I was watching this couple on TV who have been married for 25 years - they were dating for 4 years before they were married. They were giving a younger couple advice about it and some of things they said touched me:
- the husband said in order to love someone, you have to love yourself and you have to LOVE and accept the partner's "negative/weak" qualities FIRST before loving the "positive/strengths" so then you will love the person more. He said girls will be moody sometimes and he learned to love and accept it and vice versa
- Always stay positive, never give up on yourself and on your partner - DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT OTHERS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT YOU TWO "who cares?" - even when there are problems, (financially, situational, etc...) always stay strong and say, "it's okay, everything's going to be okay.."
WHAT DO YOU THINK? TRUE? CAN YOU GUYS ADD MORE? I APPRECIATE ALL THE WISDOM :)
2007-09-27 07:43:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't sweat the small stuff. Pick your battles. I realize that my husband can't put two dirty socks IN the hamper to save his life. Instead of having a raging battle every morning over SOCKS... I let it go and pick them up myself. In turn he realizes that I for the life of me cannot stop myself from trying on at least 10 different shirts each morning. :-) He bought me a special chair to throw them on, so they don't end up all over the room. Never start an argument with you NEVER or you ALWAYS. And never give the cold shoulder. You have no guarantee that when they slam that door on their way to work if they'll ever be back again. Let him leave with words of love (even if they're heated and forced- I've said "Yea? Well I frickin LOVE you!" I don't know how many times) You dont want to sit there crying and have to add to your pain with "If only I hadn't said/had said " And as for money fights-- unless one of you is going out and gambling, or buying big screens... relax a little. Its just money, you'll always make more. So what if she bought the brand name bread for 30 cents more... in twenty years, will it matter? Good luck!!!!
2007-09-27 07:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have been together 8 years, and it's been an up and down roller coaster. If I had any good advice, it would be to make sure that you always talk through your problems. No talk = no resolution.
And if there is no resolution, the small problems can get Godzilla sized, and then you have to work way harder to make things right.
2007-09-27 16:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by xylina_69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. For TV writers there is a lot of wisdom there. When you are married you will do two things. Love them because of who they are, and love them in spite of who they are.
2007-09-27 14:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to believe in the two of you, no matter what. its true that you have your partner for all their qualities,good along with bad. you don't have to always be right, you have to do what works for the two of you. always tell him you love him, always show him you do.
2007-09-27 14:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit simplistic but basically a very good foundation to build upon.
2007-09-27 14:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key. You have to be able to talk to your spouse, and you have to be able to listen to them, as well, without getting into an argument over everything.
If you can't even TALK about problems, there's no hope of RESOLVING them.
2007-09-27 14:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all boils down to respect. w/o that, you can't have the rest. when he says not to listen to what others say, he's very right. to many opinions can make you goofy.
2007-09-27 14:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is some very good advice.
2007-09-27 15:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋