Is it ok if we talk about the wedding gift registary in the wedding invitations?

Question

I feel like it would feel like hey at least give me the gift!

Answer 1

I am of two minds about this one. The last wedding I went to had their registry info on a separate card, inside the same envelope as the invite. It was worded really nicely, something along the lines of "should you wish to bring a gift, here are some suggestions" and it had the registry list. I was fine with that, it made it easy for me to decide on a gift.
Here is the thing tho..........I will always bring a gift for a wedding, it is just the done thing and I enjoy doing so. Surely having the registry details makes it easier for the guests. As long as the registry card isnt demanding of gifts, couldnt it be ok to slip it in with the invite? I mean, who really makes up these ettiquette rules? They are not hard and fast.
As a guest I appreciate getting an idea of what people want. How does one actually find out where a couple are registered if it does not come with the invite? Does it mean the guest has to make phone calls to the family to find out? Or does the couple send out their registry details later on after the invite?
I am curious.
So I want to get the bride and groom a gift. I dont want to get them one of 6 toasters so I would rather buy off the registry and get them what they need and want.
I guess giving money is the next step....but then there is the issue of how much is enough.
Personally, I wont be registering anywhere for my wedding. I might give my mum a list of things/suggestions. But if and where they get them from is up to them.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Absolutely not. To invite someone to party, and at the same time indicate that you expect some sort of compensation isn't issuing an invitation at all -- it's selling a ticket. Nonetheless, guests will want to know what to give you. How can you let them know without appearing to be expecting a gift?

You do your RSVPs the old fashioned way: by telephone. Include a ph# beside or beneath the "RSVP" on the invitation. When people call, they will probably ASK what sort of gift you'd like; THEN it's OK to tell them. The telling should never such that it's like commanding your guests to shop only at a certain store. Always give alternatives, like "We're registered at Neimann-Marcus and Wal-Mart, but we'd be happy with any sort of gardening items." BTW, you don't have to handle all these phone calls personally. Family and friends can make return calls for you.

There are two more advantages to RSVP by phone. First, with the little cards people can cross out the "2, 1 or 0?" question and write in "5". In a phone conversation, you can nip that notion in the bud. Second, you save the cost of printing those little cards and putting stamps on them.

Congrats and best wishes.

Answer 3

I know there are many people on here who would disagree
with me, but I actually appreciate it. This way I can get something the couple wants, not some crappy gift they may never use. HOWEVER, the invitations I've gotten in the past
have done this one of three ways.

Number one: put a little slip of paper in the envelope with the invitation, saying visit our website for more information (the registry info was on there).

Number two: same slip, but with the registry info on the slip.

Number three: the registry info on the invitation itself. That last one I found to be very...I don't know, it just didn't seem the place to put it. Just my two cents.

I would probably do a combo of number one and two (many of my older relatives don't do the internet).

Answer 4

Not on the wedding invitations. You'll be having a shower, and that's when people will bring the gifts. There can be an inclusion in the shower invitation that states where you are registered.

Answer 5

the last few wedding invites we've gotten have had the slips from the stores in them. Either way, i don't care, my family always ends up giving money, because before we weren't in an area that had a lot of options (aka we had a walmart and thats it)

Most people will say it looks tacky. Which on one hand I do agree, but on the other, I don't want 4 toasters. I guess the best way would be shower invites or by word of mouth. let a few people know, like your siblings, parents and future in laws. people will know you're busy so they may ask someone else.

Answer 6

Probably not a great idea.

But come to think of it, the last wedding I got invited to had the places they were registered in it! Not like typed on the wedding invite but in the envelope.

Damn I fell for it.

Answer 7

According to dear abby no mention of a gift or gift registry should be mentioned in the wedding invitation... I believed she used the word tacky. But it's your wedding, do as you like.

Answer 8

You should absolutely not put it on your wedding invitation. You are not supposed to use the wedding invitation or save the dates or any other distributed information to talk about the registry.

You can put information on your webpage, if you have one, or you can wait until people ask.

Traditionally it's the parents' and maid of honor's job to tell people where the couple is registered if anyone asks.

Answer 9

No, it's rude. If people ask tell them where you are reigstered, or if you have a shower put it in that invite. the only way you should ever mention gifts in an invite is if you choose to have money donated to a charity instead, you should tell them so they don't buy a gift.

Answer 10

No, you never mention anything in the wedding invitations about the registry. The only invitation this is supposed to be mentioned in is for the shower(s).