Soo... I have always sed that i wuldnt go out wid mi mates ex as that is betraying them but then now i reli reli reli like my mtes ex and im trying to resist going out wid im but i like him i no how this feels to be betryed as it has happened to me with my first love tis not nice but they arnt even friends no more but i wuldnt no how to tell my mate.
2007-09-30 07:31:39 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you know what I think? Be honest- with both yourself and others.
It may sound ludicrous to you now but I was in a 'similar situation' when I was about 16. I was hanging round with a large group of friends and was introduced to a couple of new girls and guys new to the circle. One guy fancied me and the feeling was mutual and we had a little kiss. One day when I met up with some of the rest of the guys and girls (who I'd known for a long time) I told them about it and they were astounded and said that he had a girlfriend and she was one of the girls I wasn't too familiar with! He never told me! And they weren't even interacting in anyway! I told them as we were heading over to this guys house anyway to point out the girlfriend when we got there as this was unfair and he was a toerag! When we arrived they did and I asked to speak to her in private and told her everything- we both then confronted him and we became best friends! Although it is very risky- I could have ended up with a punch in the face!! I did not know and was not in the wrong and felt she needed to know. As it was he turned out to be even worse than ever as afterwards he carried on trying it with me and I told him where to go! But the bottom line is I was honest and it was fair on everyone.
If you do REALLY like him then I would make sure the feelings are mutual on his behalf and then personally if you feel it is worth it and there are genuine feelings on both sides (and it is not a crush or he is not going to use you) tell your friend and ask if it's ok- if it's genuine (obviously circumstances of break up will come into it too) then perhaps she will understand. If it's just a passing thing then I wouldn't go there- however if it is mutual and you both very much like each other, talk to him, talk to her and fingers crossed she'll understand.
The reason I say is to be sure is that men come and go but friendships are generally forever but it is also relavent that if it is true love that will stay and a true friendship that will stay too- if your friendship is true you'll need to think alot harder over the situation and if your love is true that too.
You need to assess the situation with pure honesty and work forward from that. Don't be sneaky about anything- if it's all genuine you shouldn't need to be.
Good luck xxx
2007-09-30 07:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One is a controversy of ethics and the different, probable, a be counted of regulation. There are rules in some international places against electorate betraying their u . s .. In my u . s ., the USA of a, there are no rules against betraying a chum. whether certain by way of settlement to a chum, if complying with the settlement calls so you might do something unlawful, that area of the settlement, and consistent with possibility the completed settlement, could be, if examined in courtroom, held as unenforecable and, hence, now no longer binding. Betrayal of a chum is a controversy of ehics, no longer regulation.
2016-10-20 09:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by borgmeyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in your friend's shoes and decide if it's worth the risk of losing a friend. Remember, rarely do dating relationships last as long as friendships. Which would you rather lose: the chance to go out with someone you don't even know, or your good friend that you could know for the rest of your life?
2007-09-30 07:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Avielleya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An EX is an EX. They are no longer together. Going out with him is not a betrayal. If you feel more comfortable, tell you friend that you like this guy. They have spell checks on here. Use it.
2007-09-30 07:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ladytigercat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it's not a good idea. I would hate to have something like this done to me and if you've already experienced it then you'll know how it feels too. You need to tell your friend, but make sure you tell her tactfully to try and save her feelings. If you guys are true friends, then you should be able to sort the situation out.
2007-09-30 07:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Catty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with this guy! Men come and go, but true friends are hard to find, and not only will you lose her friendship, other women won't want to be friends with you either. There are plenty of other guys in the world, so forget about this one and find someone else.
2007-09-30 07:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. Tell your friend that you are interested in the guy. Ask her if she's mind if you went out with him. Most likely she'll say she doesn't care. Even if she does, she'll know before you go out with him, and she can't say later that you did it behind her back. If she's your real friend, she'll just want you to be happy, and it won't be a big deal.
2007-09-30 07:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger Lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First start by spelling the whole word out cause that really childish. it looks like u answered your question. She or he is not your friend because u wouldn't want to do that....so what they are not friends it still will be wrong....stop trying to find a reason to be wrong...
2007-09-30 07:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kobra:we can't help who we fall in love with,but considering he/she is a friend then i would steer clear of this ex,unless you dont really care what your friend and others will think because other friends will probably take this friends side and hate you aswell.
2007-09-30 07:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Angel & Kobra 4 eva love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could leave it a bit until your friend has got another boyfriend.
If your friend's ex really likes you he will be prepared to wait.
2007-09-30 07:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋