to cut a long story short, my husband left me on friday night!
6 months ago he had an affair with a girl at work, i found out and we went to 1 session at relate and i thought at the time lots of things had been sorted out!
We returned from holiday about 5 weeks ago with our little boy and had a great time (even spoke about another baby), the week after that we had our 2 year anniversary and went out for a lush meal and was very loved up!
then over the past couple of weeks ive been thinking something is wrong, so i confronted him friday and it turns out that he got in touch with her 2 weeks ago.
He went to his dads and on the saturday told me he needed time to think and would call me laters,well laters didnt come and he wouldnt answer my calls, i went down to his dads and he wasnt there! he had gone to hers,i then got a call from him at midnight and i asked him what his decision was and he said he made up his mind and is going to be with her!!!
he loves her and not me any more...
2007-09-27 00:12:41 · 10 answers · asked by amy w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not so much as love, its something new. as cold as it is to say but it happens. it will be hard, and will take time, just devorce him and take everything from him.
2007-09-27 00:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel that moving to SC is a better opportunity for your family and you're just scared about the move (which is perfectly normal)? I can understand that your children need a transitioning period but remember that kids are resilient and would be happy to be wherever you are. Your sister has the right to be concerned since she's their aunt and has been taking care of them, but unless she has custody of them, she can't tell you that you can't move your children to wherever you want to go. Are you afraid of going to SC and then things not working out and being stuck there with no support? If so, that sounds like a valid concern as well. I can tell you from experience that I've kind of been where you are. I'm from Southern California and when my ex-husband got out of the Navy, he wanted to move me and our children all the way back to Kentucky where his family was and where I had no one. We went through with the move and it actually turned out to be one of the best times in my life even though my family was so far away. My husband and I divorced eventually but it had nothing to do with the move. Maybe you should go to SC with your husband and without your children so that you can get a feel for it before you move your kids. I know that being away from your children would be difficult, but maybe if you go out there first and see if things are going to work out between you and your husband and your husband's family first, you'll feel more comfortable moving your children there and once your sister sees that you've planned ahead and that the kids will be okay with you there, she'll give up on court. I wish you the best of luck because I know how difficult things must be for you right now, but don't give up! Be strong!
2016-04-06 03:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you chasing him so much, my husband was a drunk and i kicked him out and glad of it what he put me though, have some pride, you can do better, hes not worth it, he,s a waste of space, you don,t need him, if he thinks you really need him he will play on it, get your hair done some nice clothes on, and go out for the evening and if he calls call him by another man,s name, take care of your kid and yourself cos that kids half of your genes, stuff, be a strong woman, you will learn to be you will come out better after this, learn from this and move on, that is an awful thing to do to someone he should be ashamed, these people are not though, he,.s not worth it you can do better, God loves you youi are special, tell yourself that everyday, i know your hurt and that but don,t allow this bloke to treat you as a doormat, cos you wont feel good about yourself or be happy and your happiness is important and so are you
2007-09-27 00:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is my advice. HAVE A PARTY!!!!!!!!! Sounds to me like he was not a whole lot anyway. Any man that would do that is not worthy of your tears. Take your son, move on with your life. Get child support and take care of your son. If he does not want to be there you can't make him and why would you want him to be anyway. Just keep in mind that if they cheat and come back begging "once a cheater always a cheater!"! Worry about you and your son and let his privates rule his world, he will learn and you will be fine with your son.
Call around get a good attorney, file for seperation, take it all since he cheated and be rid of bad rubbish!
2007-09-27 00:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're better off.
NOTHING is ever "sorted out" after 1 counseling session, for future reference. Marital problems serious enough to put you in counseling take MONTHS to sort out.
And if he is going to choose some woman he works with over his wife and child, then you don't want him around anyway. Move on, and when he comes crawling back (He will.. they all do eventually..), don't let him in your bed.
2007-09-27 00:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to start getting money out of your account to make sure you have some and he doesn't take it all. I didn't do that when mine left on short notice and I was told to do the same unfortunately I didn't listen and he drained the account. I didn't think he would. Also wake up each morning shower, get dressed and eat. You have to take care of yourself.
2007-09-27 00:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your question is, but my advice is to get a lawyer.
2007-09-27 00:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What soulmate said.
2007-09-27 00:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by marie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's her problem now. Be glad to be rid of it all.
2007-09-27 01:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no problem.
you have your freedom.
2007-09-27 00:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋