Family & Relationships - 25 September 2007

i have a bestfriend that is a female.we got together when we both decided to get divorced.her husband had got caught for dui for the third time.we hooked up everything was going great.then she decided to give her husband another chance ,so should wouldnt second guess herself on making a wrong decision.i was very hurt but we will do anything for each other.i think that im thebest thing for her i give her what ever she wants and i love her children we both r confused about everything. i want to be with her very badly.when we were together her family noticed a change in her on how happy she sounded and was.i was great to have her because of my previous relationship with my soon to be ex wife.i honestly think that she knows that i mean well and that i am good for her but she still is trying to figure out where her and her husband are headed.he is a cool guy at times but he tries to catch her in lies and hang things in the past over her head and argues with her all the time.what should i do

2007-09-25 17:38:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This person is going to be losing their home soon and because of the MS hasn't been working. Any ideas? She has very little to no money and has no family. She is a positive thinker but reality just sucks. She doesn't require anything special her Dr's are in chicago so she would like to stay close. She has never been in any shelter and I really don't think she will survive one.

2007-09-25 17:36:46 · 1 answers · asked by anynamezeek 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-25 17:36:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-25 17:36:15 · 20 answers · asked by jamesb 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Is there a way to wed. without involving religion?

2007-09-25 17:32:03 · 10 answers · asked by Mike V 3 in Weddings

So I'm in the middle of deciding who my bridesmaids are going to be and I've ran into trouble. My fiance has 3 sisters that I do get along with and feel like I should have on my side, and I have 3 cousins that I am also very close to. Well that's 6, which I don't think is too many, I've been to a couple of weddings with 6 bridesmaids and it was fine. Well, I also have 2 best friends that I feel I should have up there, but I do think it is more important to have family up there with me rather than friends. But, I don't know which girl I would pick as the maid of honor if I don't have any of my best friends in it, LOL. Because I am equally close to all 3 of my cousins, so that's why I thought to just have my friends up there and pick one of them to be the maid of honor. To make a long story short, is 8 bridemaids too many? I don't want my wedding to look too crowded and I just don't know if 8 is a common number? I've heard between 3-6, but not 8. Have any of you had 8?

2007-09-25 17:27:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

So what would you do if you knew what one of your parents was cheating? I have already confronted the cheater and all i get is reasoning and explanation of why is is valid for it to happen. I honestly think that both parents have been unfaithful is some regard to one another. I just dont know what to do. I know that it isnt my place to tell the other parent.. the marriage wwould end. They have been married 35 yrs. What can I do or say. How do i approach the cheater? and whats solution.. stop doing it.. but dont tell? what do you think?.. i am an adult child so i can say something

2007-09-25 17:24:34 · 6 answers · asked by PuRpLe HaZe 2 in Marriage & Divorce

me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months. we have always been physical (hooked up every time we hung out) but didnt have sex until 3 months in. Once we started having sex, we did it whenever we could...after dates, after work, on dates...Now we are both back in school and busy so we dont see each other as often as we used to.
recently, when calls to hang out, all we do is have sex, which im fine with cuz i enjoy it. But im starting to feel like its only reason he wants to hang out because he knows hes gonna "get laid" (for lack of a better way to put it).
We still see eachother at work since we work together, he calls everyday to see how im doing, and still go on dates once in a while...
this is my first physical relationship so im not really sure what is normal or what is not...
i just want to make sure he still enjoys my company and is not just using me for sex...am i overreacting?
any advice?

2007-09-25 17:21:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-25 17:17:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband of 4 years just found out I had an affair one year ago and he knows that I have had past affairs with him, he only knows of 2 but actually it has been 4 with the same person. I have been faithful since April of this year, I have been trying to make it work. When he found out about the last affair he was mad but he still wants to work it out. I feel like I love him but when I married him I was in to alcohol and drugs and I have been sober and clean for seven months now and I want to work things out because the man I was cheating with is no goooood, but when I first met him I was sooo in love with him and he had a large penis and my husband penis is not so big but I have a better relationship with my husband than him. I want to forget about how good the penis is and want to make my marriage work. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-09-25 17:16:53 · 11 answers · asked by Meat05 2 in Marriage & Divorce

how can someone stop accusing his/her partner for not being faithfull, if there was cheating in the begining of their relationship?

2007-09-25 17:16:34 · 5 answers · asked by ZAMANY 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

So I have been dating the greatest guy for over 3 and a half years! Nothing between us could have been any more perfect! Except for his fam! Ever since we started dating his sister turned against me. She would lie to her parents about me and they kinna turned against me. THey made him break up with me one time but then we got back together! NOw i am trying to get over that and they are trying to accept me but it is so hard for me. Proably because their daughter went to college this year and started talking about me to the ppl at that school too!!! Now we are at the point where they want me to be comfy with them and they dont understand why. ANd I want to cause I know if i dont then I will lose him forever!!! I need to make conversations with them.. i am 19 and they are like 50 something. ONe is just a stay at home mom who takes pics jusst for fun and the other is a orthodonist. I just dont knwo waht to talk to them about! Any suggestions? I just need to at least start making small talk

2007-09-25 17:14:02 · 6 answers · asked by Am 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-25 17:11:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-25 17:08:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If hes 8 inches taller than me do you think its too much?

2007-09-25 17:05:08 · 6 answers · asked by Mayonaise 6 in Singles & Dating

I am a nudist at heart. I found a nude beach not far from where I live. I told my wife about it and she said there is no way she will go. I want to go. I told my wife that although I want her to go with me, I understand if she doesn't want to go, but please don't hold me back. It's not like it's a swinger club or anything. It's a public beach where people just don't wear clothes. You get a sun tan, swim, relax and enjoy being natural. I invited my wife so I'm not hiding anything. I just want to try it and I don't think I should have to hold back on something harmless that I want to do just because she won't do it.

2007-09-25 17:03:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Old Spice is a classic after shave. Do girls still like the original scent or not?

2007-09-25 17:02:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-25 17:02:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been to quite a few countries an I have noticed that foreign men living there would normally have local girlfriends/wives. In Japan, most foreigners would eventually settled down with a local lady. Same in most other Asian country, Africa, Latin America, etc.

However, you hardly ever see an American woman with a foreign man and hardly see foreign men married to American women. Very very few.

Do most American women find foreign guys inferior?

Please tell me the truth; no holds barred, no politically correct whitewash.

2007-09-25 17:00:32 · 22 answers · asked by Ling Ting Tong 2 in Marriage & Divorce

she's too good of a person for me. I forget to call her, I say mean things sometimes which I shouldn't, and I'm just not good enough for her. I do my best trying to please her and I give her massages all the time and put her to sleep.I tell her she's beautiful and sexy. I write her poems sometimes too and she loves that. most women get turned on by saying sweet things and being a gentlemen not by getting butt naked and saying "DO ME!". I don't understand what I did to deserve someone so amazing like her. she is so nice and just perfect for me but she deserves someone better.

2007-09-25 16:56:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with this man for 3 years we spilt up for a while. Got back together and I told him no more liying to me at all. He had a warrent out for him. He told me that he took care of this matter. Well low and behold he gets arested yesterday So there for once again he liyed to me about taking care of that matter. They have him on 3 accounts 2 for child surport and 1 for not showing up on his court date. He got out this afternoon only because his father got him out on a 35 hunderd cash bond. Would you forgave him for liying to you ??

2007-09-25 16:56:17 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I am basically in love with one of my best friends. She is a girl and i am a guy, so there is no reason for me not to love her, except for the simple fact that her and I will never be an us.

In my current state, i will do anything to see her. Today, i made a crazy trip to New Brunswick at the mere possibility of seeing her. Because i am in New Brunswick, i am going to have to wake up at 4 in the morning and walk with my book bag, violin, and a suitcase to a train station i don't know how to get to so i can make it to my 9 am class at Rutgers Camden.

I would go through hell just to see her. This scares me. I don't want to be in love with someone who will never love me back. Its torture.

The mere possibility of seeing her that i was talking about earlier fell through. I was so looking forward to see her, that not being able to has left me extremely sad. I am sad in emotion, i am sad in state, and i am sad in mind.

I can't live like this. I want it to stop. Please make it stop.

2007-09-25 16:55:58 · 10 answers · asked by crazcalm 2 in Singles & Dating

i've just had a baby and it wont be long now before we can enjoy eachother again. i'm a little self concious, but i want to wear something. (obviously that flatters my recently distorted body, trying not to show much midrif) any suggestions? he tends to like the "sporty" look

2007-09-25 16:49:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

list please

2007-09-25 16:49:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My cousin is getting married in November and I want to get or make something for him and his new wife, but I have no idea what! I don't really have much money to spend, so how can I get/make something special for them?? any ideas would be greatly appreciated!

2007-09-25 16:48:26 · 10 answers · asked by SeAwAvEs 3 in Weddings

I went out wiht my ex for nearly 2 years.... the relationship was not the greatest, but it was my first love. We have been broken up for nearly a year now. I cannot seem to get over this relationship. My ex still wants to talk and "be civil" (when convenient of course and when I can be of help), but it is giving me heartache because there is zero romantic interest in me on my ex's behalf. Yet on the same token... not talking to my ex is just as painful because I miss the relationship, and the mutual love. What can I do? Any advice?

2007-09-25 16:48:06 · 8 answers · asked by SSM 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-25 16:47:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I haven't lost a parent yet. Is there anything I should say to my dying father before it's too late? Have any of you lost a parent and later wished you'd said something to them?

We're not close, we maybe see each other a couple times a year to drop off birthday or christmas gifts and visit a little. I come from a broken home (he divorced and left the state when I was 7) so we haven't had much of a relationship, even after he moved back to the same state years later.

2007-09-25 16:46:00 · 35 answers · asked by Lost Poet 6 in Marriage & Divorce

my grandfather is dying and I find it hard to be around him and people who talk about him dying so I always avoid them and my grandfather when he's this way. I always feel better when I keep busy and do stuff, just to keep my mind occupied. Is that so wrong? I'm just not comfortable with the dying process.

2007-09-25 16:44:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

It seems that there is that phrase, "I need to get some." This would imply reception. But doesn't a man give, rather than receive sex, being that he does the penetrating? Isn't the woman the one who is actually "getting some"?

2007-09-25 16:41:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating