On my date last week, my boyfriend asked me to give him a blowjo*b under the table at the restaurant. As the place was deserted, I did it and (as a special treat to him) swallowed.
Yesterday, I found out that all our common friends know what I did and that have seen the pics too. My friends are now kidding me, calling all sorts of names....my image is totally sullied now.
I charged him and he confessed that he had told only his best friend how great I did it. He didnt imagine that everone would find out. Some sort of male bonding thing....
What do I do? Help? Do all my friends think I am a S***? What do I do? I like him a lot...dont want to dump him!! :(
2007-09-27 01:28:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont feel like a sl*t...he is your boyfriend but I am surprised he told a friend and so on. Thats a personal act and he should not have told anyone. If you feel you cant trust him, leave him.
2007-09-27 01:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must admit that this is a pretty embarrassing situation. Not because of what you did, but that everyone found out when you didn't want them to. I think that shows a breaking of trust between you and your boyfriend. While I wouldn't start talking about dumping him just yet, you're gonna have to start asking yourself some hard questions, like 'Am I going to be able to trust him with other secrets?', 'Could I ever do anything like that for him again?' - if the answer's no, then maybe it's time to leave. You also have to make sure he knows how you feel about this. But for the record, giving your bf a bj doesn't make you a slut, if it did, half the women in the world would be.
2007-09-27 01:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by blox316 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has no respect for you. What you two do between the sheets or under tables is between you and should not go further. I don't care about "male bonding". It's no excuse, he had no right telling anyone. What it really says is that he cares more about his ego than you.
Plenty of couples try things in public places. It doesn't make you a slut. I don't know what your friends think but it shouldn't be that.
That's up to you if you don't want to dump someone who has no respect for you but keep in mind that anyone who truly values you, your relationship and your time together would not spill all the intimate details, not even to best buds.
2007-09-27 01:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask your boyfriend to confront his friend about why he told everyone although at the end of the day the true fault really lies with your boyfriend. You did something to please him and he repaid you by breaching the trust. Although you say you don't want to dump him, I really think you need to look at your relationship and think about whether or not you can trust him with you secrets in the future or you could end up with a very timid sexual relationship
However, the chances are that something will happen in your group of friends and you'll end up yesterdays news. If you do find out your friends are talking about still you could confront them and tell them that you are not a sl*t as you only did something for a boyfriend who you are in a loving relationship with and are not doing it with a different guy every week
2007-09-27 01:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by whats my name again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it like this....one it's free advertisement and all the guys will be trying to get with you. If you are in high school, at least you are guaranteed a date for all school dances, prom and homecoming. You go, Girl!
Second, when the friends tease you laugh with a serious tone and gloat like guys do. "Yeah, I'm a star at that kinda thing" Be like Paris Hilton, flaunt what you got (blowskills) to get what you want (not quite sure what that is).
Otherwise, you will be labeled and disrespected forever!
Also, your BF is not trustworthy, he's a jerk and you should not let that immature azz disrespect you like that.
2007-09-27 01:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your boyfriend sounds like a real jerk. If my boyfriend asked me to do something like that, I would tell him he's an idiot. And there's pictures?! Wow...
Either way, this will pass. You'll be talked about for a while, but like any news it will become old. If you want to stay with him, cool. I would cut him off for a while though.
2007-09-27 01:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore them....you like him and you were just being nice and wow he told one guy friend bragging and it got around. It's just like how you probably brag to your girlfriends when he does something you enjoy. It's a part of life don't let the little kidding and calling names get to you soon enough they will forget about it and find something else to mess with or someone else to pick on. I doubt they think your a S***.
tell your boyfriend you would rather him not brag to his friends and keep your private/sex life private.
2007-09-27 01:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Rayray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. You REALLY like a guy who would take pics of you performing an intimate sexual act on him that he made public.
You performed oral sex in a public place while pictures were being taken. How would you characterize any girl you knew who did that?
This guy cares nothing about you. Sounds like you don't care much about yourself either.
2007-09-27 01:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by lunatic 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take it like a slut and shut up. Seriously, if this was true you have to expect people to think you are a slut doing something like that. And really if he would want you to do that and would take picture, he must be a ******* idiot and not worth any self-respecting persons time.
2007-09-27 01:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by daboss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow A BJ in public. Ballsy very ballsy. ignore them it will go away.
2007-09-27 01:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋