Family & Relationships - 27 September 2007

I AM AN OLDEST SISTER TO FOUR YOUNGER SIBLINGS. My sister Ashley has 3 children now. Two she gave to their dad due to her being homeless and not having anyway to support them(that in itself causes me great pain to think she didn't try everything first to keep them) Then she had another child that she is allowing drugs to be used around. (MARAJUANA). I told her not to ever let me find out about it again.

WELL TO MAKE THE STORY SHORT AND SWEET, I HAVE HAD IT. For 4+ years I have done everything I could to help her. I have offered her a home when she was homeless and even before that when she was in a Domesticly Violent relationship with her husband. BUT MY HOME WAS NOT "NICE ENOUGH" My home does need lots of work but it should not have been her reason for not taking free help when she could have really used it. I have babysat for her and never gotten even a thank you. I have paid her rent before and many other things!
I AM JUST WONDERING IS THERE ANYTHNG I CAN OR SHOULD DO?

2007-09-27 01:26:09 · 12 answers · asked by onelittleangelsittingonmyknee 3 in Family

she always make "papansin"! and she always lie! and one time she cheated during spelling drill. i was scared to tell our adviser that she cheated and everybody hates her in the highskul building. she thinks that all the students likes her but she's wrong! everybody hates her! she makes stories about me and my bestfriend casie. she's a gossip girl.. what should i do to her? and she's a playgirl. one time she said that she dosen't have any boyfriend but we saw her cellphone she has alot of boyfriends..

2007-09-27 01:25:37 · 7 answers · asked by .goLd. 1 in Friends

I met a new guy earlier this year and was immediately head over heals with him and he seemed to like me to but….. He had just gotten out of a serious relationship that left him burnt. He said he was not ready for a serious relationship boyfriend/ girlfriend. We definitely had some chemistry so we just went with the flow but I started having deep feelings for him and he seemed to be pushing me away I finally felt rejected and soothed my insecurities and strayed. When he found out which I was honest I told him he was furious it is not like he promised me a rose garden and he realized he had not been there for me never the less he still was pissed and stopped talking to me. Low and behold a month and a half later he had a girlfriend that was trouble! Even his friends and mom and dad backed me up and said they didn’t know why he was doing this to me and trading me up for some well if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all so I wont describe this new girlfriend of his! Things eventually turned sour between the two of them. He is now coming back to me with roses saying he realizes what a mistake he had made and that he is sorry for being such an *** towards me. Yet he still is not being clear on what he wants for us. Should I forgive him I still truly fell for him. But and I a fool to wait around again chancing the same out come, I don’t just want to be his good time girl! Help what should I do. Follow my heart and let destiny play itself out or hold up my head and tell him to hit the road!

2007-09-27 01:21:21 · 10 answers · asked by sarahlizzydorsey 1 in Singles & Dating

i have two kids with this guy. When we first started "talking" he would be at my house ALL the time, he practically lived there, however he did have a girlfriend and a son with her. someone else told me about her but he still came over and messed with me ALL the time anyway. They ended up back togetether but everytime they'd fight she'd kick him out and he'd come stay with me and I ended up pregnant for the 2nd time by him. they have now been together awhile and are getting married-he will try to get my kids or ask if he can see them but I wont let him-he doesnt deserve to see them, He pays child support and thats all i want, he aint seeing my kids, he had a chance.What can I do to get him back for going back to her and leaving me like that? I have tried all the slicing her tires and so on. I dont know what I can do to really make him pay? What would really hurt him?

2007-09-27 01:19:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

after 20 years of marriage I have fallen in lust for someone at work - she is divorced and has 3 children and is very street wise and has a great self esteem and thinks I should do what I want and not stay in the marriage out of guilt to avoid making someone unhappy and beign unhappy myself as a consequence. - she has said she does not want to have an intimate relationship with someone who is married. - Is this all away of leading me on and trying to get me to leave my wife?

2007-09-27 01:17:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Dearest Ains and Claire,

It is with my deepest regret that I have to inform you that I will be unable to attend your wedding. Robyn and I wish you lots of joy and happiness and would like to invite you both to join us for Dinner after you come back from honeymoon and are settled in.

Lots of Love Harry x

2007-09-27 01:17:53 · 15 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Weddings

she got my father, they got a new and big house, they got posh cars and yet, we, the legal family is suffering. we are living in an old house that when heavy rain pours filled with floods inside and out. the woods are infected with termites... why is he doing this to us?

2007-09-27 01:17:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my problem is that i knew my husband had twins before we met, but he told me he didnt trust that lady he had the children with and even suspects those kids arent for him, he wanted to go for a DNA test but at that instant he wasnt financially sound, now we are married with the children staying with us, things are financially better now, its been five years now and the kids are 6 years. but surprisingly he doesnt want to do any DNA test any more cos he has developed so much love for the kids. He is afraid it wont be in his favour and might loose the children, he even said that even if he finds out they arent his kids he wont tell their mother and wiil keep the kids so there is no point for him to do the test. meanwhile i have two kids for him too.

There is nothing i can say for him to be convinced to do the test, do you think he is being fair to me and the children? cos i think the children need to know who their true father is. well, i have been very loving to the kids and they eve

2007-09-27 01:14:06 · 13 answers · asked by girlgirl 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Give me hints and ways to find out so that I know for sure, because a female called me and told me that she had phone sex with him 3 weeks ago. I want to end this once and for all. He denied it up and down, back and forth, although he looked very scared and guilty. lol! I was upset but now Im calming down. I cannot invest any of my emotion and time into a rat bastard who is going to be rubbing one out, everytime Im not there (we don't live together). He has a bird, I wish it was a parrot, maybe the parrot would tell me.. damn!

Any spy programs ANYTHING so that I can track him? I want to collect evidence and when he lies to me again, I will show him the evidence and he can stfu and stop denying it.

He's just got one more chance, and then he's history!!!

Please help with ideas, Im serious, no jokes, I need to know the best way to catch him at his own BS!

2007-09-27 01:13:05 · 10 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Marriage & Divorce

one you say I never want to go through with but really deep inside you do?

2007-09-27 01:09:53 · 10 answers · asked by me1234529 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-27 01:02:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband insists that I slept with the female neighbor. I am hetro not homo or bi. Sorry if anyone takes offense to those words. That just leads me to believe that he is looking for a way to take the blame off of him and put it on me when I did nothing wrong so he feels better about himself.

2007-09-27 01:01:33 · 17 answers · asked by Jenni 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have a friend that has been married for 28 years her husband has always cheated on her ....she has busted him twice and forgave him twice all the other times she hasnt found out....she is a beautifull woman in her 50s and she goes to school and she also works she has various degrees she doesnt need him ..i can understand if she didnt have a trade and couldnt do it on her own but this is not the case she is also a strong black female i see more and more that black women put up with a lot more than any other women why is this and how may i hel her????

2007-09-27 00:58:52 · 9 answers · asked by Rican Babe 4 u 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have the money i am a a poetry ambassador for america i get minimum of £4000 a month......i jusr wanted to know if i need my mother permission...i am one of 7 kids on my mums side im not the only one and i do to much work im my life u wanna know more ask k xx

2007-09-27 00:52:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My 17 year old son got into some legal trouble last spring. Serious but not enough to land him in jail or juvie, just enough to warrent restitution and community service. He recently skipped a day of school and drove across the state to see his g/f who just started college. I grounded him for that. In turn he hopped into his car and stayed with his dad who will NEVER ground him for anything. His father has always given him whatever he wants. I am always the "punisher". My son and I had an argument on the phone the other day about his behavior. It got bad, he said I was being ridiculous and hung up on me. I figured I would give him a day or two to cool down. Yesterday, while I was at work, he came home and gathered up his stuff and offically moved in with his dad. I have sole custody but my son is almost 18. He wont return my calls so I have stopped calling. He tells his sister he left "for a little while". Am I right to let him make his own mistakes or should I keep trying?

2007-09-27 00:45:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

what's the best time and best way to tell your bf that you have breast implants if he hasn't noticed them yet?

2007-09-27 00:40:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

All I want is to be friends with my brother but he doesnt sees that.We both have same friends but he thinks Im always followng him while IM NOT!My psychological problems are like never ending.Is there a STOP to whole teen problems?I hope college life's different than highschool.

2007-09-27 00:36:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

You are organized but your partner is not. You get up early and your ar punctual in all your work, appointments etc. You are there 5 minutes before hand. Now it is due to your partner disorganized habits and late night sleep and late wake up in the morning you are also late in your apppointments. What will you do and how will you overcome such a situation?

2007-09-27 00:35:28 · 22 answers · asked by Raj 4 in Marriage & Divorce

A month ago my husband was asked by his job to relocate himself to another town, about 4 hours from where we live. He has to live there for 6 months, with the benefit of coming home every weekends. Now, this change was a sudden one for me, one for which I was not prepared for. In my world the sun rises and sets on him, he is the sweetest man that I had ever met, so having him home every other night was awesome, as we did a lot of things together. Now, I am all alone, responsible of the welfare of my two dogs, my job and the house. I feel pretty lonely and overwhelmed. There are days when he calls that I break down over the phone, lamenting of the situation I'm in and almost blaming him for the stress (although I do realise it is not his fault). In addition to the constant stresses of his work, he has to deal with me. I feel like a horrible unappreciative wife, and I really do not want to be. I want him to know that I truly appreciate him- what can I do to show him I honestly love him?

2007-09-27 00:34:24 · 19 answers · asked by Dandie the Dirty Dog 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, well I stayed home from high school today against her will... She IS a psycho. She will just scream and scream and then cry and try to act like the victim and scream some more... then she'll throw stuff at me and kick me and tell me to go to 'daddy'... my father would beat me when I was younger and do horrible stuff to me and for her to say that, especially since today is his birthday, to me is wrong... what can I do to tell her why I stayed home today and why I can't stand her... I have no one to talk to or anything.... So your advice will be taken seriously,

2007-09-27 00:23:17 · 6 answers · asked by ohmygoditsanne 1 in Family

Why is it the Americans on the shows I watch communicate differently than Australians where I am from.

Australians generally tiptoe around things. Americans come right out and say it.
Other differences I have noticed is that young people are so much more outgoing and confident, and people in general are like this. It is like they have never experienced the tall popply syndrome like I and other Australians have.

I have a lot of respect for Americans and tend to have a lot of net American friends, and when I have talked to them on the phone you can really notice. Not being nasty but when an American speaks they do it with not as much sincerity or emotion as Australians, they just come out and say it. It takes a while to get used to the way they communicate and for them to get used to me. I also don't find their jokes funny and they do not find our jokes funny. It is also so fast to communicate with them that they say one thing you understand they move on to the next thing.

2007-09-27 00:18:57 · 11 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

how do i tell my family to stop treatin me like a five year old! im 18 years old and the treat me like im a child. my sister constantly gives me attitude but if even give a hint of attitude my mum gets on at me for it but she lets my sisters away with murder. my sister is seven years older than me with a child of three how do i tell them to treat me like an adult someone help please its really upsetting me thanx xx

2007-09-27 00:15:22 · 5 answers · asked by Halloween Child !!! 2 in Family

I have a boyfriend we have been seeing each other for almost 11 months now but i dont know when or how to bring up the sex issue well i think its best to wait for marriage but i dont know what are his view towards it, how can i start the topic please help, because when we kiss i feel his p****is moving in his pants it makes me feel uncomfortable as i dont know wat it means, could he be ready for sex? please answer...

2007-09-27 00:15:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married since May of this year, but we've been together since I was 16 (im 25 now). He is in the Army and getting ready to go overseas. I fell out of love with him a long time ago, I care about what happens to him, but I don't want to be with him anymore. The situation kind of got complicated when I met a new guy that I am totally head over heels for. I wont start a new relationship until I end my marriage. Would it make me a horrible person to serve him with divorce papers 3 months before he leaves??? Or should I stick around until he comes back? Or should I just leave it all to be and hope I fall back in love with him????

2007-09-27 00:14:59 · 14 answers · asked by autumnraine0321 2 in Marriage & Divorce

to cut a long story short, my husband left me on friday night!
6 months ago he had an affair with a girl at work, i found out and we went to 1 session at relate and i thought at the time lots of things had been sorted out!
We returned from holiday about 5 weeks ago with our little boy and had a great time (even spoke about another baby), the week after that we had our 2 year anniversary and went out for a lush meal and was very loved up!
then over the past couple of weeks ive been thinking something is wrong, so i confronted him friday and it turns out that he got in touch with her 2 weeks ago.
He went to his dads and on the saturday told me he needed time to think and would call me laters,well laters didnt come and he wouldnt answer my calls, i went down to his dads and he wasnt there! he had gone to hers,i then got a call from him at midnight and i asked him what his decision was and he said he made up his mind and is going to be with her!!!
he loves her and not me any more...

2007-09-27 00:12:41 · 10 answers · asked by amy w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If a married man has placed a personal ad saying he's single, should his wife be told, or should you just hope that someday she catches on and stay out of it? This is the third wife he's cheated on, so it isn't like he's changed over the last 20 years. If anything, he's gotten better at his "game". Is it right to let her know, or is it best to hope that somehow she finds out on her own?

2007-09-27 00:09:50 · 15 answers · asked by Aiden 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a 12 yr old cousin whom i adore. He has alot of problems at home with two parents that never get along and do not live together. His mom lives with his Grandma who is severely depressed since she lost her husband last year. Whenever Christmas or his birthday roll around, i always send him a gift for each, even thought they are only a month apart. Previously i would ask him what he wanted and just send it. It's usually a new PSP game or a game for his Xbox. They usually run me about $50 so i send him something smaller for the other occasion. I know he loves me but he never even lets me know when he receives it and he certainly has never said thank you. I live in Florida and he lives in Michigan. I know he was upset when i moved out of state since he would call me out of the blue to go out to eat or he would just stop by on his bicycle just to say hi. Any suggestions on how i can avoid hurting his feelings since he really is just a kid & let him know he's being impolite?

2007-09-27 00:04:35 · 6 answers · asked by PicaSSo of Parta PlnN 2 in Marriage & Divorce