I've been told a couple of times 'don't go looking for love, let it find you? Do you have any love stories to share to back up this claim? Thanks for your replies.
2007-09-27 07:58:44 · 23 answers · asked by mitchchan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will totally confirm that is true! My husband walked out on me last summer and I was really crushed. I decided I didn't want anyone else because nobody would ever want me being that I had a 1 1/2 year old daughter at the time. So I gave up on everything and two months later, I met someone incredible! Funny story...he asked a question on here and I came across it and asnwered it. He gave me the best answer and somehow we ended up talking. We've been together over a year now and moved in together 4 months ago. I couldn't be happier!!!
2007-09-27 08:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most of the people on here are right. Sometimes when you look for someone you'll try to hard without even knowing. This can make you appear desperate. For girls it can make guys try to get a one night stand and then find someone else. In most cases it just makes the person you're targeting run away.
On the other hand sometimes you're so desperate you'll end up with someone prematurely and have a bad relationship.
I was looking for a guy. The first guy made out with me and wanted me to go further when we were alone. As soon as our friends were around it was like he barely knew me. A couple weeks later he ended up hooking up with a girl who he thought was the "love of his life" and started dating her. I had the same thing happen with a second guy. Most of the guys after that I would get close too, but then back out when I found flaws in them(although most were legitimate). About a year later I finally gave up. Then I met a great guy. He wasn't looking for anyone at that time either. Now we've been together for almost 3 years.
2007-09-27 15:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by misstsukino 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
true love is strange and you would be shocked at what can find you when your least expecting it. First off i was married to my first husband we were split and moving on with life, I was having fun not looking for anything just enjoying life and all it has to offer. When without thinking of it or even looking I ran into my high school love I hadn't seen him in 15 yrs there he was split from his wife and raising his four kids we started talking and from that 1st night we have been together every day for the last 5 yrs. We recently got married and are raising our 8 children together.
2007-10-05 12:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by doodiemoonwalker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion don't be desperate on love,just be kind and loving,compassionate to these that are down . I was once desperate on looking for love because of loneliness, I turned into some witchery books on how to do spells on men,I attracted men but the vibes is not good. I was looking for love outside but all the time the love is inside me,loving myself makes me a better person and I can give love (kindness) to others because I have plenty. Now I am attracted to nice men ,and I felt that love will come to me. I hope soon you will find your true love. God Bless you.
2007-10-05 14:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an ordinary teen. And we love the feeling of being loved. And usually, we will have our eyes open for every guy that we see, hoping that he will be the right one. This weekend, i met this amazing guy and it was kindof this spur the moment thing, and now we are together. Its not like i was looking for a relationship, it kinda just happened. it feels so much better when it is unexpected, and you will get more out of it too.
2007-09-27 15:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by halster7 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes i do.... that statement is true for some people but not all. it was true for me. over a year ago yes i wanted a boyfriend but no i was not out looking for one because i kind of liked being single and free. i went to this place called the L.U.L.A.C. were they had dances mostly mexican music and well i liked how the music sounded good. plus i think hispanic guys are very atractive. well any way it was may 3rd 2006 and my family wanted to go to a mexican resteraunt on cinco de mayo so we went the 3rd just because we felt like it. so we went to this resteraunt called Jaliscos and i say this waiter and he was very cute with a genuine smile so i looked at him thinking he was cute like i did most other hispanic/mexican guys at the time. he seemed different but we were both shy and i was not just going to go up to him and start talking because i'm not like that. well he seemed to like me because i went to the bathroom and there is a halway to get back there well when i came out he was in the halway and said hi to me and como estas(how are you?) well i was suprised and for the life of me could not remember what como estas ment. well we went back on cinco de mayo and he asked me for my number at the time i didn't have a phone so i couldn't give him my number. but he also asked me if i was going to come back again and i said sure so my family and i went back to Jaliscos every wednesday. once i got a phone he called and texted me a lot it was sweet. we had out first date on the 4th of July 2006 and he was the one to say i love you first. we have been together for over a year now. so to answer your question yes let love come to you it will happen! um i hope i helped!!!!!!!!
2007-09-27 15:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My own! After 1 failed marriage and several years of being alone, I decided to give up on men, "simply socialize" within my circle of friends and stop looking for a relationship. Almost immediately, at a wedding for a friend of mine, I met an amazing man. We moved in together within 1 month, were married within 1 year -- and have been together happily for 20 years now!
2007-09-27 15:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was just out of homelessness and in a 'tenant managed' building. I was called on to give the 'orientation' to some new potential tenants. There was one man who 'talked very well' and about things that I liked to talk about ... he moved in and we became 'best friends.' Neither of us had any 'interest' in 'getting together for sex or a relationship' so we PRETENDED to be going together. OOPS. We've been married now for nearly 11 years, and are 'together forever and beyond.' DO NOT GO LOOKING FOR LOVE ... because then God (or fate, or whatever) is free to 'step in' and give you what you need for your life ... and beyond.
2007-09-27 15:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kris L 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you chase pleasure then you may have the misfortune of overtaking it.
If you try too hard then it won't be natural. Love doesn't like to be forced. It can't be bribed nor bullied.
Looking for love with your intellect will only result in a business deal and while some are satisfied with that, its not true love.
2007-09-27 15:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
yap its true it happen to me...about a yr ago when me and my ex broke up.....within that time frame i was asking my friend to find me a date..u know? but nothing works out.... but when i was less expecting love.....then i met this man.....it was very unexpected.....that time i remember i'm not even dress to kill or no make up just simple me....lol
i met this man i could probably say it was love at first sight for both of us......we both have a good chemistry ofcourse he end up to be my bf.....but for some reason my ex start calling me again then that kinda ruin my relationship w/my new bf...he didnt understand why i'm being friends w/my ex....so now i'm still trying to let him understand(my bf) so wish me luck on that.....
so on your situation....to be honest it depend if your too busy, where u work or your school something like that...cuz if your working in a busy area or your school most likely u could meet more ppl than in a area that u always see your computer or your paper works...lol
any how good luck
2007-09-27 15:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by angel 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋