2007-09-27 01:02:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just deal with it until you get married..then you just kinda fade away, Always be nice though...Don't give her a reason to start something.
2007-09-27 01:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Xander 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I don't know what she is doing, but if she is just trying to make your life miserable without cause, I would sit down and have a talk with her. I would tell her that we seem to be having problems in our relationship as MIL/DIL and tell her that I want the relationship to work for husband's sake. What can we do to get along better? Let her know that your heart is in the right place where he's concerned and that you love him very much and are not trying to keep him away or take him away from her and are grateful for her sharing him with you. Good luck and I hope all works out for you.
2007-09-27 01:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by ursobustedmr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bury her?? LOL.... I agree with the person who said to let her know you're not someone to push around. I'm dealing with a MIL from hell who is an alcoholic. She wants to be with my children 7 & 7weeks..and I said absolutely not...the alcohol is more important to suck daily than her grandkids so I just told her no way until you change your drinking.
She needs to be told..."Listen, I am married to your son and what goes on in OUR marriage/life/family is our business." You can try being nice about it and saying something like if ya get in a rut you'd ask her...whether you mean it or not..it at least should shut her up and also let her think you "might" need her eventually. Hopefully it works out for ya. Good Luck
2007-09-27 01:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let her know that you will not be pushed around. When she gives you a hard time stand up for yourself every time. I complained to my husband once about his mother and he told me not to tell him to tell her. That is exactly what I did. If she tries to get out of hand he also tells her about it. You did not marry her and you do not have to put up with anyone trying to bully you. If you let her do it she will continue. My two sister in laws sit there and take whatever she dishes out.
2007-09-27 01:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I presented my mother-in-law with a photograph.
It was a picture of 7 men lined up against a wall inside a garage in Chicago 1929. It's called "The St. Valentine's Day Massacre."
Never was bothered by her again.
2007-09-27 04:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Nigel8ball 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow this question brings back some memories, my mil was so cold that when she walked into the room the furnace would come on. but the thing that kept me going was knowing she messed up the other in laws just as bad if not worse and they never told her anything. i got to hand it to the old battle axe, she was a fiesty one. myself i just told her, and well knowing what comes around goes around too, to bad her children don't have a mate or a life of their own.
2007-09-27 01:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my inlaws are overbearing, more my FIL. They are both famous for dishing out advice to anyone and everyone at every opportunity. They have pissed off family and neighbors for years. When they used to tell me what to do I just said "oh, okay". And I went ahead and did what I was going to do anyway. They seemed to quickly figure out that I was not one to be told what to do, and laid off. It has been years since they have given me any advice.
2007-09-27 03:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move.
Just kidding. As hard as it is to put up with the in-laws, you have to respect them in their house. YOu do not however have to allow them to walk all over you, and when it comes to your house and your family, you and your spouse have to be a united front. Ever hear of caller ID? I screen my in-laws. I only talk to them twice a week. It's a great arrangement.
2007-09-27 01:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Allison P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what works for me: I have little to no contact with her.
I have made it clear that her nasty comments and remarks and insults do not effect me. My mother in law is aware that I could care less about anything she has to say. I am not interested in hearing her gossip or bad mouth anyone and she knows her son dosn't want to hear it either so she has backed off and we do not entertant her drama we avoid her and it.
2007-09-27 02:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What I did was let her know up front that I was not the type to be pushed around. I did it in a nice way but she got the message. Let her know you are married to her child but not to her. Things will go smother that way.
2007-09-27 01:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋