Family & Relationships - 25 September 2007

Just curious.

2007-09-25 16:40:25 · 22 answers · asked by WestCoastin4Life 7 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi,

Now that I am getting close to thirty years old, I keep wondering about the future years to come. I have gone through the worst and best of my years. In your teens you go through difficult times but you don not worry about your future. In your twenties you still think that life is going to be great and you are in a dream like about doing certain things but by the time you turn thirty your life starts showing you your past years and what you should be doing for the future and of course you really wake up about how the world really is... all a crude lie. Nothing you have thought about it in the past.

Now that I am thinking about all the worries, self-mental-beatings, ideals and goals I have had in the past, I just think that life is nothing but a bunch of lies. I don't mean to sound negative but nothing is what it seemed like. Is this called getting old? Is this called"the way life is? What happens when you get to be forty five or sixty years old? Do we all get depressed?

2007-09-25 16:38:30 · 10 answers · asked by Man-atarms 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Let me rephrase that now that I have more room... the tuxes are going to be black, but what about the vest, shirt and Tie? I was thinking cream/ivory for the shirt but I was still confused with the vest and tie. Blue vest and tie? Black vest and blue tie? Black vest, cream tie?

2007-09-25 16:37:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

so, i had my baby august 9th!!! yah!!!! anyways, ive had postpartum depression, and even though it has mostly faded, i feel so low about myself still. i dont ever look in the mirror and think i look good. i feel like im driving my boyfriend away cuz im overly jealous now. im so scared and i have no idea what to do. i feel psycho or something. i dont even like for my b.f so see a womans breasts on television! i know its because im very self conscious because i trust him completely. im not happy with myself, and i dont know how to fix it. ive lost 30 lbs in 7 weeks, and i work out every other day..... but i still feel low about myself. anyone have some tips on overcoming self esteem issues?

ps i dont think im like this just because of the pregnancy, i was pretty much the same before i got pregnant.

2007-09-25 16:36:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hey ! what's up i wanted to know how you would react if someone you were dating confessed to you that they had a record i.e. they were convicted of murder and spent time in jail for it and i out on parole now. would you:
[a] Dismissed it and say because that is in their past it doesn't
matter
[b] Stay with them any ways but look on that person differently always in the back of your mind wondering if one day if something goes wrong in the relationship that person will snap and kill you too. and therefore sleep with a knife under your pillow LOL.

[c] Get as far away from that person as you possibly can maybe get a restraining order or something, there ain't no way you will date an ex-con.

let me know your views.

2007-09-25 16:36:25 · 14 answers · asked by Kerry Kay 1 in Singles & Dating

We have known each other for about four-five months. We are sexually active, and I was a virgin until he broke me in. I love him and just last week told him so. He told me he didn't love me, yet. Is this a guy thing, or should I just take my pride and leave before I am really in deep doo doo. Is he in denial, and really in love with me, or am I being used and abused?

Most importantly, if you know any methods besides being myself and caring for him deeply that I could utilize to allow him to love me, please let me know. Basically, I need help on the whol shabang, so comments on anything, even experiences I would love to hear.

Thanks!

2007-09-25 16:35:20 · 9 answers · asked by hopeisathingwithfeathers 3 in Singles & Dating

I have been a single mom for about 3 years now. i never even think about dating again or even meeting someone new. But sometimes, i wish i could. Can I? If so How can I?

2007-09-25 16:33:55 · 5 answers · asked by Lost & Confused 1 in Singles & Dating

I was wondering are you loved by anyone! like boyfriend, husband, lover, something like that!!? ANd to all yall who say no I love yall!!

2007-09-25 16:30:52 · 11 answers · asked by wendi t 3 in Singles & Dating

so guys answer now!!

2007-09-25 16:29:32 · 5 answers · asked by patz`web 1 in Singles & Dating

i tell my bf thats not very nice and i told him to read the menu himself! he says the waitress has to "work" for her tips! how do i fix my bf?! please help!

2007-09-25 16:29:15 · 17 answers · asked by Giggle Bear 3 in Singles & Dating

ive been cheated on over a year ago.

he was drunk at the beach, the girl went down on him, and it stopped when he realized what was going on.

anyway i gave him a second chance. it took me a while to get over and for him to rebuild his trust but our relationship has been solid despite that one moment.

i know the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" but is this always the case? i honestly dont think my boyfriend will ever cheat on me again. am i being naive? has anyone else ever experienced something like this?

i just want hope that all boys arent the same and sometimes people make mistakes.

2007-09-25 16:28:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

for several months we have been corresponding via email, and we have met once (no sex). He has been strong in his commitment to his wife, however, as the months go by, he is slowly giving in to me. Am I a sinner? If he were not interested from the beginning, why did he keep up the emailing and agree to meet with me??

2007-09-25 16:27:55 · 34 answers · asked by AskMe 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. we have no kids. we have been having communication issues for about 1 1/2 yrs. she told me that if she had known how this relationship would turn out she wouldn't have married me in the first place. ouch. we don't hate each other but we don't have a close bond either. we can't seem to be supportive of each other and our differences are always a topic of arguments. we have both expressed our unhappines with our marriage and have seen a counselor for a few months. sometimes she says she is unhappy and dissatified with our marriage but other times she says she is fine with it and if I feel like there is a problem then its probably a problem with myself. I'm afraid of going through a divorce but I'm also afraid of continueing a marriage like this. what should I do?

2007-09-25 16:27:00 · 20 answers · asked by QandA 3 in Marriage & Divorce

but no longer do, what changed? It's sad but from the people I know, they've stopped cheating because they've been married over 10years and too 'old' and let go anyway to even think of cheating? It's not happening to me now, but will I have to wait til he's 55 or over to believe that he stop thinking about it? The reason why I ask is I've cheated (not when married) and been cheated on, so I know it hurts. I know most of the tricks and possible things people do to temp others to fall for them (especially the LONELY ones that tend to go for the married ones). What is your take?

2007-09-25 16:24:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Let's say a friend of a friend from my softball team thinks i hooked up with this guy, and done some things with him, if you know what i mean. I told her NO but. Then she goes around behind my back and tells people what I’ve done with him. EVEN THOU I NEVER DID IT!!! I don't even have a boyfriend, so anywayyyyssss..... I STARTED A NASTY RUMOR TO GET BACK AT HER AND NOW SHE IS JUST SPREADING MORE!! Even worst things….you can only imagine. Is there any stop to this madness, of a world we live in!?!?!?!

2007-09-25 16:24:03 · 3 answers · asked by Jaimjaim 2 in Friends

He blames his father and I for the divorce what can I do? His father and I have a very good relationship, practically perfect.

2007-09-25 16:23:44 · 8 answers · asked by Tristan P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I had sex with my best friends and we both agreed it wouldnt change anything but we used to do everything together but ever since i slept with her she sorta excludes me.

2007-09-25 16:22:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well me and my husband got married had a baby fast.. Granted it was early but we are very much in love. Our baby is 3 months old and I feel as though we are living in the 60's. Im cooking, Cleaning, Doing laundry, and taking care of our son 24/7. But I thought it was reasonable to ask my husband to change our sons diaper and feed on intervals when he was home. I know he works hard but he still expects me to do everything and when I ask him to do something he gives me attitude. Hes made comments like " do you job" and " Be a wife". Now I know he may have not meant them but I will never forget that. It just seems to be going downhill after our baby was born. Dont get me wrong our baby is the best thing that has ever happened to me, but It feels like my husband just wants to play with him and when something is wrong I have to do it. I just thought a dad should be more involved. Should I be firm with him, tell him to do things. I have tried the nice way and it doesnt work. Advice please?

2007-09-25 16:22:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

time. I used to get upset. I wanted him to spend time with the kids but to make time for me also he says his kids want all his time and don't want him to send time with anyone else. They are teenagers. Anyways now I don't complain when he stands me up (because the kids never want to go back to their mom) and he is saying I don't care about our relationship because I don't complain about him not coming to see me. I thought this was what he wanted now his kids have him all to themselves and he doesn't have to hear me complain about him not being with me when he says he is but never comes. So why isn't he happy?

2007-09-25 16:22:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He has this extremely high sex drive and I just can't seem to keep up with him. If he doesn't get any for more than a couple days I can sense a change in his attitude. He swears he isn't mad about sex but I know different. If I have sex with him (or something similiar) at least everyday he is lovable and sweet, but as soon as I don't jump in the sack ready to go every night he gets edgy and irritable and sometimes totally ignores me. Sometimes I have sex with him just because I want some attention! It seems like our whole relationship revolves around his sex drive. Before we got married, he told me his ex wife never had sex with him and that is why their marriage ended. Now I am beginning to think he will leave me to or stray if I don't continually give in to him even when I don't want to. He swears he loves me and would never stray but if he truely is addicted, will he go for the first piece of a** that is thrown at him if I go for a week or two without having sex with him???

2007-09-25 16:20:50 · 15 answers · asked by Kelly 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

If you are in your 30's, have a teenage son, work full-time, would you do this to your significant other or want it done to you? Is this a way for a grown woman to mark her territory even though the husband is already wearing a wedding ring? Let me know your opinion. I personally think it's immature and not my idea of hot and wild sex.

2007-09-25 16:18:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I think, no i know that im falling in love with someone that i absolutely positively cant and shouldnt fall in love with (ironically). What do i do about it?

So why do we fall in love with the people that we do, and is there any way to control who we fall in love with?

2007-09-25 16:17:58 · 18 answers · asked by mack7465 3 in Singles & Dating

If you are in your 30's, have a teenage son, work full-time, would you do this to your significant other or want it done to you? Is this a way for a grown woman to mark her territory even though the husband is already wearing a wedding ring? Let me know your opinion. I personally think it's immature and not my idea of hot and wild sex.

2007-09-25 16:17:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

1. husband @ wife fight
2. now husband want to stay with him mom house for 1 week
3. but both of them the promlem settle ready
4. but how the wife wife get her husband to bring back to home?
5.the husband family brainwash him to get divorce from her wife.
6.so got any low or any ideas to for the wife make alife happy?
7. very pitty to the wife so pls help guys

2007-09-25 16:15:58 · 11 answers · asked by JAYAMEGA 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Are there any ladies out there that have accepted a proposal even though you were not crazy in love with the guy proposing? Did you accept for security, companionship, financial hardship, etc.? Why did you accept it?

2007-09-25 16:15:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok i am with this guy for i think 2 or 3 months. I meet this guy who makes my heart beat so fast and my body hurt when he is around. today he told me how he feels. but i have a boyfriend. I am not sure i LOVE him i dont want to hurt my bf but this other guy i dont know how to explain it in words. I dont know what to do about it i really need help.i am not sure if athis other guys just trying too brake us up or what.

2007-09-25 16:15:11 · 17 answers · asked by skatergirl_15 1 in Singles & Dating

Question Details: I let a friend move into my place and now she has her boyfriend staying here they broke my door to my bedroom of the hinges and they will not stop smoking weed in my house and I have a 2 month old baby, and all the police said was that there is nothing they could do if the girl and her boyfriend don't want them to search there things. I told both of them to get out but before she moved in I wrote up an agreement for her to pay me $600.00 in rent but she only gave me $300 and said she would give me the rest three days later. now I call the cops to get them out and the cops say I have to let them stay and obtain an eviction notice for both of them an give them 30 day because she gave me money. So even though thay say 30 days could my rental office give them a no trespassing notice to make them leave? And yes they know becase the cops has been to my house 7 times in 2 days beacuse of them.

2007-09-25 16:15:03 · 3 answers · asked by tika 2 in Family

I don't really want to buy online.

2007-09-25 16:13:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i'm 18 yrs old i only had one bf but he died 4mnths into our relationship but that was almost 2yrs ago.i don't got alot of girlfriends cuz i don't like the way most of them act and carry about themselves but i only got one for now cuz i try to choose wisely.b4 i'm the type of girl not be rushing for a bf but now like its changing.at times i feel really really lonely like if i need a guy company but anytime i try to be friends with some guys they always get out of hand.i feel like i need someone to hang out with and to talk to but my mom says i'm to young for a bf so i don't know what to do bcuz i'm listening to her.i'm not looking for anyone but i think love should find me.i'm very attractive and ALOT of guys like me so what should i do????

2007-09-25 16:12:57 · 3 answers · asked by Dangerously Gorgeous 2 in Singles & Dating

he doesn't want to commit to me. He doesn't want to give up his home and come home to me and our son and "it might not work out" and he will not have a place to go. We get along for a couple of months and all of a sudden he breaks it off and says "I don't act right" I think this is just an excuse not to have to commit. He wants us to be together in every way, he just doesn't want the responsibility that comes with a commitment! Should I just dump him and get on with my life or keep waiting and hoping he will get over it? We were married for almost 23yrs.

2007-09-25 16:12:28 · 17 answers · asked by Red 1 in Marriage & Divorce