Should I trust my wife?

Question

I own an Irish Setter, Bessie. My wife & I enjoy talking her for walks and runs in the country side parks & woods. My wife and I are in our 50s now so we do not share such an active physical life as we did in our 30s, which is okay as we do have hobbies and a few shared passions.

Over the last year i have found reddish hairs around my wife's person especially in her draws. Sometimes they are stuck to her thighs or hips. I always put it down to her stroking the dog & scratching with the same hand. But now i fear something more sinister. I do want to hurt her but i am really fearing the worse now.

How should i ask her if she is sleeping with Bessie or am i just losing a grip?

I am shocked by the insensitivity of some of you. How would you like it if you had 2 bit.ches in your house?

Answer 1

If you suspect the 'worst' you should gather your evidence and make it 'stick'. When you confront her though, remind her that you still love her after all these years and also you should consider the possibility of a threesome. I'm sure Bessie is loyal and those setters can go a bit if you smear a bit of pedigree chum in those special areas....I've....er....heard of course. Personally I prefer crows, it's the feathers you see.

P.S. please do not worry about individuals calling you perverted or sick, you merely asked a question as a concerned husband. Furthermore Mr Wagner, sorry Mr Nightcrawler (almost gave away your secret ID there!) you are a freak by nature (meant in the best possible sense of course) and nothing you say or do should be interpretted otherwise. So lastly, as Missy would say Get ur freak on!!! Bessie awaits on bended paw...

Answer 2

I dont know if your over reacting or not? Now a days you just never know? As a 40 year old woman who has lots of friends, their ages range fron 19 to 55, and I tell ya what, its the girlfriends in their 50,s that I tend to worry about more so, what I mean by that is that these ladies have this thing about searching for something better, they seem to be trying to regain their youth by making the wrong choices. Im not saying that every woman who turns 50 cant be trusted or their out messing around, but I do think that women who are going thru their change of life seem to be more at a risk for making wrong choices. If I were you, why not follow her? just see what shes up to? I know it sounds ugly and its awful not trusting your mate, but if you really want to know this is the only way to find out. Also if you dont have the time, but you do have the money, hire someone to follow her for a week, its gonna be money well spent. Trust your intuition, if it feels like somethings going on, you may be right! But a red headed man? that sounds a bit odd? I mean you say shes in her 50,s? if so, most guys in this age group, have either lost most of their hair years ago, or are graying, so the red hair thing has me doughting things. But if you want to sleep at night, check into it.

Answer 3

you are losing a grip. if you confront her with this twisted accusation, she could be very hurt by it and it will ruin the relationship you have with her. you have an irish setter. is it quite possible that maybe bessie was in the bathtub or on the bed, and your wife went to bathe or laydown it got stuck to her. dogs do shed. there has to be a logical explanation for it. your acting a little paranoid. if you seriously believe this is true. act very nice to her. treat her well. maybe share a secret of yours with her. it could prompt her to tell you whats up.

Answer 4

I do hope this question was a joke. If it wasn't and you actually wanted an answer, it would have helped if you had told us where you are from. If Kentucky or one of those backwards states then, yes, maybe she is lying with the dog. lol.

Other than that, I have four tiny Shih Tzus and their hairs are constantly ending up all over things. Like when I am in the bathroom handling my business and my undies are down, they do attract hairs from the floor. Anyways, if all else fails, ask the dog...

Answer 5

Could be that dog hairs are getting stuck in the laundry (static electricity). I suggest you and her start walking the dog together, as a 'date'. Don't be paranoid. Walking the dog is a healthy life choice (cardio). Talk with (not at) your wife about her day, movies, etc. Spark the spark again

Answer 6

i'd rather have two btiches in my house than one of you...

Seriously, it's a girl dog, what could she possibly be doing with it that she couldn't do with a loofah?

My family has a setter, the hair does get everywhere. i have two little terriers, i even find their hairs in my belly button sometimes!! You can't control where the hair goes. does she complain if YOU have hairs of the dog on you?

If you're really worried she's not getting enough, buy her a vibrator.

Answer 7

I think you should trust your wife, until you have real info that shows any betrayal.. Compare the red hair.. dog hair and human hair is quite different.. and in our 50's, lots of couples become more insecure about their relationships...
approach your wife with some humor about the hair and see how she reacts...that will open a dialog..don't accuse her of anything just yet..... be open.. good luck.

Answer 8

Perhaps she is sleeping with a reddish coloured haired man!!

why should you not be passionate in your 50's as you were in your 30's

Answer 9

ur losing ur grip lol.

does she put any dog bedding in with her washing? could be off that.

either that or she is riding bessie like a horse.

Answer 10

Um, I have dogs and I get their hair all over my pants, I have never touched my dogs in an inappropriate manner and never would. Are you really coincerned that your wife is doing that? She might get really offended if you ask her this.