as you will see from previous questions my bf's ex wont allow me to have anything to do with their children. I have done nothing to deserve this,i have a child of my own and am a good mum.i've grown to half tolerate this awful situation, even though i really do not like it. But now its got even worse tonight. He was on phone to me while his youngest (3 yr old) was there. She asked who was on the phone, he lied and said his male friend, she wanted to talk to him, so bf told me he couldnt continue the convo.
He sent text saying he cant tell the 3 yr old it was me incase she tells the ex and she will go mad and make life difficult. He doesnt want to "rub me in her nose". i'm sick of being told i cant meet his family coz its rubbing it in her nose, we went to tesco to get milk, she found out through someone else, i was told we had rubbed it in her nose. Everything i wanna do with him is rubbing it in her sodding nose!!!
im left feeling like crap, coz cant even talk to him infront of them
2007-09-27 08:16:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
makes me feel like he thinks im a bad mum or something. am i really THAT horrible that his kids cant even know of my existance (even though they have been told about me and know my name.....but thats it!!!)
2007-09-27 08:19:24 · update #1
no, he lives alone, but his kids stay regularly, and i mean regularly, coz she cant bear the thought of him being with me, and of course i cant be there with the kids, so that equals minimum time with me. when im not there (when he's with kids) she rings and texts him into early hrs of morn etc. she is doing my head in.
2007-09-27 08:21:58 · update #2
i have talked til im blue in the face, i have told him this is breaking us up, infact we r sposed to be on a break now due to all these probs, but we still treat each other like bf/bg. nothing i says makes it change
2007-09-27 08:24:09 · update #3
Like I said before hun, he needs to sort her out, make her see he's serious about you, tell her that you will be there as hes in a serious relationship whether she likes it or not. If she wants to stop him seeing his kids he will have to show her that this wont work as he'll go through the courts and fight for his kids - maybe the shock of this will make her see?? I know it sounds extreme but I know how you feel, I've been on both ends. If this guy wants you in his life hes gonna have to stop cutting you out parts of it.
Again - good luck xx
2007-09-27 08:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your bf is the problem not his ex. She can only do what HE allows her to do. True she can make his visitation hell but he can take her a*s to court and make hers hell too. If he really was over her and wanted nothing to do with her besides his kids then that's what he would do. He would stand up, be a man, tell his children he has a wonderful gf, and he loves her dearly. He should explain that his love for them will never be faded or torn by you. He should put his ex in her place and let her know she can and will not run or ruin his life. But.............since he's done none of this, it makes me wonder if he really is over his ex. Make sure he's not playing with your emotions. But most importantly worry about you and your child cus that's all he's doing, worrying about his children and his gf.................i mean X-gf.
Hope it works out, just don't be a fool, please!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-27 15:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Understood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is that if you stay with this idiot then you will become one as well ... throw him out or pack your bags and leave him, because his EX still has a big influence on his life and that is something that you should not have to put up with so make your mind up time.. live by her rules or make your own and leave him.. i have 4 daugthers and i would not allow anyone of them to live the way you are.. then again i taught mine to never rely on a man, and i have 4 successfull daugthers with equally successfull partners.. so get out of this relationship and make a new life for you and your child ... you know you can do it... so do it...
2007-09-27 18:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by ICEMAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! Sounds like you deserve someone who is going to stick up for you and not put you through this crap. I would move on from him. I know it's hard, but ask yourself if you really want to put up with this crap if you guys end up getting married? Best wishes!
2007-09-27 15:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him you can't continue to see him under these conditions and be free to live your life and not be enslaved to someone who lives by his ex'es rules completely.
2007-09-27 15:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Doodles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should both talk about this because no one deserves to go through this.
2007-09-27 15:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by sleekchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he live with her?
This sounds shady.
Are you sure this girl is an EX?
2007-09-27 15:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋