he doesn't want to commit to me. He doesn't want to give up his home and come home to me and our son and "it might not work out" and he will not have a place to go. We get along for a couple of months and all of a sudden he breaks it off and says "I don't act right" I think this is just an excuse not to have to commit. He wants us to be together in every way, he just doesn't want the responsibility that comes with a commitment! Should I just dump him and get on with my life or keep waiting and hoping he will get over it? We were married for almost 23yrs.
2007-09-25 16:12:28 · 17 answers · asked by Red 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
weird! is he cheating on his breaks? if you find it bothersome to be in the non committed state then move on. seems like you have a lack of true compatibility.
2007-09-25 16:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that your ex does not want the responsibility that comes with a commitment. That is good enough reason to dump him again.
2007-09-25 19:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just dump him, but let him go. Be a friend if he needs one. After 23 years, there will always be some kind of connection. Stop having sex with him for sure. Let him go. Move on. But don't just DUMP him. Have sex with somebody else. It really does help the healing.
2007-09-25 16:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, after 23 yrs at least one of you hasn't figured out the answer to this question?
How long do you need?
My best estimate would be that he's NEVER going to grow up, & accept the responsibility of being a husband & a father.
2007-09-25 16:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he has a lady, sweetie, and you are being kept as the "Jerk in Reserve".
Tooooo many nice guys out there that do indeed want a commitment... check Yahoo Personals, Match.com etc... nice men,,, and a few nut cases too, just like those next to you in church.
2007-09-25 16:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biggest question I have........was he the one asking for the divorce to start with.....If so.....MOVE ON. You and your son do not deserve to be jerked around this way so even if he didn't ask for the divorce, you still need to put your foot down and it's marry again or he should go find some other woman to confuse!
2007-09-25 16:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by truenorthinfall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.... He doesn't seem stable at all. You guys are better off friends.If he really loved you the divorce shouldn't had happened. I think he is just use to you but, yet he want his freedom. Good Luck and i hope you find someone that really loves you!
2007-09-25 16:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by pinkbubbles282004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had an answer for you! My soon-to-be-ex is doing crap like that to me now. Says he still loves me, says he will do anything for me, but refuses to go to counseling and thinks getting a divorce is best. Why do men do this?
2007-09-25 16:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone and get on with your life. You are divorced. Most of the time that never works anyway. He just wanted you for sex.
2007-09-25 16:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life honey. No amount of waiting and working on it will make him commit.
2007-09-25 16:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋