Ok, my husband loves to check out other women all the time, whether on tv, restautants, family parks and comments on them to me. As in "She is f***ing gorgeous!" I know he's going to check them out, but they are always 10 years younger and haven't had kids. Needless to say, I'm irritated by this and feeling insecure. Is he disrespectful or am I too uptight and trying to change him as he says?
2007-09-27 07:22:26 · 10 answers · asked by shelby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is disrespectful and you need to address it with him. You can ask him to keep his comment to himself.
However don't let it bother you. Remember he is with you when this happens! That is a good sign. If he wanted something else he would be gone. He is your husband! He goes home with you! You are the focus of his life. I know this because to do all the things you mentioned he has to be spending a great deal of time with you and you all are going out. Not just cooped up in the house.
Where men spend there time is where their heart is. His heart is with you!
The next time you hear him say something about a girl 10 yr your junior (with no kids) just think they should hope to look as good as you and have a husband an successful relationship in 10 years! You might even what to tell him that! (The can only hope to look as good as me in 10 years after they have kids!)
Good Luck to you!
2007-09-27 07:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Bill C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone checks people out to a certain extent. Try not to feel so insecure about it. It is normal. He is being disrespectful to you in the way he is doing it. The next time you see a hot guy do the same thing and see how he likes it. Some guys don't have a clue until they are in your shoes.
2007-09-27 14:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compliment the girl also, and tell him to stop acting like such an idiotic walking hormone. See what he likes about that girl and try it out. Try dressing like a school girl before bed one night. Tell him that those are girls and you are a woman you are more experienced and can rock his world. When you see good looking men say Honey I like his hair or look at that guys pants those would look good on you or something like that
2007-09-27 14:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's bad for him to be looking. He doesn't have to be so obvious about it in front of you. I would tell him that it bothers you when he checks out the hotties. He will probably stop commenting to you about it. But if you expect him to stop noticing altogether, that's just not realistic.
2007-09-27 14:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by asig33882003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he can keep his comments to himself. Unless he says the same about you on a regualr basis.
I mean all guys look, but there is no reason to be rude.
2007-09-27 14:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes an asshole.
Your his wife, hes supposed to love you. Thats total crap.
Leave his dumbass, or tell him to get a clue.
You don't deserve that, no man should make you feel bad about yourself, especialy when you've been good to him.
2007-09-27 14:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you, talk to him. You'll never stop him from admiring other women, but if you let him know that you find it disrespectful to be so verbal about it, he'll probably ogle quietly to himself.
2007-09-27 14:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by Dictatormama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk, so if it bothers you and you told him, I would start checking out guys and pointing it out to him. Give him a taste of how it feel. Wow that guy is hot, look at his ***
2007-09-27 14:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well guys are always gonna look..he's just open about it...i think u should look at hot young guys and comment on their great bodys n attributes...bcuz 2 can play that game.
2007-09-27 14:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's disrespectful, plain and simple. he must feel insecure about his sexuality to constantly feel the need to express it to everyone.
2007-09-27 14:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by voodoogeisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋