You are organized but your partner is not. You get up early and your ar punctual in all your work, appointments etc. You are there 5 minutes before hand. Now it is due to your partner disorganized habits and late night sleep and late wake up in the morning you are also late in your apppointments. What will you do and how will you overcome such a situation?
2007-09-27 00:35:28 · 22 answers · asked by Raj 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get used to being late, I've tried all sorts for 16 plus years, all failed.
2007-09-27 00:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by pirate_princess 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have this problem, kids school run, missus wanting me to do stuff when i come home from lunch, or just before i go to work she says "oh i need milk"
I hate being late, but I dont get up early as Im usually a get up and go person, not a get up and sit around person.
the easiest thing to do explain that the more you are late, the more chance of losing your job. whilst i believe that family is more important than work, you cant live a decent life without work.
try to get the other half to do things the day before, ie if you need to go shop, then do it last night rather this morning.
at the end of the day. your both supposed to work together in order to live together, they have to understand how important it is to be on time and you have to understand what they do at home.
its a two way street.
2007-09-27 00:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Paul S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually you have to organise your partner too! I tend to know my husband will be late so I say that appointments are 10 minutes or so before they really are so he arrives on time. He gets up late in the morning so the rest of us are late getting into the shower and I have myself and 2 kids to get ready - he only has himself to think about. I get everything organised the night before and make husband do the same. It sort of works....but never perfectly.
2007-09-27 01:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i sometimes make my husband late, but only cause i want snuggles!! Not to make him late. But also, his job is on flexi time, if he's a bit past nine arriving, he can just stay a bit later in the evening. He still gets grumpy at me for this though. 'i like to be there by nine.' so i have been trying harder to not make him late, and making more effort to be ready on time if i am going with him.
When he has to start catching the train to work, i will not encourage him to stay in bed for snuggles, as i know he CAN'T be late then.
It's all about give and take, compromise. I get very sad without my snuggles, so i still get some snuggles, and he gets to be on time. i think it's mostly that i wanted more attention, if he's paying enough attention to me, then i wont be requiring extra snuggles when we wake up, will i?
2007-09-27 01:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by A derka der 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just start by talking to your partner and telling them hey, their lifestyle is affecting your life and not in a possitive way. Also it helps to remind you and your partner that the appointment is a 1/2 hour earlier so that you can make it on time.
2007-09-27 00:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is to funny, we accepted the things we can and we learn to pick our battles. if it is truly an important issue and upsets up more than a few minutes, then I would communicate and share who you are and do what you need to do to keep harmony and if that means you need to leave then you leave. When things are said in a matter that doesn't put down the other or to make the other feel bad about themselves then its all good and feels right. we all need to comprise showing respect for our differences
2007-09-27 00:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does your partner's habits make you late?
Leave without them if they are not ready on time.
2007-09-27 02:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but if you find out let me know.?i lost my job which i had loved for over 12years, after she moved in.. when we found out she was pregnant she couldnt find a job herself after her entitled maternity benefit,or didnt last long if she started one! and as we had a new baby to feed and look after i stated to work with another company , in my own time ie, nights and weekend ,then working 16hrs some days arriving home absolutley exhausted only to start making my own tea,etc and then not being able to get in my own bed,for she would be asleep with the baby next to her,eventualy i lost my job for repeted lateness,and not performing.....went radicly downhill from there?
2007-09-27 01:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get up early you can't blame someone else just because they are living in your household as to you being late. That is foolish.
And if she is unorganized....you mean you didn't know that before marriage?
Remember your vows?
Pray and get use to it.
2007-09-27 00:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah for the most part that's me and hubby.
I simply do not let him make me late, if he's late that's on him. I have my own alarm clock on my side so he can't turn it off. Things like that are what I do, but as I said I won't let him make me late.
2007-09-27 01:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋