Give me hints and ways to find out so that I know for sure, because a female called me and told me that she had phone sex with him 3 weeks ago. I want to end this once and for all. He denied it up and down, back and forth, although he looked very scared and guilty. lol! I was upset but now Im calming down. I cannot invest any of my emotion and time into a rat bastard who is going to be rubbing one out, everytime Im not there (we don't live together). He has a bird, I wish it was a parrot, maybe the parrot would tell me.. damn!
Any spy programs ANYTHING so that I can track him? I want to collect evidence and when he lies to me again, I will show him the evidence and he can stfu and stop denying it.
He's just got one more chance, and then he's history!!!
Please help with ideas, Im serious, no jokes, I need to know the best way to catch him at his own BS!
2007-09-27 01:13:05 · 10 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Theres a small chance he might be telling the truth, so I want to be sure. He swears up and down he's never done phone sex while he's been dating me even though that woman called. She might have called to break us up by lying that they had phone sex, even though she knew so much about me.. she might just be a friend of his, but she might be the real thing and be telling me the truth.
If I find from this moment onwards he has, I can present my evidence to him, because all he'll do is lie!
2007-09-27 01:16:06 · update #1
its not about "not taking care of the man" that guys retarded. anybody should take precautions to get to the truth if they have a story that doesn't fit. Thats all im saying. Theres no reason for him to be straying. This might be more of his being a sex addict, and I have no experience with sex addicts. Im not taking the blame for any of this, Ive been loyal and honest. Im just giving him one more chance, but its not for him to continue to be disloyal to me and my not know about it. I want to know the truth, and if I find out he has betrayed me, I will leave because its not what I want or am looking for. he says I look like a sex symbol, but he must have personal problems if he wants to have sex talk with strangers behind my back if he's attracted to me.
2007-09-27 02:42:52 · update #2
To the person who said he would just call the woman in front of me,... HE DOESN'T KNOW WHO SHE IS, supposedly. She didnt leave a name, by what she told me about myself though, he should already know who it is, as HE is the ONE that told her these things (including telling her my whereabouts the last week!) unless he's telling lots of phone sex operators the same facts about me. and then he wouldnt know who it was. either way, when he's alone, he might have already confronted her and told her not to call anymore as he's been FOUND OUT!! or something like that. Ever since she called me, the hang ups have stopped at his place he said. (he'd been getting them for weeks) That part is really odd. This is really a "Mystery".
I also wanted to add that if he called up anyone in front of me to "deny" that he is having phone sex with them, he would have to admit he's actually talking to a woman, and of course he wouldn't do that!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-27 02:47:56 · update #3
Thing is, acting more sexy and all that is a turn off now, because it would feel inauthentic and desperate. as tho I were making some "last bid to keep his interest" and I am fine the way I am. I don't need to go out of my way, he's already crazy about me as it is, its just in addition to me, he has this interest for "phone sex" but he won't do it with me! He's the one that has to try harder, NOT ME! F that!
2007-09-27 02:49:29 · update #4
Well, "Tadpoler" person thats exactly why I asked this question, Im ASKING HOW CAN I CATCH HIM AT HIS GAME. SO THAT I CAN MOVE ON. Im not saying I effing want to control someone. are you an idiot or can't you read?? Or do you read with filters on. I don't have the slightest DESIRE to "control someone" I just want to know they are not a dishonest lying ***hole.
Learn what that means.
2007-09-27 02:51:32 · update #5
Well the only way u can actually find out 4 sure is by possibly setting him up...
Either u or a friend of urs can call him and go from there... otherwise it would be u walking in on it to catch him.
Or set a camers up in the home theres really not much more u can do. Sounds sneaky but these are the only ways to do it. However if u can't trust him then why be w/ him? U don't wanna spend the rest of ur life spying or wondering if he's telling u the truth, is it really worth it, thats what u must ask urself!!
2007-09-27 01:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-19 11:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not give a enough information. Like what is your sex life like. Look if this bugs you maybe you should find some different. Or may be try a little phone sex with him. Do a dance for him in the nude .It take a variation of things to make a good sex life. Maybe you do not have what it takes to make a good sex life. Men and woman do this because something is missing in there sex life. Why would he what you in his life. Your a spy and a bad lover and you are going to make his life hell. so get lost. Been their. Nothing wost than a women that can not take care of her man.
2007-09-27 01:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 09:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by hektner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change or control another person. You are not his "mother". You are trying to make be someone that he is not.
Men do not respond to whining, complaining, nagging and threats.
This is not a healthy relationship. I believe that you need to up the investigation and move on.
Do you really want to be with some that you are always wondering about? You do believe that he is worthy or your trust. You cannot make him worthy of it. He had to.
Good luck
2007-09-27 02:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that he is still doing it and rather than threaten to go, than just go. If he truly did not do any type of phone sex with the woman that called you, in addition to denying it, he would have called the woman with you there and confronted her for starting trouble in your relationship. So, you can either deal with it or not. The choice is up to you.
2007-09-27 01:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have this little trust in him just call it quits. Seriously. No Joke.
2007-09-27 01:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you grow up before you get into your next relationship.
2007-09-27 01:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste anymore time on him. Dump him and move on.
2007-09-27 01:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give him up, if he does that behind your back and then denies it ever happend then just do it. HE IS TRASH!!!
2015-05-06 02:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by orion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋