Why did you accept the proposal?

Question

Are there any ladies out there that have accepted a proposal even though you were not crazy in love with the guy proposing? Did you accept for security, companionship, financial hardship, etc.? Why did you accept it?

Answer 1

some women are just desparate

some women are old and want to have children quick

some women are just users

some women accepted, like me, because of true love

Answer 2

I was propoesed to once by someone before my husband.
I was young and not mature enough to say bluntly I will not marry you. I felt trapped. And probably in love with the idea of love not knowing what love was. Hoping the "things" in our relationship would improve.


He propsed in the car one night after dinner.

I said "I'm not ready to get married I haven't finished school yet. I have to wait until graduation" He was not picking up what I was saying.

He dialed his Mom right then and there and said I asked. I'm still waiting. I asked she has not given me an answer yet.
He put his Mom on the phone with me.
She asked why I did not answer and I said I was in shock and didn't know what to say. She said you say Yes honey when a man asks you to marry him. I still do not even know what I said did I say yes?. nodded? Uh huh???? I don't know

Needless to say I felt trapped and agreed in some gesture,word,or words. Fast forward to planning time (day giving deposit ). The caterer was showing us the hall and wedding cakes. Asked which I liked and I said none. I bolted from room saying I couldn't do this.I told it wasn't right to get the check back. He thought I meant the hall.

I still had to break it off weeks later by just being blunt and saying I don't love you and I won't marry you. While Giving back the ring. Hard lesson, added character and integritity to me. A male friend of mine thought I was a complete witch with no backbone for not being upfront from the start.

Yes I should have had enough woman-ness even though young to tell him & Mom, but I wimped out. Lesson learned, point taken, and know I did both us a favor.

Years later when proposed to by the "one" my husband no doubts or ?'s just the warm fuzzy, teary eyed girly way of accepting. I got teary eyed at the closed box just hoping it was an engagement ring. I had tears so I could not even see the ring at first all blurry as I listened to his words and my heart raced in excitement.My response:
"I was hoping you would ask me. Absolutely! I would love to be Mrs. J. Doe"

Answer 3

I was in several bad relationships and I had two children but when my husband proposed to me it was great because I was in love with him and he was a great person but I was still being careful and my children had very little contact with him because I did not want them in this relationship if he did not last. So when he proposed to me I wanted to say no because I could not Marry someone my kids did not know and he had two children well teenagers that I never met so I did not want to get married until his kids were cool with me and my kids cool with him. So we planned a long engagement 1 1/2 year engagement. But once we joined our families it was so great we got married 6 months later and we have now been married for almost 8 months and its great.

Answer 4

I honestly accepted the proposal because I was madly in love with him (and I still am, though sometimes I am more madly than I am lovey...lol).

I have always been afraid of being the middle aged lady, alone in her apartment, watching Lifetime movies and eating ice cream. Oh yea, surrounded by cats. But that isn't what made me say yes. Love made me say yes. Cheesy as it sounds.

Answer 5

Because he was a hard worker, willing to try new things or go places, affectionate & loving, and a good guy. Of course I should have read the warning signs of when he told me that "good guys come in last" (referring to his past relationship break ups), the fact he had been married & divorced twice before, and had lived with 3 girlfriends. Everyone always does him wrong, and apparently I have too because he filed for divorce from me.

Answer 6

I once went out with a guy who had serious issues with jealousy and he had become violent, I was making plans to leave him and then he proposed, I knew that if I said no he would freak out and probably hurt me, so I said yes to keep the peace and carried on making plans to leave, which I did about a week later.

Answer 7

Not personally but my Aunt has been with a man for about 15 years and he justproposed and she is truly still in love(i say infatuation) with her ex husband from 20 yrs ago. But she told this man yes and she has always maintained that she was only with him for the sex. But you cant help but care about someone when u are with them for so long even if it is a sex thing

Answer 8

When you look at what out there has to offer, you would gladly accept once the situation is ideal. I got burned really bad by someone who I fell in love with.

This time around, it's all about me. I want someone who loves me.

Answer 9

Because no. 1 he knew I wasn't in love with him and we were good friends and he really wanted a family and I was a single Mom. It didn't work out, he became jealous of the time I spent on my kids and I told him I was their Mom before I was his wife.

Answer 10

i got married when i waz young but i love him we've been married 4 and a half years and still going strong. dont marry without love this is the person your devoting your life to you dont want to end up in a divorce then your start right back at the start your alone again.