Ok so ive been in this relationship for 3 years and we dont have sex anymore....Im gay male but my boyfriend never wants to have sex...he says its because he is not emotionally, mentally, or physically into it ...What does that mean...Is he not interested anymore or am i not being loving enough?
2007-09-27 07:40:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Angel, I'm a straight male who, like your partner is going through a similar predicament. I'm in my early fifties, healthy and no real worries to talk about so it could only mean that I've lost interest. My girlfriend at first thought I did'nt fancy her anymore so when I explained that I did'nt fancy sex with any woman anymore she began to calm down. I do not need sex like most people do to feel loved as there are other qualities in a relationship to keep it going. I suspect your partner maybe taking a break to see what binds you together, in other words re-evaluating your relationship.
2007-09-27 07:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by moriartee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be that ya'll have fallen into a routine when it comes to sex. You know, come home from work, eat dinner, take a shower, have sex, fall asleep. Maybe he's not so into it anymore because he knows what to expect. Sex should be fun and exciting, not monotonous.
Granted that your boyfriend is willing to be adventurous, you can always try switching it up a little with some costumes or toys or props. Or start with a sensual back rub. Or just do it somewhere you normally don't, like in a car or the backyard.
Just be creative and don't be ashamed to experiment and have fun.
2007-09-27 14:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Emotionally, mentally, or physically into it? It almost sounds like he doesn't even like you. You should sit down and talk with him. Not to sound like a jerk but maybe he's actually straight. I mean, even if I wasn't into it emotionally or mentally with a girl, I'd still be physically into it just because I am a straight male. The only way I wouldn't physically be into it is if I hated her but then I wouldn't be dating her. Talk to him.
2007-09-27 14:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is getting something on the side or has a disease that he can't come clean about and might not want your to contract. after 3 years you know each other enough to be comfortable talking about these things and he is shutting you out for some reason. sit him down and be non confrontational about it. also, never talk about your sex life problems in the bedroom it will do subconscious damage.
2007-09-27 14:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by dizzygrltoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it may mean you need a new boyfriend. Sex in a relationship is a relatively big deal. It's a form of intimacy and without it, the relationship will suffer. You can try expressing that to him or you can leave him if he won't even try. Also, remind him that the more you do something, the more you'll WANT to keep doing it.
2007-09-27 14:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is not emotionally, mentally or physically into it he is done with the relationship. Is there someone else?
2007-09-27 14:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's something you have to ask your boyfriend. You guys are in a relationship together so you should do each other a favor and be honest and open with each other. (If you can't do that, why are you in a relationship?) God bless.
2007-09-27 14:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by wizball 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him why he is still with you if he gets nothing from this relationship. Sounds like he is not in love but just does not want to be alone
2007-09-27 14:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your being too clingy or too mushy. If you are the one asking for it.....don't. Let him come to you. Don't even say the word sex around him until he has got the biggest blue balls in the world.
2007-09-27 14:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by nana_14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm it's probably cuz he's getting bored of it. you need to change how you guys been doing and do something different and romantic to turn him on good luck!
2007-09-27 14:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Belle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋