Family & Relationships - 27 September 2007

I'm a guy who has been trying the dateing websites and in alot of the ladies adds they say that they are looking for a caring, honest and genuine guy but i can not figure out why they say that.

I think it's a nonesense stament that ladies who use it have thought that it sounds clever and put it in their profile.

What if they didn't put it in their profile, would guys then assume that what their looking for is somebody who is uncaring, dishonest and disingenious.

And if i read this in a profile am i supposed to contemplate my navel and examine my morality , just in case i may be found wanting.

Maybe somebody who puts this in a profile should consider how it reflects on them in exactly the same terms.

2007-09-27 08:28:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How can you tell when a guy is telling you the truth about his feelings? I mean just because someone is insecfure doesn't mean they love an care about you........ Just a thought.

2007-09-27 08:26:31 · 6 answers · asked by aspen 2 in Singles & Dating

My brother's wife has recently started talking about suicide and making statements like, "I'm not going to be around much longer." She's taking anti-depressants and has started to withdraw into herself verses communicate or socialize with others. My brother called me to ask me what he should do? I suggested he call her psychiatrist and let him know what's going on. Five minutes later he called back and said her psychiatrist refused to speak with him, that he cannot talk about her or talk with him. I have no idea what to suggest and my brother is afraid she'll follow through with it. Any suggestions?

2007-09-27 08:25:21 · 16 answers · asked by Z3 3 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been together about 7 years now and have lived together about 4. Recently I have found some really distasteful videos on our new computer. Not only am I appalled, because I am there all of the time he could just come to me…but I am also worried all this nasty stuff he is looking at could potentially ruin our new computer a.i. viruses, etc. So last night I installed I-shield Lite which blocks any pornographic images and videos and he is pissed! He changed my hotmail account password where I can’t even check my messages( which by the way I am waiting on an important one from one of my professors) and now I happen to find where he is trying to block me out of my Myspace account. I think he is acting childish and it seems like he would die without getting to look at these videos/images each and every day. Should I just un-install the I-Shield and keep the peace or do you think he has a problem. It ticks me off when I find this nasty stuff on our computer. It is degrading, trashy, and classless. I have asked him repeatedly to not download that trash before, but he doesn’t seem to listen or care. Now he is livid with me and says I am treating him like a child. Can I have everyone’s thoughts/suggestions?

2007-09-27 08:24:41 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

the guy that i am dating/messing with... he always asks if my housemate is home before he comes over. and acts really weird if she comes home when he's there?? what is this all about??? i don't understand... can someone pelase help me, because i am starting to get totally frusterated. AHHHHH!

2007-09-27 08:19:29 · 6 answers · asked by pink 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 08:19:25 · 2 answers · asked by habengr 1 in Singles & Dating

for example "Oh I have a call waiting...or My cell phone battery is about to die"

I do it too people who just go on and on about rubbish. blah blah blah..Who got time to hear their crap.. Just get to the point man...I got other responsibitlies to deal with.

Reader: but please dont say..oh get caller id and dont pick up the phone...I have that and have done it!! but then the caller gets upset, or they actually have something important to tell me....I actually dont feel guilty doing this cause......I think in life this is what we call energy suckers!!!!

2007-09-27 08:17:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

as you will see from previous questions my bf's ex wont allow me to have anything to do with their children. I have done nothing to deserve this,i have a child of my own and am a good mum.i've grown to half tolerate this awful situation, even though i really do not like it. But now its got even worse tonight. He was on phone to me while his youngest (3 yr old) was there. She asked who was on the phone, he lied and said his male friend, she wanted to talk to him, so bf told me he couldnt continue the convo.
He sent text saying he cant tell the 3 yr old it was me incase she tells the ex and she will go mad and make life difficult. He doesnt want to "rub me in her nose". i'm sick of being told i cant meet his family coz its rubbing it in her nose, we went to tesco to get milk, she found out through someone else, i was told we had rubbed it in her nose. Everything i wanna do with him is rubbing it in her sodding nose!!!
im left feeling like crap, coz cant even talk to him infront of them

2007-09-27 08:16:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 08:15:43 · 18 answers · asked by lu_dicrous 3 in Singles & Dating

We've known each other for about almost 6 months and we have really gotten close over the phone and the Internet. But the thing is neither of us at the moment can go see one another due to school and work situations. I'm just wondering if we are setting ourselves up for a major heartache.

2007-09-27 08:13:09 · 10 answers · asked by Vamphyre 1 in Singles & Dating

I feel like it would feel like hey at least give me the gift!

2007-09-27 08:12:27 · 33 answers · asked by seth001 2 in Weddings

I leave for work in ten minutes and there's this guy there who I believe likes me. Should I ask him out?!!?! What would I say?!?!
THANKS!

2007-09-27 08:12:03 · 10 answers · asked by crispnclear16 1 in Singles & Dating

I so love her, and I find her precious. The problem is that she is a prima donna, and was clearly spoiled as a child. We are roommates, and she loves to shop, loves girly stuff, loves to spend way over her head, and has no problem asking for favors all the time. It always just seems to be about "her". The times between when she doesn't act like that are wonderful, but they are far less frequent. We have a passionate love for each other, and we talk about marriage and kids daily. I worry that I won't be able to put up with this behavior forever, and I'm not sure she is ABLE to change after 26 years. I have this hope that maybe opposites really do attract, and hold passion because of the differences, but I doubt that cliche big time. I've never seen an adult like this, and I'm still amazed that it's real. I'm a self-made man, and don't ask for anything from anyone, but she will run people ragged, especially me, to get what she wants. I really want to marry her. Please help!

2007-09-27 08:09:48 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He thinks I am cheating on him. In order to prove to him That im not cheating he asked me to get a tattoo of his name on my lower back!

2007-09-27 08:09:45 · 20 answers · asked by Asland 1 in Singles & Dating

yea i get the stares but the guys i do want or like dont step up it's the ones i dont want or dont like that wanna talk to me and those are the nast old perverted 50yr old men no offense to those who are that age and dont do this.......... but im single i keep telling myself its not me and that the only reason im single is because God is saving someone really worth my time and really special for me...... I get compliments so thats enough to say its not my appearance but maybe my personality i come off as serious and quiet....

2007-09-27 08:09:38 · 10 answers · asked by prevailed_individual 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 08:08:42 · 9 answers · asked by Patrick the Carpathian, CaFO 7 in Singles & Dating

My son is 11 years old and is lately getting into a really bad place of doing spiteful things to my partner. He will purposely not do things he is asked to do liek clean up his room or when he is toldnot to do something he will do it anyway. He does not act like this with me and when I ask him about it he just shrugs me off and wont have an answer for me. It is really becoming a soft spot in our relationship because he is feeling very disrespected and although I do not take up for my sons behavior he is growing increasingly frustrated and so am I... Any suggestions??

2007-09-27 08:07:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am embarrassed to ask this but what the heck. When you are having an orgasm do you yell the name of the girl you are with or yell that you love them (and you say this by adding her name) Is this a moment of truth or just pleasure has over taken? The guy I am with says he loves me. We started going together again after not seeing each other for several years. I was shocked when he told me he loved me after not seeing me all this time. He knew I loved him many years ago, but unforunately he had a drug/drinking problem at that time. Now he is clean for 2 years. This time he claims he is not going to let me out of his life again. As far as my thoughts I don't know where this relationship is going.

2007-09-27 08:03:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've been told a couple of times 'don't go looking for love, let it find you? Do you have any love stories to share to back up this claim? Thanks for your replies.

2007-09-27 07:58:44 · 23 answers · asked by mitchchan 5 in Singles & Dating

If you lined up all the guys I've ever been with the only thing they'd have in common is their height (tall). It was that annoying 'thing' that attracted me to them, the thing that even now I cannot put my finger on but for some reason I still like. For that reason I'd say I was a random dater in that there is no specific type I go for. Are you a random or a specific dater?

2007-09-27 07:58:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What would be a fun creative way to ask someone to be my maid of honor or bridesmaids? 2 of them live in my town and one lives 5 hours away. Nothing very expensive. Thanks!

2007-09-27 07:55:23 · 8 answers · asked by mudpie 2 in Weddings

2007-09-27 07:54:25 · 17 answers · asked by Im addicted to the memory of him 3 in Singles & Dating

My ex husband filed a motion to stop paying child support. He lives in another state. I didn't make it to the court that day and on our Child support enforcement page it just says the court action was dismissed. Does that mean the child support order that is in place was dismissed or was his request to terminate the child support dismissed????

thank you

2007-09-27 07:54:05 · 8 answers · asked by glenda0317 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We've been together for 3 years and have a child on the way, but our parents are against us getting married. how can i tell them that there's nothing to worry about anymore in today's world? Besides he is super Hot and I really love him. I mean you can't help who you fall in love with.

2007-09-27 07:51:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Some people say it is and some people say its not.

2007-09-27 07:49:08 · 21 answers · asked by Beach Babe 08 2 in Singles & Dating

something that would catch their attention and interest. Just something to get them talking.

2007-09-27 07:47:35 · 1 answers · asked by Ryder 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 07:46:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i feel like i need to have sex or stimulation to feel right. I need it daily at least. Do you think this is a problem that I should talk to someone about?

2007-09-27 07:46:48 · 39 answers · asked by PuRpLe HaZe 2 in Singles & Dating

... ok, weve been ddating for 3 years, and just found out we have a child on the way. but, our parents are against us getting married?? i mean, they have proven that there are no genetic defects in children born to cousins?? its actually been considered "ok" as far as science goes.. and it happens in the royal family all the time?? so, why is it so worng?

2007-09-27 07:46:32 · 11 answers · asked by heather b 5 in Singles & Dating

Love is funny isn't it? I would never thought in a million years that I would like someone who is much younger than me. He's sweet, honest, gentle and considerate. We're both single (just so you know ) and work together so I see him more often and since we're colleage, we don't need to put our best foot forward but being ourselves. I think it's weird for me to even think about someone who is younger. I have no expectation but I can feel the physical tention when we're together. We have never done anything that considers inappropriate and I like to keep it that way. Too much to jeopardize our career if we crossed the line. We're enjoy hanging out at lunch together. We both get promoted and share a lot in common. I think it makes me want to go to work everyday. There is no way that we can be together but that's ok with me. Have you ever been in this situation?. Did you act on it? Would you want anything more than just friends?

2007-09-27 07:45:09 · 14 answers · asked by Connie 3 in Singles & Dating