Family & Relationships - 27 September 2007

I was watching this couple on TV who have been married for 25 years - they were dating for 4 years before they were married. They were giving a younger couple advice about it and some of things they said touched me:

- the husband said in order to love someone, you have to love yourself and you have to LOVE and accept the partner's "negative/weak" qualities FIRST before loving the "positive/strengths" so then you will love the person more. He said girls will be moody sometimes and he learned to love and accept it and vice versa

- Always stay positive, never give up on yourself and on your partner - DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT OTHERS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT YOU TWO "who cares?" - even when there are problems, (financially, situational, etc...) always stay strong and say, "it's okay, everything's going to be okay.."

WHAT DO YOU THINK? TRUE? CAN YOU GUYS ADD MORE? I APPRECIATE ALL THE WISDOM :)

2007-09-27 07:43:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

An acquaintance of mine from highschool recently responded to a is everything okay email from me with some shocking news. Her husband of 4 years and the father of their 2 kids has been beating her, cheating on her, and lying to her and her family from the start. She doesn't want to leave him because she doesn't think they'll let her keep the kids because she never graduated hs, has no job, and he doesn't beat the kids, plus she says where would they go? She doesn't want to take her kids with her to a shelter. The girl is 2 and she just had a baby boy in August. What can I tell her? I want to give her some words of courage and advice, understanding and strength but I don't know what to say or how to say it. We're not close, I barely spoke to her in hs! Help!

2007-09-27 07:42:46 · 9 answers · asked by mrs.v 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 6 weeks pregnant, and my fiance' smokes like a chimney. He smokes at least 2 packs a day! It didn't bother me that much, know the smoke almost chokes me to death. I almost puke when it gets in my face. How can I ask him to quit smoking around me, excpecially when we are about to get married. Any suggestions? I want to be nice about it.

2007-09-27 07:41:16 · 12 answers · asked by nana_14 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok so ive been in this relationship for 3 years and we dont have sex anymore....Im gay male but my boyfriend never wants to have sex...he says its because he is not emotionally, mentally, or physically into it ...What does that mean...Is he not interested anymore or am i not being loving enough?

2007-09-27 07:40:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 07:40:48 · 10 answers · asked by Freesumpin 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

can anyone tell me some things i can say to him... to break up with him.. like i don't want to be a ***** about it so0o0o0o...... yeah...

2007-09-27 07:39:19 · 3 answers · asked by VERTENHEN. 1 in Singles & Dating

okay well i live in NY wth my mom and i want to move to my dad's in michigan but my mom wont let me. i am very depressed in ny and my stepdad is an alcoholic. im tired of seeing her hurt and it hurts me to see the fights. i have to get away from here, because im becming depressed. is there a law that at a certain age a child can decide which parent they want to live with?im 14 and i dont want to bring this to court and have a big argument. i also dont want to tell my dad about my family problems in ny. please help! i will choose a best answer!

2007-09-27 07:37:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-27 07:36:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he isin't mr. good looking but is so nice and funny and is good at advise and everything else. today i have a football game an d hes gonna ask me out! oh im in band and hes my secion leader and hes a senior and im a freshman. thats another reason im worried hell graduate and leave me behind. i also dont wanna lose a good friend. oh and my x want to hook it up w/ me again and so does this other guy. i still have feelings for my x and we still make out cause we have like a week of broken up. hes my first everything...and we got so close that he tells me everything and i tell him stuff so serious when i ****** up in life and he understands cause hes gon through some **** too. hes the only one that knows.exept my mother. i also dont wanna mess up w/ da guy cause cause that guy is so innocent. like i said , im a flirt and i could commit myself to him but these other 2 guys bettween us has gone serious too. especially my x. what da hell do i do????

2007-09-27 07:35:13 · 1 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Singles & Dating

My dad has no trust in me whatsoever. He won't even walk to the library afterschool, which is five minutes away from my school... I really need to earn some trust. Any suggestion. Also, he says I have a really bitchy attitude, I agree sort of. Any ideas on how to control my attitude?

2007-09-27 07:34:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Paying the bills, reconciling the checkbook, maintaining the finances, etc. Is it a joint effort or is it one or the other's responsibility?

2007-09-27 07:32:03 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-27 07:27:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am married and am not in love with him and havent been. Dont ask why I got married cause i dont know. It is my second marriage we have only been married for 6 mths. Well i really like this other guy and we have been talking for about 2 mths and things are serious but anyway i would like to know if im in the wrong by staying with my husband till i get out of school so we can get some things payed off while im in school. My husband is gone every other week and there is just nothing at all there.

2007-09-27 07:27:16 · 16 answers · asked by Amanda O 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-27 07:25:32 · 42 answers · asked by cherries 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, my husband loves to check out other women all the time, whether on tv, restautants, family parks and comments on them to me. As in "She is f***ing gorgeous!" I know he's going to check them out, but they are always 10 years younger and haven't had kids. Needless to say, I'm irritated by this and feeling insecure. Is he disrespectful or am I too uptight and trying to change him as he says?

2007-09-27 07:22:26 · 10 answers · asked by shelby 2 in Singles & Dating

It's like God saying yes i will bless your union as long as you pay me £1000.

2007-09-27 07:17:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When your in a meeting and really have to fart how do you hide it.Do you cough or sneeze or let it out.Tell me now

2007-09-27 07:17:10 · 12 answers · asked by alex o 2 in Family

Thinking of getting marry on the island or the cruise...but would like to have a nice big BBQ when we returned. I'm not really into the traditional church weddings/reception. I'm more into casual thing. Want my guests to be comfortable....Is it apprioate to wear the gown again or should I get a white sun dress????

2007-09-27 07:17:01 · 10 answers · asked by njgal14 1 in Weddings

Such as cleaning, washing dishes after dinner, helping with homework, any ideas would help.

2007-09-27 07:15:47 · 7 answers · asked by Brandie 3 in Family

My bf's ex is a total wack job. she treated him like a piece of trash and cheated on him. she still thinks she did nothing wrong to him and doesnt know why he was so mean to her at the end of the relationship. shes getting on my nerves cuz shes still trying to hold on to him by not signing over the car and writing him emails and posting blogs about him on her myspace. she knows i exist and she wont mention me or say anything bad about me out of fear. i just want her to go away and stay away. i want to be able to start a family and have a life with this man, but she wont let him go. she even had another bf and that guy cheated on her! so what, now she wants mine cuz he was a real man? someone please help me. for some reason i wont feel better until i know everything is done with her (paperwork) and i know shes out of our lives for good. and i dont want to have to hunt her down and hurt her. cuz i would if i could, but i dont think thats the best idea right now.

2007-09-27 07:12:11 · 10 answers · asked by shutupndrive 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm trying to plan my wedding, we're doing a normal one, then getting married in the temple sometime later. And as I don't like the rings etc typical weddings anyway, I was hoping to do the old pre-Wiccan Scottish handfasting temporary wedding kind of ceremony. Where they'd do that, and then get married by a priest later.
I'm doing research myself, but I was wondering if anyone could explain how to do these kinds of weddings, or give me websites that do.
We are Scottish, but I don't think my great-grandfather would know about this too much. And he doesn't like talking to people anyway, so i can't ask. lol

2007-09-27 07:11:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I shouldn't be feeling the way i am at my age esp about a guy i hardly know who aint returning phone calls but i am; I need some consolation.

2007-09-27 07:10:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i am a young unmarried gal doin her masters, a married guy is madly in love with me, i have no problems with his marriage as he has managed to keep me very happy and satisfied... also people are happy with him at home but definately dont know abt our relation... is there anything wrong here

2007-09-27 07:08:17 · 3 answers · asked by rashmi s 1 in Singles & Dating

i'm 22 and i'm not feeling the passion towards my boyfriend of 4 years....he feels it for me. i know we love eachother and i know he'll be a great husband someday...but im afraid if there is no passion at this age, it'll only be worse later. what is more important passion or comfort?

2007-09-27 07:08:08 · 27 answers · asked by sharimonk 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i reposted a question a few minutes ago and realized i had mixed up my words. I broke up with my b/f 3 times. he hates my family and calls them racist names.I feel he is cheating on me with a "friend" from ohio. his ex is pregnant and he goes to see her every weekend. he tried getting me pregnant by poking holes in the condoms. i found out after we had sex. so there is a chance i might be pregnant. it was our first time having sex. he wants to move in with my daughter and i. i'm 23 and i am already raising one child i don't need to raise another. i told him that we were over but he came to my house and acted like nothing had changed. my dad was here the last time he showed up and told him "my daughter dumped you what are you doing here?". i told him face to face that i didn't want to be with him. i e-mailed him called him and left it on his voice mail. even texted it. and he still chooses to ignore it. how else am i sposed to get through to him? i am not going to go into hiding to get

2007-09-27 07:06:32 · 16 answers · asked by ♥ Ash ♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

Do think im being selfish im 23 years old and married with 2 young children i went on holiday with my friend for a week with out my kids or husband because he didnt mind me going.My friend as asked me if i would like to go again next year ive asked my husband but he says im selfish and i cant go.I wouldnt mind but he doesnt work its me who works long hours every week and when im not working he goes out and i take care of the kids and the house work.We are planning on going away as a family in 2009 when my youngest is abit older.

2007-09-27 07:06:23 · 50 answers · asked by nicola r 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She is getting married in the next 3 weeks on the Carnival Cruise to the carribean and I feel that it is extremly import for me to go, so here's the thing I was going to go but I had to pay so many bills and she wanted it all up front but I really really want to suprise her and be there!!

so does any one know of a payment plan or somehting of that nature to get me there and pay monthly.. ect


PLEASE HELP I REALLY REALLY NEED TO BE THERE!

2007-09-27 07:05:59 · 6 answers · asked by Jessica M 1 in Weddings

2007-09-27 07:03:20 · 2 answers · asked by froggie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

hi. i work full time at a luxury store (full time+ commission).a few weeks ago i turned in my resignation because i wasn't happy with management. i get a call back from the president of our company and explained my situation. he asked me to stay and he said he would fix the situation. and he did.....which i am very happy about. now my 3 yr anniversary is coming up in 2 months and i was wondering if i should ask for a raise?the store isn't doing exceptionally well but the overall company is.i know the store is going to move (which is why he wanted me to stay) which will definitely improve money coming in.right now i am one of the few who have been in the store since it has opened and i make about the same as everyone hourly but the only difference is i make commission which isn't alot...maybe overall including commission it is basically $1-$1.50 more than everyone else who starts.

2007-09-27 07:01:02 · 8 answers · asked by pinkyhead701 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There's this guy at uni who I've met like once in the corridor and he keeps randomly hugging me which is really weird. He seems a little bit odd as well. I like this other guy but I don't have a clue if he likes me and I'm a bit unsure how to go about being subtle?

2007-09-27 06:58:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating