me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months. we have always been physical (hooked up every time we hung out) but didnt have sex until 3 months in. Once we started having sex, we did it whenever we could...after dates, after work, on dates...Now we are both back in school and busy so we dont see each other as often as we used to.
recently, when calls to hang out, all we do is have sex, which im fine with cuz i enjoy it. But im starting to feel like its only reason he wants to hang out because he knows hes gonna "get laid" (for lack of a better way to put it).
We still see eachother at work since we work together, he calls everyday to see how im doing, and still go on dates once in a while...
this is my first physical relationship so im not really sure what is normal or what is not...
i just want to make sure he still enjoys my company and is not just using me for sex...am i overreacting?
any advice?
2007-09-25 17:21:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see some of you say i should cut him off, but problem is i still want it and whenever we're together i never feel like saying no....so the other option would be for me to talk to him.. if i decide to talk to him about it when should i do it? and how do i bring something like that up?
2007-09-25 17:52:00 · update #1
Bella it is very natural that when two people first start to share their bodies with each other that they overdo it for a while, while they are in the honeymoon stage. However, this stage doesn't last forever and so when things start to slow down recognise it as natural also and not as losing interest in one and other. Sounds like the two of you do things other then perform sexually together so he must have more feelings for you then just getting laid. If you have been dating for 5 months then you should be comfortable enough to talk with him openly and honestly and let him know how you've been feeling. Hopefully he can help put your mind at ease and let you know that he finds you irresistable and that is reason he craves being so sexual with you, but that you have many other qualitites that he admires in you also. Best of luck to you both.
2007-09-25 17:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah same thing with my girlfriend too. I feel funny having so much sex and want to stop it, but my girlfriend insists nothing is wrong.
Sex obsession is defintely not a good thing. Obsessing over sex could be a way for a couple to cover up all the bad things in a relationship, or make them forget about how uncompatible they might be with each other. It is a great bandaid that manipulates our emotions and makes us forget about the bad times with that special someone, if used too much it can be really dangerous.
2007-09-25 17:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count yourself lucky!
I happen to love the nympho factor of my relationship.
If you want to focus less on the physical intimacy just go out on dates. Do something other than going home and have sex.
It's also early on in the relationship and it's still the honeymoon period. I remember not being able to keep my hands off him regardless of what time it was or where we were. The longer you are in a relationship it tapers off a bit. Besides, because you don't see each other as often as you used to, sexual tension builds up and it explodes when you see each other.
2007-09-25 17:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal.
Every one has a different sex drive. Some people have such great chemistry that they can do it several times a day. Some men have more stamina than others. We are all unique when it comes to sex drive. Some people have low hormonal counts and have a low sex drive and need to see a medical professional to assist them with sexual endeavors.
It's 100% normal. Just be safe and always use protection.
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2007-09-25 17:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be carefull!!! Your storry reminds me of someone else while we were in high school. My best friend lisa hooked up with this really cool guy. there were really really in love. Lisa was kind of inisent to the point where she would not have sex unless she really loved someone. We all new that they were doing it and we didn't care because they were so happy together. then something unexpected happend. She got pragnet. Seems pretty obvious now that it was likely at the time. but at the time it was a big shock. So please be carefull. Dontoverlook this reality. i hapens too all kinds of yong girls that are just expirimenting with sex. so all you girls be aware that there are consiquenses to not beeing carefull that can change your life forever. And trust me you don't want to be making those desisions now.
2007-09-25 17:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by mtzrose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if the only thing that worries you is how much sex you're having i wouldn't really worry about it... if something else begins to bother you though, then the fact that all you seem to do is have sex might become a problem... for now just enjoy it and try to stay at the same level that he's at (emotionally)
2007-09-25 17:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 03:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by mcgarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never have to much sex. Some day you'll be old and sick in the hospital. And be damn glad you didn't pass on sex while you could have it. If you like the sex too then even if he is just using you for sex no harm done.
2007-09-25 17:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, im not goin to lie, ive been in this situation b4, and i was the guy of course. when i dont it b4, i was only wantin botty to be honest, but all you have to do is tell him that u want for the next couple of dates is just hang out, nuttin else, see how he reacts , and there will be your answer
2007-09-25 17:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's calling you to see how you are and you spend other time together and you are both enjoying your selves go with it!
If he never called ect then yes there is an issue.
HAVE FUN!
2007-09-25 17:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋