What happens after you you have lived your 45 years of life and have gone through your worst and best?...?

Question

Hi,

Now that I am getting close to thirty years old, I keep wondering about the future years to come. I have gone through the worst and best of my years. In your teens you go through difficult times but you don not worry about your future. In your twenties you still think that life is going to be great and you are in a dream like about doing certain things but by the time you turn thirty your life starts showing you your past years and what you should be doing for the future and of course you really wake up about how the world really is... all a crude lie. Nothing you have thought about it in the past.

Now that I am thinking about all the worries, self-mental-beatings, ideals and goals I have had in the past, I just think that life is nothing but a bunch of lies. I don't mean to sound negative but nothing is what it seemed like. Is this called getting old? Is this called"the way life is? What happens when you get to be forty five or sixty years old? Do we all get depressed?

Do we get, as some might call it, "settled" in life? Most important of all do we accept "everything" that has happened to us and just wait for our final days? or do we simple try to enjoy life more because we didn't in our younger years?
For me, I consider living worthwhile but it is hard at times when you realize that in this world if you don't have money your are treated like crap, if you don't get power, you are left behind, if you are honest and good, people take advantage you, if you are a mean person, you are considered the worst, if you are not working, your lazy, if you are rich and wealthy, you are spoiled and needy, if your an artist, your full of crap, if you do something good, is because you want something out of it.
What happens to the people that had goals and dreams when they were young and by the time they get to 50 or 60 their life is gone even thought they have worked hard for those goals but they never reached them?

Answer 1

it is true that life is mixture of joy and sorrow ... but one should face all situations ... and we get that understanding by experience in those situations .... and this should certainly give confidence to face similar coming situations ... but one should not thik that it is is a depresion in bad situation ....

u know, w.r.t one gets experince to face different situations, and this is the reason why people consult aged people to find some solution to their situations ....

but, just by thinking always bad situations in mind one should not worry about life after 45.... with the experinces u face during that period u should be more confident to face any kind of situation at ur later ages ...

remember one thing.. SUN RISES AND SETS ... NOT ALWAYS BE IN ONLY ONE SITUATION ..

Answer 2

I started dreading 30 at about 27... I feared it. My life would be almost half way over and I hadn't done anything that I had really wanted to do yet. By about 29 I had worried myself silly over it. On my 30th birthday I woke up, did a body check, did a mind check, did a spirit check... Nothing about me was different. It was just another day on the calendar and I felt pretty silly about how much time I spent dreading it. Since I have hit 30 I have learned a lot and it's only been a few years... I'll be 34 soon. I've learned a lot about others, I've learned a lot about myself, and all those trials I had in my teens and twenties became things in the past that I could really take pieces and learn from; not only about myself, but about the strength I have, how much I have already dealt with, and how much time I had spent pitying myself when I could have been putting those lessons to good use. I also learned that I can withstand a lot and there isn't much in this world that can keep me down. I've matured a lot since I turned 30... I was pretty mature in my teens and twenties, but I've really grown as a person more and found out who I am and the kind of person I wish to be. There are millions of lessons to come, we never stop learning. There is no reason to ever just settle for what or who we've become, even at 60. There's always reasons to count your blessings though... once you start seeing them and acknowledging them they are easier to point out. I know how you feel... I spent a lot of time dreading 30. There's light at the end of that tunnel though, and you find yourself wondering why you were so damn silly to begin with. I'm actually really looking forward to 40. To 50-60 more good years! Enjoy life, you might as well while you are here. :)

Answer 3

Of course nothing is like it seems. That's just life. Our experiences should change our views on the world. We all continue to grow and change depending on where our lives take us and how we react to the seemingly random things that happen to us.

I went back to finish up my degree in my late 30's. Here I am 42, and in my first year of law school and actually looking forward to the future. I live with my sister and my hubby lives about 3 hours away. We are actually (after almost 22 years of marriage) really enjoying each other's company again. I'm so busy with school that when I see him once every month or so, it's fun to be together and do things as a couple. So, no you don't have to settle in. Just be a little flexible in your goals and enjoy the ride!

Answer 4

Forties are not so bad,,,,but the fifties are the best,,,,still young enough to do, no kids to mind, peak earning years for me, able to travel and go about as I wish,,,good group of friends,,,,The problem with the thirties is that is the age when you start putting the past concerns together with the present issues and face the unknown future,,,,and you realize that you are no longer a kid, that your future (and the future of any dependants) is up to you You re no longer the person that you were, but becoming the person that you are going to be,,,,changes in lifestyles, and friends and beleifs come about in this cycle,,,,,it is a rough patch, but most of us make it through,,,,,,,thirties is probably the closest most of us come to a complete breakdown

Answer 5

lol...lol hell I'm 53 and can run rings around people half my age in and out of bed and in everyday life .... your just 30 ...wake up to your self your theonly one putting pressure on your self no one else is with all these things that could , might, maybe happen some time in the future and no its not called getting old at all ...its called growing up , getting a life and getting on with it , yes its a hell of a lot different in real life compared to the 'fairystory' you imagined ... but life is like that so get on with it and stop worrying about nothing

Answer 6

After reading your questions, I would suggest seeking help from a therapist or psychologist. Honestly, life is what you make of it. Perhaps an expert could give you perspective on how your thinking is affecting you. You don't have to be sad. It's your choice!

Good luck and you deserve to be happy! :-)

Answer 7

first you ask about 45 yrs,..then say you are barely 30.

which is it?

I'm knocking on 55 and enjoying the hell out of my 50's.
my 50's are the best yet.

give your self time to grow up.
at 30 you're barely dry behind your ears yet.

Answer 8

Hun, you're 30. You're not even close to old. You still have a lot to learn.

Answer 9

Well, (scratches head), I had my mid life crisis at 32. Do they get worse or better? I don't know.

Answer 10

well i guess u have 2 live another 45 years to enjoy them... and good luck!!!