He blames his father and I for the divorce what can I do? His father and I have a very good relationship, practically perfect.
2007-09-25 16:23:44 · 8 answers · asked by Tristan P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did you cause the divorce? If so, then prepare to reap what you sow. if not, then just give it time.
2007-09-25 16:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you have anything to do with the divorce, if so I have no sympathy and the son is entitled to the anger. He may just also be angry at his father and taking it out on you.
If not, then you should see if he will come around. He may, but he may never warm up to you. So you may just have to accept that you will never have a relationship with you. That is one of the risks you take when you get involved with someone who has children.
I hated my stepmother at first, because I felt my father moved to fast with her after my mother's death (3 months), but after time I warmed up to her, because she earned my respect and the anger just subsided on its own, there was also my little brother who she truly loved and cared for as her own. She reached out to me, and asked me for a relationship. Perhaps you may want to try that, if you have not already attempted it.
2007-09-26 00:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by contessaharridan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend maybe moving too fast for the child.
Maybe he should have kept you two separated for a while longer so his son can get used to the divorce.
Remember your boyfriend loves you.....you didn't give the son that opportunity before you came into his life.
2007-09-25 23:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do, your boyfriend will have to deal with him and just explain that you had nothing to do with it and that he and his son's mother couldn't get alone. Your boyfriend will have to tell him he loves him but it is over and it is nobodies fault and that sometimes it happens and that he will always be there for him. I just hope that his ex isn't tell the boy that it's you guys fault.
2007-09-25 23:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MEAN THAT YOUR BOYFRIEND DIVORCED AND MET YOU/ IS THAT IT? JUST BE NICE TO HIM AND EVERY TIME HE ACTS OUT ADDRESS THE ISSUES TOGETHER AND EVEN SOME LIGHT COUNSELING AND A JOURNAL MIGHT BE KEY. HE IS UPSET AND TELL HIM - IF YOUR NOT HIS MOTHER - BIO THAT YOU RESPECT HIS MOM AND YOUR HERE IF HE NEEDS TO TALK. SOMETIME LIFE DOESN'T WORK OUT BUT STILL, YOU ALL CAN BE HAPPY.. YOU'LL BE OK. JUST STAND TOGETHER.
2007-09-25 23:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's normal....they always think of as as the bad girl.but they don't really understand..u can't blame him.give him sometime to accept it.the more u force it, things might get worst....just wait.... time will tell...people changed so he might changed his points of view in d future...he may accept u someday!
2007-09-25 23:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by hey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait for him to come around..Ask him to do things with you..Its natural for a child to feel that way, especially if he wants his parents to be together.
2007-09-25 23:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did his farther and motherget a divorce b/c his farther had and affair with if so then it is your falt
2007-09-26 00:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋