i tell my bf thats not very nice and i told him to read the menu himself! he says the waitress has to "work" for her tips! how do i fix my bf?! please help!
2007-09-25 16:29:15 · 17 answers · asked by Giggle Bear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my god. The waitress already works for her tips by serving him food on time. Tell him to stop it and that it makes you feel embarrassed or you can joke: next time he asks the waitress to read it for him, tell the waitress: oh im sorry, he just hasnt learned how to read. I bet he will go red and wont do that again! :D
2007-09-25 16:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh ggeeeezz......i've had too many funny conversations about annoying things that boyfriends do but I've never heard that one before....lol. There isn't much that you can do because your boyfriend doesn't comprehend why its so disrespectful, and embarassing for you. Its a control issue too....i mean most of the time. Hes never been a waiter before has he?
He needs to mature some more, but then again I have a lot of guy friends all around the ages of 21-24 and even at that age they ALL have at least one quirky bad habit like that, I will never understand it because it seems like common sense....and I feel like asking them (even begging them) not to do it only gives them a reason why they should keep on doing it. With my b/f we have had to come to a specific conclusion a couple of times ---> called the TRUST ME conclusion. lol....meaning.....no matter what your head is telling you, no matter what you feel or what you know......you need to let me be your better half and do my job right now. So it would be "I know you dont see this action as disrespectful or rude, and I know you feel like the waitress should do extra work for her tips. But you are going to have to trust me when I say that the waitresses are probably more appaled then I am and they would rather you just not tip them than treat them that way. You are acting like a child and it is embarassing for me.....can you please just trust me and stop doing this because it means that much to me?"
And if the answer is no then he has some serious pride issues and I cant help you with that.
good luck!
2007-09-25 17:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by nawailohiloi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is the major issue of you forcing him to take you anywhere. If you want to go to a nice restaurant with him but he could care less about the quality of the restaurant why aren't you paying for it? Why should he be expected to shoulder the cost for your tastes? If you are looking for romance there are better ways. Chances are that if you have to force him to do it it will not ever be romantic.
Your boyfriend seems not to be the only one who needs to be fixed.
That said, if he cannot behave himself in public then, perhaps, you need to find another companion to join you for dinners out. A good female friend can be great company. Nice dinners don't have to be romantic. You will, however, have to pay for your own meal if you go out with a friend. If you do it regularly it's fine to take turns paying but you'll still end up paying just as much.
Personally I'd lose any guy that treated anyone that way. I like the people around me to actually care about people in general. It is a reflection on his personality. Then again, I'm the type that would never, ever assume my meals will be paid for by anyone other than me. I consider that a reflection on my personality.
2007-09-26 01:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by ophelliaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were rude and insulting and I was the waitress I would have my manager ask you to leave. We usually do not have to do this, but there have been some mean people who have been banned from establishment and the managers here are great at resolving any issues a customer may have, even if they are just immature and rude. I am always polite to any waitress and tip extremely well as I know how hard the job is and how demanding people can be
2016-05-18 22:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by stefani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not have to force your boyfriend to take you to a nice restaurant, he should want to go nice places with you because he values you and your relationship.
You cannot "fix" your boyfriend, he needs to become more mature on his own and you may need to reconsider this relationship.
He is playing an immature game of payback to embarrass you by being mean to another female, so that you will stop forcing him to take you to nice places.
What a prize.
Good luck, I hope you find a real man to appreciate you soon.
2007-09-25 16:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sue F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a seriously controlling guy. All you can do is tell him you are not happy with the behavior, and why. If he's not willing to change it, then you need to reconsider a) going to expensive restaurants and b) dating this guy at all.
Also, why would you *force* him to take you to expensive restaurants? Your question makes it seem that your boyfriend is getting back at you for it. Is that fair to any of you three (you, your boyfriend, and the waitperson?)
2007-09-25 16:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just be firm with him and tell him if you start that "making the waitress read the menu tonight sweety" then I'm not going to have sex with you untill you straighten up and mean it, then treat him mean the whole time through dinner even if your not that mad. Men hate it when us women get mad at them. God Bless you.
2007-09-25 16:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I personally would stop "forcing" your boyfriend to do things. Why shouldn't he force the waitress to read for him if you force him to do things, especially expensive things.
And if he knows it bothers you and persists, then I'd say you have a serious problem on your hands. That's a sign of disrespecting others, and disrespecting his potential mate...well, that's not a good thing.
2007-09-25 16:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by DJ Koko 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why are you "forcing" him to take you to expensive restaurants anyway? Give the guy a break.
2007-09-26 05:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to mkae sure he can read or had a comptent level of reading plus he may just be pissed you "forced" him to take you and is trying to spite you.
2007-09-25 16:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋