I don't like my husband looking at internet porn on his own. Please bear with me. I am not a prude, in fact far from it. We are swingers and enjoy doing this occasionally with other couples or single males or females. We belong to a swingers site (with members photos)and I have no objection to him looking at this site when he's alone. We also have a good and frequent sex life when we are alone. We are both 50 by the way. My previous husband was totally wrapped up in porn and I think this is where my dislike/phobia/fear or whatever it is lies, but I can't get over it. I can't dismiss it. I have offered to look at it with him but so far he has not taken me up on it. We had a big upset earlier in the year and he promised he would not do it again. I fear he is as often when I have been out for a long while the history on pc is deleted, and its not at any other time. If he IS looking at it again, then I feel so defeated because he is lying and deceiving me. What would you do if you were me?
2007-09-30 07:36:23 · 8 answers · asked by Caroline 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nasreen, I know it doesnt make any sense, but I explained I have a phobia. Now he knows this but still continues.... so that's what I want to know, what should I do?
2007-09-30 07:45:05 · update #1
You can either live with his addiction or you can leave the relationship.
2007-09-30 10:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you should do. GET OVER IT. You have allowed your husband to not only be involved in swinging, but looking at other sites. You can't go half the distance, and expect him not to want to go allittle further. At least he's not meeting real girls without you. Ok so you have a phobia, well then you shouldn't have started swinging. What were you thinking? Is this your way of keeping him around? I think you need to either stop swinging, and looking at swinger site with him, or just allow him to have a quick peek at other things. Sometimes my husband likes to go to strip clubs, and look at porn sites, and sometime I get upset. I have since gotten over it because, he's going to do it whether I like it or not. I'm not coming down on you at all, just enjoy as much time with your husband as you can, and go on some of the sites yourself. what will it hurt. If he can do it then why not give it a try yourself. Good Luck
2007-09-30 15:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't blame your new husband for your old husbands crime. Otherwise climb the pole and disconnect the internet when you leave home. Just be like i don't know whats wrong with the computer...lol. Do you ever look at porn without him? Or swing without him? I am having a hard time understanding why you would even care if you both swing anyway. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-09-30 14:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying, it happened to me too, nor am I a prude, it was like some other women came into my house and wouldn't leave, she was there 24/7 with him he was not with his family, but the porn meant more to him than my daughter and I, for me it was the last straw for me, after 30 years, I said screw it. In my case it was a ton of things he did to me, but the porn going on for 10 years,.... nope,..I wouldn't put up with this any more, I said I'd cut the cords on the computer, he really didn't care. I was told by him to mind my own busness He wouldn't seek help, so I found a lawyer.
2007-09-30 14:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that your husband is yet not fully satisfied with you, you should try and have a over dose of intimate relation with him.such repeated attempts will make him turn away from watching internet porn
2007-09-30 14:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by Vinor_pan1942 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Option 1:
You surf porn sites and start making suggestions about "good or weird sites"!
Option 2:
Make it clear to him that he is free to watch porn, only when you are with him.
2007-09-30 14:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
50 yrs old, swinging, your fotos on internet...multiple couple sex.....
and you dont want him to watch porn?
dont make any sense,,
sarah i'm not married, so forgive me if i'm rude
but your life style sux.
2007-09-30 14:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by nasreen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you get more sleep!
2007-09-30 14:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋