i use to, but then i learned to let it go. I'm a happier person without all that drama/abuse in my life.... albeit sad that my family wasn't/isn't close
2007-09-25 17:41:23
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answered by Lupita 5
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Because the abused person feels that somehow they are bringing these problems on themselves, that they must deserve the abuse. Their self-esteem has been steamrolled, they feel they are powerless over their lives, they don't know who they can trust and they don't want anything bad to happen to anyone, they don't want to cause anything bad to happen so they usually don't tell about the abuse.
It's not okay to keep it quiet. These are sick secrets that shouldn't be kept secret because the abuser will continue to abuse others if not stopped. It takes a lot of strength to tell, but if a strong allie can be found that will be of great help.
2007-09-26 00:49:44
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answered by gma 7
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I'm currently in the situation ur discribbing i just got out 3 weeks ago & i KNOW better but some part of me still feels guilty 4 hating them two. Its installed in abused ppls brains growing up in a house like that u know better than to feel that way but u cant help it its just something that cant be helped until that person just gets over it or figures out how to deal with it.
2007-09-26 00:43:03
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answered by Anonymous
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Because most kids growing up are taught to love family,then when there is physical or mental abused, you feel it is your or their fault. Which it isn't, it is the abuser's fault. I have very little to do with my mother, I'm the one that is mentally abused, my sibling haven't seen it because she was always made sure I was by myself, to meet her you wouldn't believe that she would do anything like this. It is sad how I wished that I had a close relationship with my mother, but she would denie this that she has done anything wrong.
2007-09-26 00:49:35
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answered by Kaye B 6
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Hatred is such a negative emotion and is not the answer to abusive family members! The trick is that while you can't change the person who abuses you, you certainly can change your reaction to them. Put distance between you; continue to be polite but do not put yourself in the position where you can be mistreated. And don't waste your time feeling guilty about it!
2007-09-26 00:45:00
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answered by missingora 7
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because they are good people, they have hearts, and they can't help but have sympathy for cruel people. those are usually the same people that won't go on hurting other people just because they were abused because you can't beat the good out of a person. I have sympathy for my ex-step father more than anything, even though I was the one hurt. He couldn't beat that out of me either =)
2007-09-26 00:41:40
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answer #6
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answered by ac 3
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Call with any problem, anytime:
Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
Phone: 1-800-448-3000
Email: Hotline@girlsandboystown.org
They have the trained professionals
to help you with this, and it's just a
call away. <}:-})
2007-09-26 00:44:29
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answered by Anonymous
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Because that person has love and compassion in their hearts. You are forgiving!! Just try and find the balance, to love them with all their down falls, but don't let their attitude affect you.
2007-09-26 00:44:18
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answered by Anonymous
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