so, i had my baby august 9th!!! yah!!!! anyways, ive had postpartum depression, and even though it has mostly faded, i feel so low about myself still. i dont ever look in the mirror and think i look good. i feel like im driving my boyfriend away cuz im overly jealous now. im so scared and i have no idea what to do. i feel psycho or something. i dont even like for my b.f so see a womans breasts on television! i know its because im very self conscious because i trust him completely. im not happy with myself, and i dont know how to fix it. ive lost 30 lbs in 7 weeks, and i work out every other day..... but i still feel low about myself. anyone have some tips on overcoming self esteem issues?
ps i dont think im like this just because of the pregnancy, i was pretty much the same before i got pregnant.
2007-09-25 16:36:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is going to sound like a corny cliche, but it worked very well for me. After my husband committed suicide, you can see how I had self-esteem issues. I was thinking things like, "Am I really so unbearable that he'd rather be dead than live with me anymore?" But his mother and sister pointed out the fallacy of that thinking. They said, "No, you didn't kill him. You kept him alive for over 20 years." And in fact they were right. He had had suicidal tendencies before he ever met me.
So what got me out of it? Doing something which focused on other people instead of myself. And you are doing it right now. I got on Yahoo! Answers early in its Beta testing (although my profile does not reflect this, my points do), and found that I had experience and knowledge, and maybe even wisdom, that could help others. The first time I was awarded "best answer" was a major thrill. And I even fostered a love: one guy gave me credit for his winning the girl he wanted by following my advice about Valentine's Day! What a trip!
It makes you feel so good when you can do good for others. With a new baby in the house, you know yourself that when that little angel smiles at you, you would do anything for him or her. But did you notice that you did not mention the child at all in your description of how you feel? Didn't even tell us whether you had a boy or a girl!
OK, so you aren't going to have the same life you had before the baby was born. And you may be some time working out the best response to all the changes. Give yourself that time. Don't make decisions without mulling them over first. And that includes either kicking out the baby's father OR marrying him. Take your time.
And answer some questions. Choose a topic where you have something to contribute, and contribute it. You'll feel SO much better!
2007-09-29 02:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard. You still may be having some post partum lingering on. I know I did for quite awhile even though the major part of it passed. Having a baby changes your idea about everything including how you see yourself. Most women feel less sexy, more tired drug out Momma, they feel torn between the baby and the boyfriend or husband when it comes to attention. I suggest trying to get some time to yourself. Can you have someone watch the baby while you get out and get a haircut, do your hair, shop for a new outfit, go and get a facial or massage, just take a long walk by yourself. Maybe it would help boost your spirits to do something good for yourself.
2007-09-25 16:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a funny thing about life .If u refuse to accept anything but the best u very often get it,the things u react to in your everyday life are a direct result of what u think,feel, and believe for as your depression seek help and your self esteem remember this u can't push out darkness u can only bring in light love u accept u good,bad or in-between
2007-09-25 16:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by charie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd see my Dr. about the depression end of things. I am on depression meds. myself, & what a difference they made in my life. My son & wife are also on them & they're doing so much better. There's a lot of depression going on now in our lives today along w/mega stress. BUT, you CAN do something about it. Please see your Dr. about that. I think that alone might be a big part of your problem rite from the start. Get that taken care of then see how much better you feel all around. You've done GREAT w/loosing all that weight too...good for you. I still think your hormones are "screaming" too! Get to your Dr. abt. your depression. You have a beautiful baby & husband who care about you! You're WORTH IT...
2007-09-25 16:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a beautiful dress, and strut your stuff confidently. Tell yourself, you will become beautiful, cute, and sexy, and you will. :)
2007-09-25 16:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by xo_littledelights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋