Family & Relationships - 27 September 2007

I am married,my husband is 12 years older.
we don't talk,we share a bed,we don't touch. we don't make love. i have told him of my needs but he ignores them, I feel unimportant.
meanwhile, I am a volunteer at a charity shop.
this guy who has been coming in for years, asked me to dinner. I told him I couldn't go because I was married. Then I decided I would like to go,just for the companionship,and he said what would be the point. and I agreed. He is an honerable man. But still he comes in sometimes two to three times a day,sometimes without buying anything, and we talk for hours. He found out I broke my favorite cd and brought me a replacement. He always ask if I would like to walk around with him in the store while he's looking.One time he even stopped by just to show me the tile he was putting in his house,and he wanted my opinon.BTW that meant alot to me,sounds silly but no one ever ask my opinion.
are we just good friends, or is he hoping for more?I adore him. BIDK what 2 do

2007-09-27 02:31:52 · 32 answers · asked by A*MUSE 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Before I started dating my girlfriend I couldn't get a girl to look at me, now that I have a (hot) girlfriend I get noticed alot. Why? My opinion of women is dropping.

2007-09-27 02:28:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 02:21:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Me and my boy friend broke up in mid june 07...we only dated for like 2 months but i miss him so much. we broke up in june and im still thinkin about him and i dont wanna be with no one but him i dont know what to do because my dad made us break up because of sneaking out to see him and coming to school tardy and because my dad found out he was smokin weed..even though he did that he was a very nice kid and never wanted to hurt anyone. it wouldnt be like that if he wasnt so strict. i never thought i would be that attched to any guy but once he was gone it left me kinda depressed. but i turn 18 in 10 months that seems like a long time but i hope it goes fast because i wanna be with him..i loved everything about him even the faws..my dad thinks that i dont know what i want or need but i do....idk wat to do because its so hard to talk to my dad because you cant talk to him with out him yellin at you even if it doesnt seem big.

please help tell me what ya think!!!!!

2007-09-27 02:19:12 · 5 answers · asked by smallz 1 in Friends

A married couple decides to get separate bank accounts and agrees to pay the common bills (mortgage, electric, etc.), but will pay their own individual accounts (car, credit cards, etc.). The wife loves to buy home décor and furniture for their new home, but the husband could care less about any of that. He’d much rather put $100 or so in his bank account and spend the rest having fun (eating out, drinking with friends, sporting events, etc.). One day the wife finds a formal dining set for $1,500. She runs home to tell her husband about it and his response is “If you like it buy it, but I’m not spending that kind of money”.

2007-09-27 02:14:43 · 23 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Marriage & Divorce

i want a website that help me in my relationship with my Girlfriend or my friends and could advise me about my problems.

2007-09-27 02:10:11 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 02:09:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have a friend who got married 3 weeks ago and she already wants a divorce. Is it possible for her to get divorced now that she is married? What process does she have to go through and how long will it take? Respectable answers pleas.

2007-09-27 02:07:11 · 17 answers · asked by Go Broncos! 1 in Marriage & Divorce

...you see I'm very quiet person with others but not with my family.

With my family I argue I raise my voice etc.

now if someone asks me if I'm nervous person than what should I tell?

thank you in advance.

2007-09-27 02:05:00 · 6 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family

I went on a date on tuesday called the girl up on wensday to tell her i would be gone for a couple of days to a wedding and i will posibly be bacxk next tuesday if she would like to gert together again, we had a great date filled with laughter, walk down by the beach, and some ice cream spilliage , was it to soon to call her yesterday

2007-09-27 02:04:46 · 21 answers · asked by dean 1 in Singles & Dating

Is it true that older women are wilder in bed? I don't mean to sound like an immature jerk but I've heard that older women are better in bed? Not only are they better at the regular stuff, but more older women do anal and stuff like that. Is that true?

2007-09-27 02:03:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how much is the %my kids will be parted when dividing our matrimonial home for our divorce settlement. If my 2 kids age 15 & 12 are not living with me but with my x-wife. is there a guidance of how much i should be entitled? I have not paid my mortgage share for 2 years and not lived with them?

2007-09-27 01:56:37 · 5 answers · asked by maebit 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-27 01:55:50 · 15 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi. Me and my wife divorced in Nov, 2004. Divorce decree stated half of 401K will be hers, but No QDRO was completed. Can she still come after me, or is it too late now?

2007-09-27 01:55:43 · 5 answers · asked by Wonderer 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok so heres my dilema...Our bridal party consist of 3 on each side 1 moh 2 bm and 1 bm and 2 gm. My FH added his other 4 closest friends bc he wants him involved. I am okay witht that. So it makes it a total of 7 guys now and 3 girls. I don't have anyone else to add bc well I don't have many female friends. We gettin married in a month. Does any one have any ideas of where to put them? Please help.

2007-09-27 01:55:25 · 7 answers · asked by redsoxchica06 1 in Weddings

I have a dilemma. First, I'm 3 months pregnant with our first child, which is awesome. Second, we are in over our heads with mortgage, credit card, car, etc. bills. It's taking us forever to catch up and I'm worried about our future. We both make decent money. (household income is ~85 g/year) But we live above our means. My parents have a very nice, 5 bedroom house, which only them two share. They offered to help us out with our finances by us moving in with them for a couple of years. We will have to pay rent though which is fine. The thing is, we have to decide soon if this is what we want to do. They are thinking about moving to a small condiminium if we don't take their offer so they need to know so they know whether to put their house on the market. My husband is all for the idea. I'm just afraid that we will never grow up if my parents continue to rescue us all the time. Has anyone faced this before? If so, how did it pan out?

2007-09-27 01:53:18 · 20 answers · asked by emmy 4 in Family

I need to kill time before i move to Mississippi but I can't go anywhere. My dad says for me and my brother to stay inside. We don't really go anywhere when he gets home from work and I really want these 2 months and like 18 days to go by fast so if you have any ideas on how to kill the time please help me.

2007-09-27 01:52:45 · 4 answers · asked by Das_Jennster 2 in Family

This guy wants to date me even though I'm going through a divorce and have three kids (8,11 and 15). I am attractive but comeon, what gives? I guess I'm just suspicious and lack trust in men right now because of all the heartache my husband put me through. Plus this guy is 6 yrs younger than me. It seems too good to be true. Should I just give it a try or wait? I've been separated from my husband for 3 months. I met this guy on blacksingles.com and he's been writing me for 2 months everyday.

2007-09-27 01:50:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Unload your troubles, tell me about it,how your Pi.....d of being at work, How your boy//girlfriend has blown you out, Scream at me like your haveing a go at your boss, How your mum wants you out. Tell me how you feel, sick, broke etc. I will be your soak if you want. Anything that you want to get of your chest then let me have it and maybe someone else will do it tomorrow. Go for it

2007-09-27 01:48:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I own an Irish Setter, Bessie. My wife & I enjoy talking her for walks and runs in the country side parks & woods. My wife and I are in our 50s now so we do not share such an active physical life as we did in our 30s, which is okay as we do have hobbies and a few shared passions.

Over the last year i have found reddish hairs around my wife's person especially in her draws. Sometimes they are stuck to her thighs or hips. I always put it down to her stroking the dog & scratching with the same hand. But now i fear something more sinister. I do want to hurt her but i am really fearing the worse now.

How should i ask her if she is sleeping with Bessie or am i just losing a grip?

2007-09-27 01:47:42 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and grew up with him and his brother who is now my husband. When *Gary* (b-in-l) was in high school he started working at a local restaurant after school that was suspected of letting employees do drugs after their shift was over. I thought it was a joke until Gary started working there. Well, he didn't have a lot of friends then and I feel that maybe he got into this drug doing crowd out of convenience (because he was there) and for acceptance. Now, three years later he has been arrested once, spent a week in jail, is on probation and just the other day was involved in another incident (all drug related). His home was raided and he now has a court date being charged with a 4th degree felony poss. charge. I assume he is going to jail. 2 Questions: 1) Do I keep ignoring what he is doing and love him unconditionally as I have? 2) Is there ANYTHING my hubby or I could do for him to stop this habit. I don't know how much more I can watch. It makes me so sad! :( Any advice?

2007-09-27 01:47:08 · 5 answers · asked by *Almost ready* 5 in Family

when you chatting online, if another person emails you pics to you, do you email your pic to them..???? I dont have much experience in chatting.. please help anyone..thanks for your time...

2007-09-27 01:46:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

In todays society, why do people even bother getting married anymore?

I know what a lot of you are going to say...

Marriage is a commitment?
-How is it a commitment? Do you really need a piece of paper to justify the relationship? You can't be committed to one another without being married? It obviously doesn't help with commitment, considering the divorce rates. It won't stop either one of you from seeing other people.

You can have kids without being married, you can raise kids without being married, you can be together without being married. Why marry?

Is it a show of the love you have for one another? if you love one another then do you really need some random clergyman (who is probably paying more attention to the choirboys) to announce to your friends and family members that you love one another, because he says so?

Seriously, give me some valid reasons for marriage being a positive thing in todays society.

I'd go on but yahoo has restricted the number of characters I have

2007-09-27 01:37:22 · 15 answers · asked by georgeishere 3 in Marriage & Divorce

me and my friends are going camping in a few months and my friend's mom is goin too an she is bringin a black guy an my friend is really against black people so what should i do? he is my best friend too and i don't get along good with them either really. so should i talk to her bout it or what should I do?

and i came up with the idea for the trip. so it was me who made the plans.

2007-09-27 01:35:00 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Not like he is going to hurt me or anything . I mean happy scared like I don't know how to explain it, He makes me laugh and smile all the time. I only have dated 1guy and he was a bad boy he treated me like crap. I'm not scared of Jake just everytime he says my name my legs get weak and everything, He said yesterday that I have very pretty eyes he has never seen anything like them, , I will b 17 in 2 months he is 18. He is so nice we were friends then when I started dating Derek and we stoped talking cuz Jake said Derek was a bad person and he was right. But yesterday he walked up and Said hey then I said hey, I started to walk away then he said I like u very much Jessica. Y do I feel like scared and happy at the same time?

2007-09-27 01:34:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 01:33:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-27 01:29:16 · 9 answers · asked by trapper82 1 in Marriage & Divorce

On my date last week, my boyfriend asked me to give him a blowjo*b under the table at the restaurant. As the place was deserted, I did it and (as a special treat to him) swallowed.

Yesterday, I found out that all our common friends know what I did and that have seen the pics too. My friends are now kidding me, calling all sorts of names....my image is totally sullied now.

I charged him and he confessed that he had told only his best friend how great I did it. He didnt imagine that everone would find out. Some sort of male bonding thing....

What do I do? Help? Do all my friends think I am a S***? What do I do? I like him a lot...dont want to dump him!! :(

2007-09-27 01:28:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend wanted to ride his motor bike & i said no i dont want you too cause i feel thats all your wrorried about i feel you dont show me love or attention at all, Thats what i said to him!
& then after i told him that he just got all abusiv & said ***** everything in a loud deep voice & then started throwing things around & yelling & all that stuff saying mean things to me & all that he done all that after i told him why i dont want him riding his motor bike & then he just told me to get the ***** out & then threw my keys at my knee & then i drove off & then about an hour later i came back but parked my car down the road & then walked into our front yard & then looked through the kitchen form out side through the blinds & i seen him on a girls chat site only? After i had tried to tell him how i felt lately? Do you think thats just ******* off him? He even says to me them sites dont interest him oh but they interest him when im not around! We are both 20 i bin with him for 3 yrz

2007-09-27 01:26:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

What would you do if you are cute, sweet, & shy kind of girl... with very cute construction guys working on your home street where you live, and you have to walk by them everyday to get to work???............... lol

2007-09-27 01:26:18 · 4 answers · asked by cherrychapstick 3 in Singles & Dating