We've known each other for about almost 6 months and we have really gotten close over the phone and the Internet. But the thing is neither of us at the moment can go see one another due to school and work situations. I'm just wondering if we are setting ourselves up for a major heartache.
2007-09-27 08:13:09 · 10 answers · asked by Vamphyre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, long distance relationships can work but it takes trust, commitment, patience, and honesty. My husband and I lived 700 miles apart when we first began dating. It was hard being separated at times, but it did help having a webcam, microphone, and instant messanger. We emailed each other constantly and chatted online every night. We met about 4 times before we got engaged and several more times before we were married. Now we've been married for almost two years, and it's hard to imagine we were ever apart. He's my closest and dearest friend-- a wonderful husband and lover. We get along perfectly.
Hang in there! I know it's tough, but things can work out if you two are willing. I would try to meet him as soon as possible, though. Having an online/phone relationship with someone is very different than the in-person stuff. You might find that you don't click as well when you're together. Make visiting each other a priority, if possible. Best wishes!
2007-09-27 08:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Laughing_Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is going well. We live an hour and a half away from each other, been together almost 7 months. I go up every weekend pretty much but it's still very hard cos we're very much into each other in a big way and want to be together all the time ideally. But we have to wait til she finishes college next June and then she's planning on moving down here. I'm certain we'll last til then and hopefully for a very long time after that. We met up the week after we met on the net, rushing it a little maybe but we made the right choice in the end. How long before you guys have a change of situation and are able to meet/spend time? It's a long time to have something going on without meeting if that's what you meant, and you must have something good there for it to have gone on so long. You need something to aim for though, like us. When we get down about it we just look forward to the life we dream of, which can be a reality next year. You need to make choices if you both feel it's important enough. I hope things go well for you
2007-09-27 08:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can last...my husband and I were a long distance relationship! We meet and i was living in Austin, TX and my husband in New York City! They are not easy because they take a lot of energy and trust in each other. The best advice i can give you is talk about what you really want, if neither of you are will to move then it really cant go far, and do you want to same things in life. We talked about those things your not suppose to at the beginning of the relationship because they are work and we didn't want to put in all the energy and not want then same things! Plus my older brother and his wife were long distance for two years while he was in the marines and then my older sister and her husband were also long distance for a year! So if my family doesn't prove that they can work nothing will! Just have fun and remember that if you are truthful with each other it can work! good luck!
2016-05-20 00:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on if one of you plans or is willing to eventually move in the same area. If neither one of you will move some day, then it will not work out. Long distance relationships can cause heartache... so it's up to you to decide if you can handle it. good luck!
2007-09-27 08:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Long distance is HARD WORK. It requires a TON of trust and a lot of patience. Does it work? Yes. Is it worth it? Yes. You get by...set up visits in advance so you have time to look forward to each visit. try to talk as often as possible-even if it's about stupid things for a few minutes between meetings. If you're both in it equally, you can work it out. :)
2007-09-27 08:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Constellation 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years (me in LA and him in FL) and eventually it got unbareable and now he moved to my state to see me. Yes they can work but eventually one of you will have to move to keep it going. All relationships hit plateaus, some can be fixed some can't. The only way to keep a serious long distance relationship for over a year alive is to move within a maintainable distance
2007-09-27 08:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Carboni™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
Ive been with a man now for over 2 years and he lives in kyle and i live in san antonio and its like 2 hours away and at first it was no big deal and now it is it just becomes to much over time
2007-09-27 08:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how dedicated each of you are to the relationship or if either of you is already in a real relationship.
2007-09-27 08:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by reCcup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it can it you're hearts are truly connected even though you can't be physically connected.
You never know til you try.
Always take precautions!
2007-09-27 08:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Doodles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-09-27 08:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by A K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋