I went out wiht my ex for nearly 2 years.... the relationship was not the greatest, but it was my first love. We have been broken up for nearly a year now. I cannot seem to get over this relationship. My ex still wants to talk and "be civil" (when convenient of course and when I can be of help), but it is giving me heartache because there is zero romantic interest in me on my ex's behalf. Yet on the same token... not talking to my ex is just as painful because I miss the relationship, and the mutual love. What can I do? Any advice?
2007-09-25 16:48:06 · 8 answers · asked by SSM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay far far away................. I know its hard but by you talking to her or seeing her starts the pain cycle all ova again. The less you see or hear of her the better for you to be cured of this. I dont know if you are male or female sorry just change the she bits to he bits lol.
Remember aswell "We all want what we cant have"
You have only ONE life dont waste it on someone who doesnt want you because as had as try YOU CAN NEVER MAKE SOMEONE LOVE YOU. Sorry
2007-09-25 16:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky Mummy to 2!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut it off. if the love was really mutual you'd still be together. I don't think people are as manipulative as they sometimes seem - I'm sure the other person is calling because it's easy and familiar.
But if it's over - pretend a friend is asking you the same question -would you tell them, yeah, keep hoping, keep hanging around, don't get on with your life?
Cut them off. No phone, no call, no email. Explain that - and this isn't mean, it's the truth - that you need to have some space and find out how to to happy on your own. That's the only way you'll ever get the perspective to make good decisions.
2007-09-25 23:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by panontro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the relationship is over, if you want to begin to feel better, STOP seeing her!! Get out and make new friends and keep busy. Once you move on your life will become full again and the memory of the relationship will fade into the background. There's nothing to be gained from seeing her to "talk and be civil". That just keeps the pain too fresh. Move on!
2007-09-26 00:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. Not talk to her. Seeing her will continue to open up the healing wound over and over.
It is easy to idealize someone who is not your current love.
It will take some time but you will go one to find another. I won't lie it maybe years and you may compare many to her. You must first move on. Actually, I recommend not getting serious for a while but dating-a lot! Even just sporadic 1 date see where it goes. One day you will find someone you love as much if not more.
Good luck
2007-09-26 00:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are not in love with her, but with the "relationship you had with her" you are in love with "love" and how you gys love was before. Of course you missed it! but that doesn't mean you are still in love with her. Stop living in the past while she already is leaving the present. Obiously she still loves you and the past relationship because it was good, but is over for her, it should be for you to> Move on, go out date, meet people.
2007-09-25 23:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by timbalita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard when hes your first love. I have one for 4 years, and even still i will never forget him. You just have to think, if it didnt work out its for the better. And you WILL move on even though it seems tough now. Put you energy of thinking of him into something else.. work maybe.. or friends... it will help.
2007-09-25 23:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by sunflowerbabykj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a clean break. No communications for 6 months. Not even email joke forwards. Nada. You'll have a much easier time getting over her.
2007-09-25 23:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what mutual love? the fact that he can be civil when he's on the receiving end tells me the real reason you don't need this selfish self centered fu@k. keep it moving...
2007-09-25 23:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by bebop_music 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋