I dated a guy for about 6 months, but we were good friends for about 11 months before we started seeing eachother romatically. After 6 months we drifted apart because he lost his job and sort of cut me (and everyone) out his life while he was looking for a new job. It took him 5 months to find a job in his field. All the time he was looking, I always let him know that I am here for him even htough he rarely called me anymore. I always sent him a card, or interview clothes, or lottery tix (lol) and nice phone calls, but he didn't really acknowledge any of them, which I blamed on him being a little depressed, so I brushed it off.
Now he has a job that he is doing well in finacially and he satred to come around. And then poof, I called him once and told him how crazy I am about him and he didn't call me back for 2 weeks.
I left him a VM last week - l said I won't pursue him anymore, that I know he could care less about me.
He hasn't called me back. I guess I was right?
2007-09-30 07:51:47 · 15 answers · asked by sephia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yup. unfortunately, you were right. Let him go and count your blessings. This guy would tear out your heart and feed it to you without blinking. Dont use the job thing as an excuse. Job or no job, we are human, and basic human rules apply. You would not do to another person what he has done to you if you cared for them even a little bit. Right? So let him go. Move on and dont waste any more of your precious time on someone who does not appreciate you.
2007-09-30 07:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by misspoo4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you were right. The way you showered this guy with gifts and phone calls makes you come across as really needy, and you probably smothered the guy half to death. When he acted like he didn't appreciate your gestures, you should have taken the hint and moved on.
Next time around, back off on the gifts and the phone calls, give the guy a chance to get to know you, and don't be so needy and available. There's a wonderful life out there just waiting for you to live it.
2007-09-30 14:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have already wasted too much time on this guy. Anybody who is a little interested, could do better then that. Just count this as a lessin learned and move on. We never quit getting schooled in life.
2007-09-30 14:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No......You just came across as desperate and pathetic.
Who wants to be around someone who after a few weeks confesses how "crazy" they are about someone?
You also told him you know "he could care less about me".
That is pitiful. In fact, if someone told me that, I would say: "You know what?" "Grow a backbone and stop making me the defender of YOUR feelings!" "I'm not here to placate you or make you feel better about yourself." "You need to do that for yourself."
The bottom line? You had a chance. You blew it by being too desperate.
You need to look at yourself and start LIKING yourself. You want him to make you feel complete and you will end in disaster after disaster if you pursue others to make you feel good about yourself.
2007-09-30 14:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOMETIMES A PERSON DONT CARE ABOUT YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CARE ABOUT THEM. HE WAS PROBABLY JUST DOWN IN THE DUMP AND NEEDED A SHOULDER TO LEAN ON AND YOU WERE IT. TRY TO LET IT GO IF A PERSON IS THAT COLD AND CANT TELL YOU HOW THEY FEEL NO MATTER HOW BAD IT MAY HURT YOU . THEY MOST LIKELY DIDNT WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS, BUT END UP DOING SO ANYWAY. GET OVER IT!!!
2007-09-30 14:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl_2sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows you're a caring person and you shouldn't waste so much on this guy.
Forget about him. Find someone else who will take your love with gratitude.
2007-09-30 14:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by ------ -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep
2007-09-30 14:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know the answer. Move on n dnt stress on him
2007-09-30 14:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i think hes moved on. You sound like a great person and I dont think he deserves you.
2007-09-30 14:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not worth your time
2007-09-30 14:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋