I met a new guy earlier this year and was immediately head over heals with him and he seemed to like me to but….. He had just gotten out of a serious relationship that left him burnt. He said he was not ready for a serious relationship boyfriend/ girlfriend. We definitely had some chemistry so we just went with the flow but I started having deep feelings for him and he seemed to be pushing me away I finally felt rejected and soothed my insecurities and strayed. When he found out which I was honest I told him he was furious it is not like he promised me a rose garden and he realized he had not been there for me never the less he still was pissed and stopped talking to me. Low and behold a month and a half later he had a girlfriend that was trouble! Even his friends and mom and dad backed me up and said they didn’t know why he was doing this to me and trading me up for some well if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all so I wont describe this new girlfriend of his! Things eventually turned sour between the two of them. He is now coming back to me with roses saying he realizes what a mistake he had made and that he is sorry for being such an *** towards me. Yet he still is not being clear on what he wants for us. Should I forgive him I still truly fell for him. But and I a fool to wait around again chancing the same out come, I don’t just want to be his good time girl! Help what should I do. Follow my heart and let destiny play itself out or hold up my head and tell him to hit the road!
2007-09-27 01:21:21 · 10 answers · asked by sarahlizzydorsey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to set down and talk to him and find out what he wants from you in a relationship. I would not wait around on some one that was just going to keep changing his mind on what he wants, you will just be waisting your time. While roses are nice, it does not mean he wants a relationship. Maybe he still needs time from his last relationship, if that is the case, take time to date other people
2007-09-27 01:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you that he didn't want a relationship but you were suppose to sit around for him? Girl you deserve better than that. He was mad at you for doing what he told you to do? He sounds like a control freak. I would not give him another try. If you do and something like this happens again, run and don't look back. As for him not being clear. Ask him. Tell him that last time there were misunderstanding and you need to know exactly what his intentions are. Don't allow yourself to be his good time girl. Only you can let him use you like that. I hope that this works out for you. Good luck.
2007-09-27 08:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to give it some time. Clearly right now he doesn't know what he wants, so getting back together will probably only end up hurting you. If you really love him and want to be with him, explain to him that you don't know whether you can trust him, and you'd like to spend some time as friends, maybe say 'getting to know each other again'. If he's sincere, he'll stick around and wait for you until you're ready to give it another go. If he's not, he'll go with some other girl, and you'll be rid of a loser. Good luck with it, I hope it goes well for you whatever you decide.
2007-09-27 08:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by blox316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your pride or heart. But is whether both of you are ready for real love . If both are ready , then starts. But one say yes , and yet the other is no. Then is NO Love at all. With real love nothing can be done. Soon or later, there will be break up with heartache. Just read this forum as a good example, why so many unhappiness and breakup ?
2007-09-27 08:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Capger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel. That you really like him. That you were trying to give him space. That you were hurt. Tell him that you really want to have a good relationship with him. Tell him you do not want to be his good time girl. Tell him how you feel. If it bothers him, then to hell with him. If you are going to have a relationship, then you have to be open and honest with each other. If he cannot handle you telling him how you feel and that you do not want to get hurt, then he lost out. Dont bring up anything about the exgirlfriends, that will just strike sour notes. Tell him you want to show him how he deserves to be treated and you are willing to have fun together. I just think you gotta lay it out for him though, or you might end up getting hurt. If you are really what he wants then hurray for you. Sometimes guys just get scared and realize later that they made a mistake. Hopefully he is being honest. He just may have been too hurt and then too scared of something good.
2007-09-27 08:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by kelso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart take it one day at a time and make sure that you can accept all of the things that has taken place since you both were not together! So follow your heart but be careful at the same time. If he truly wants to be with you he will understand why you feel the way you do!
2007-09-27 08:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After all this he has realized his true feelings for you.But still before plunging into anything serious talk to him frankly and then go ahead.I wish you all the best.
2007-09-27 08:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have that many doubts, and havent made it clear with him in the beginning about what you want, move on now. It will save a lot of time, money, resentment, and heartbreak in the future.
2007-09-27 08:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by greppeldel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him first if he is really serious about you and if he really ment what he said to you....
2007-09-27 08:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Matilda g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart.
2007-09-27 09:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by starone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋