I am basically in love with one of my best friends. She is a girl and i am a guy, so there is no reason for me not to love her, except for the simple fact that her and I will never be an us.
In my current state, i will do anything to see her. Today, i made a crazy trip to New Brunswick at the mere possibility of seeing her. Because i am in New Brunswick, i am going to have to wake up at 4 in the morning and walk with my book bag, violin, and a suitcase to a train station i don't know how to get to so i can make it to my 9 am class at Rutgers Camden.
I would go through hell just to see her. This scares me. I don't want to be in love with someone who will never love me back. Its torture.
The mere possibility of seeing her that i was talking about earlier fell through. I was so looking forward to see her, that not being able to has left me extremely sad. I am sad in emotion, i am sad in state, and i am sad in mind.
I can't live like this. I want it to stop. Please make it stop.
2007-09-25 16:55:58 · 10 answers · asked by crazcalm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer is you can't. You'll have to live with it until you find someone new who will help ease the pain of remembering the past. This however doesn't mean that 'new' is anyonyone.
I know its hard for a guy to go thru an emotional state like this, but since you've made a point not to love her back, and I respect whatever the reason might be, you'll have to be firm. You did good by sharing this with us. You might even want to share it with someone who knows both of you, sort of middleman. The person will be able to give you insight on what's really happening on her side an well as be able to empathasize in your situation.
And if nothing helped, go and tell her what you feel about her. Sometimes confrontation is the cure for fear of the unknown. Believe me, it works as a soothing medicine. The worst that can happen is she won't accept the proposal. And since you mentioned that she's your best friend, I'm hoping that you'll be able to clear the misunderstanding between you two if it didn't go as expected.
Best of luck!
2007-09-25 17:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Curious George 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds almost like you have the potential of becoming a stalker to this poor girl. Relax, give yourself some time and look at it through mature eyes. Realize that this relationship is just not meant to be and so it is time to give up and move on. If necessary seek out professional help if you find it too difficult. But please trust me when I say that the human heart is capable of recovering and mending itself after having been broken. As a matter of fact majority of people on this earth will have or have had their hearts broken more than once and can tell you that although difficult if we allow it time to grieve the loss of a relationship it will do so and allow us to fall in love all over again. Being a good Canadian lad this should not be too difficult for you to do as we all know the best looking wormen in the world all hail from the Great White North. Best of luck to you and hope that you are able to stop torturing yourself very shortly over this relationship or lack of a relationship.
2007-09-26 00:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to keep yourself busy with other things. Try to work, study and just have other hobbies. The more your mind thinks of other things the more you will forget about her. You shouldn't be hurting yourself if this person is telling you that there is no chance. Also if you put some space between you and her she might notice that she does want to be with you and that might help the relationship!.
2007-09-25 23:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I TO HAVE FELT THIS AWFUL NEED AND LOVE, SADLY ONLY TIME AND HARD WORK ON YOUR PART WILL BE THE ONLY THING THAT WILL GET YOU STARTED. KEEP BUSY AND WHEN THE OVERWHELMING NEED TO SEE THIS PERSON COMES UP, EXERCISE WALK REAL FAST , BURN AS MUCH ENERGY AS YOU CAN!! STRESS IS HARD ON THE BODY AND MIND. ALSO YOU MIGHT SEEK COUNCELING AT YOUR SCHOOL, YOUR LIFE WILL GET BETTER ! WHEN YOU DECIDE TO TAKE BACK YOUR CONTROL!! BEST WISHES, I PROMISE YOU WILL SURVIVE THIS, AND BE HAPPY, I DID!!
2007-09-26 00:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by mother of 4! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy
Step 1) Excercise (any type will do)
Step 2) Hang out with your other friends
Step 3) Refocus your energies on something else (e.g. school)
2007-09-26 00:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by KSJTam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you feel, getting over someone is diffuclt, but all you have is time. and you dont truely get over that one person till a new one enteres your life, cuz i bet you just remember all the good times u and her shared since you're best friends and they just play in your head all the time.
the only cure is time and a new love :(
it'll get better , just in due time
2007-09-26 00:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by sam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you remind me of a guy that i used to know. this is gonna sound rude but just get over it. find a hobby focus on that. don't dwell on the past. just accept that you'll never be together and move on with your life.
2007-09-26 00:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by maria92588 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, love is like that. You love someone and they dont give it back. I honestly dont even understand and im 15. If she doesn't love you back just find another girl. She will distract you from the one you love. I hope that my advice is helpful. Good luck with your life!!!
2007-09-26 00:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
..............................................sorry to here about this so you should try to think about the things you dont like about her and think do you really want to go out with her and maybe you like some one else or do something to get her off your mind
2007-09-26 00:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know that myself.
2007-09-25 23:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by purifiedheartbeating 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋