07:54:56 · update #1
yes I am married too a girl, shes intersexed.... aND ABOUT THIS ALL BEING BS.. Well you have the right too think what you want too think, I cant make you think like I want you too.... But really if someones going to say something plz be nice.... I really need too know what too do...
2007-09-30 07:55:31 · update #2
Being honest is the most important part of trust. You need to address this as soon as possible. If they find out from another source, it will begin to build distrust in the relationship that you are having.
If someone truly loves you they will be forgiving and supportive.
2007-09-30 07:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Seeking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly can only imagine what your going through. She is your wife and when you married her you committed yourself to her. That means you talk about everything on your mind so that there is a complete understanding about each other in the relationship.
I would tell her that it has been bothering you and you just needed to tell someone, and who better yet then her your wife. It's better then letting it just sit inside of you and make you feel this way. Just open up to her :)
best wishes
cc
2007-09-30 14:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by artsygal_cc86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already married you, she will only love you more for having trusted her with your most deepest and most painful hurts. Explain that you were afraid of her feeling differently about her, and how these painful truths you hold about your past affect you and your ability to trust. Remember, you got married out of the love you had for one another .
2007-09-30 14:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by dingydarla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? Wife? Oh, ok, I understand. Anyway, tell her what you thinnk she should know.
Expect understanding and hugs in return. That's what love is all about right?
2007-09-30 14:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do I think that this question is completely loaded with BS?
2007-09-30 14:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a female you can't have a wife. Marriage is only for man and woman. Sorry.
2007-09-30 14:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
all you can do is come clean and hope it works out, if it doesnt you pick yourself up and try and move on.
2007-09-30 15:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Nessaja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jump in with both feet and just talk
2007-09-30 14:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! well u can just approach her and tell she probably will understand
2007-09-30 14:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh? are you the wife or the husband? do you even know?
2007-09-30 14:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋