My man left at 8pm last night to "go for a drink" but he'd be "right back". It is now 1:45pm the next day here and he comes waltzing in with the nerve to ask me for money so he could go out to watch football. He said I can't take away his time and his football. Seems to me being out from 8pm last night and all night and now this afternoon is enough time away when you have a family with kids!? I told him no money and then he was like screw you and walked out again. What is going on?
2007-09-30 07:47:29 · 13 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally, I wouldn't stand for that. First of all he has the responsibility of taking care of you and your kids. Second, he should have his own money to support his own habits. You did the right thing by saying no to the money. You should seriously sit down and talk to him and ask him whats going on. Tell him how you feel and tell him that your kids need him. Responsibility with his kids should come before anything. Whether it's going out for a drink, or watching football. You should try and suggest that you both go out for a drink together, get a babysitter. Ask him to stay home and watch football, or maybe invite some of both your friends over for the game. Have a couple snacks and a couple of drinks. Try to participate in his interests, and maybe hell be around more and wont be going out like this, Good Luck. If you need any more advice, please dont hesitate to email me.
2007-09-30 07:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by Beanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would like to know, did you call when he was MIA for all those time? if so, did he answer or no? it doesnt even sound lie u were worrie about him being gone all night, so i take it that he does this often hu? sorry my friend. i am glad u didnt give him money. have a talk with him once he gets back and everything is cool and calm, not in ths heat of the moment or anything like that. if he decides to stay over tonight and not show up all together, just change the locks on the door tomorrow so he knows that kind of behavior is unaccaptable...especially when u have wife and family.
2007-09-30 15:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by mama2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you given him any reason to not want to be with you or around you or do things with you? If not, then you need to stand up to him and get to the bottom of this before it escalates into a bigger mess. He is a fool if you are good to him and treat him good. He is acting like either he has another woman, or he wants out of the marriage, or doesn't like you for some reason. You can't live your life like this. I feel so blessed to have the wife that I do and I treat her very good and can't wait to come home from work and spend as much time with her as possible and she feels the same about me. We have God in our lives and that does make a big difference. (smile)
2007-09-30 15:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your intuition telling you? Woman have that little radar that goes off instantly..listen to it!
I sat in an unhappy marriage with children while he played the field, never came home and I was stupidly blind by it all.
The thing that made me wake up and get out was my oldest son realizing that "daddy was with jennifer" and thought to myself, Oh no! My kids will not grow up thinking this is the proper way to treat women!!
You dont deserve it nor do your children.
2007-09-30 15:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by enticinmel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's going on is you haven't reached the point where you've told him screw his drinking, football and his time....and took away his house by throwing his *** out.
2007-09-30 15:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he an addict? Or it could be another woman? Have you seen this behavior in the past? It's time to have a chat with him, that's the only way you'll truly know.
2007-09-30 14:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have put him out already kids or no . I would be putting his things out on the yard and telling him goodbye . My husband knows I would do this in a heartbeat and I would expect him to do the same to me if I acted this way . Oh no maam he would be out that door no exceptions!!!
2007-09-30 14:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lock the door behind him. Save you money and go get your head examined for keeping him around.
2007-09-30 17:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to lie, but i really think he's messing around, next time he "goes out" follow him
2007-09-30 14:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much it's all about him and he is going to do whatever he wants to do. Apparently, he does not fear any consequence for his bad behavior.
2007-09-30 14:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋