Family & Relationships - 24 September 2007

My friend's childhood friend apparently has some beef with me. She's been talking about me behind my back to mutual friends even though I've only met her twice and didn't really talk to her much. So when I heard that she was saying stuff (some pretty rude stuff as well) I sent her an email asking her what was up. I wasn't confrontational or rude, but I just wanted to ask her why it was that she had a problem with me.

She wouldn't respond to my email, but instead went to 2 of my friends and started telling them that this was some "high school bulls**t". I don't get it! Why would someone talk a bunch of trash and then when asked why they suddenly had nothing to say?

I'm not trying to pick a fight with her, I let her know that I just wanted to discuss the issue with her and hopefully get it resolved. Should I have just left it alone and let her continue saying stuff about me? Or was it ok to email her and ask what it was she had against me? What else can I do?

2007-09-24 06:58:21 · 6 answers · asked by Vbonics 6 in Friends

My guy and I are talking about getting married in Feb/March and need some cheap honeymoon ideas. We are looking at it more as a mini-honeymoon because we have limited time. He is going into the highway patrol academy right after that. So we will probably go on a "real" one after he graduates, which would be a year later. So any ideas for something that can last a few days and still be fun?!

2007-09-24 06:57:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

im 17 i work in the local supermaket at the weekend,last saturday night i was working on one of the aisles alone because it was five minutes to closing time,there was hardly anyone in the shop.anyway i was kneeling down when this polish guy came up behind me and starting rubbing my waist,i was so shocked.i didnt say anything i just looked at him but he started laughing and did it again!except this time near my chest,i got up,told him to leave me alone and ran to my friend in the next aisle.i was too afraid to tell my manager as he too is polish and is always teasing me.i mean constantly slagging me.i dont know what to do as im afraid this man will come in again,i could be on myown or waiting for my mum to collect me.what should i do?
i know this is in the wrong category but there are more people on here.

2007-09-24 06:57:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

make you feel so cheap? Why are you so afraid to stop and realize it is wrong???

2007-09-24 06:54:42 · 8 answers · asked by Francesca 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I just want to be held, carressed. (without the pressure for sex, I would be more likely to want sex....why don't guys understand that?)

2007-09-24 06:53:56 · 5 answers · asked by HazelEyes 5 in Marriage & Divorce

He said he was 38 and he is really 44, I am 23 and I had no problem with the 38, but not sure how I feel about the 44 my mother is the same age and she is dating someone thats my age. I really like him but I wonder what else he has to hide.

2007-09-24 06:52:45 · 14 answers · asked by gabbwgville 2 in Singles & Dating

and maybe women. Why do some people find it so hard to communicate what they are feeling? I have been with my husband 5 years and he is a closed book, always has been. I can spill my gutts about what im feeling, what I want and how i feel, yet he does not respond. My marraige counsellor says this is how some people are, but i find it incredible!! We all have a brain, and a mouth. Why do some people find it so hard to talk or respond? Are you like that? and why? I need to understand how my husbands brain works!

2007-09-24 06:51:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Last month at the shoe store, I was surprised by the way a salesman flirted with my wife and the way she reacted to it. She actually seemed comfortable with his flirting and allowed him to hold her foot in his hand for long moments as he helped her try different shoes. At other times he kept his hand on her knees or putting his hand on her waist when she would try the shoes in front of the mirror. My reaction to that is I got immensely aroused and I have not stopped fantasizing about this guy actually making it with my wife. I was really taken aback by my reacion and these images keep playing in my mind. I would like other people to help me understand my reaction. Why would I want this guy to have his way with my wife and successful bed her? It is also worth mentioning that the salesman was really good looking. I am also interested in knowing what goes in a woman's mind in moments like this. Would anything more have happened if I was not around on that day? Would my wife try to go to the store again on her own to try more shoes, and try to meet with the guy in my absence?

2007-09-24 06:47:28 · 16 answers · asked by Rick 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have a man he works while i stay home with the baby. i understand he is tired but i do everything i cook, clean and wash everything. i give him massages and cut his hair and shave his beard. I run his bathwater cut his toe and finger nails. i wash his dirty A$$ draws in the sink if we dont have money to wash clothes . When I want something little he wont do like get me a drink when i try to relax. he is not cheating or anything he is just lazy and he wont massage me like i want. and i find myself the one asking for XXX all the time. its like Hello taking care of the baby is actually not as easy as He thinks. when he gets paid yea he buys me all these things and takes me out nice places but thats not what im looking for i want someone to cater to my every need. PLEASE TELL ME WHATS WRONG!!!!!!

2007-09-24 06:46:35 · 4 answers · asked by Baby Girl 1 in Singles & Dating

There are these twins at my job i am head over heels for twins i think their the most unique individuals in the world... the point is i am seriously crushing on one......SIGH* i really want to know if he likes me someone HELP!!!! all my friends say just tell him but anyways here are the signs he gives me....
1) i try to keep away from him but for some unknown reason we're always bumbing into one another at work
-i bumbed into him once and i laid my hand on his arm and kinda felt his muscles and accidently stepped on his foot after words he started laughing i was so embarrassed
2) He stares into my eyes deeply whever we talk... i just now started giving him eye contact
3) He has a girlfirend but never talks about her only when i ask or someone else does
4)He always asks me for things
5) He got mad one time when a boy touched me under my arm pits.. but hey he's from the philliphines so its rude to touch a girl without her permission he got offended

2007-09-24 06:42:16 · 5 answers · asked by prevailed_individual 1 in Singles & Dating

My husbands been working a lot of mandatory overtime. I haven't been able to see him for days and we haven't been able to have sex in weeks. I just got offered a new job and so he offered to take Sunday off to spend with me and we agreed we would go to supper to celebrate. I spent the night at my Mom's the night before to visit and when I got home around noon he wasn't home and his phone was off. I would have appreciated a note saying where he was, but blew it off and took a nap. He called at 3:30 from a friends phone and said he his phone was out of juice and he went to a friends house to watch a game and said he would be home shortly. So I got up and waited and waited and waited. He never called or showed up. I understand that he has been working a lot of hours lately and I would have understood that he needs some time with his friends but he wasafraid I would be pissed. This isn't the only time he's done this. How I should deal with this? I feel hurt and disrespected.

2007-09-24 06:40:03 · 13 answers · asked by sun day 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-24 06:38:24 · 29 answers · asked by Carm Soprano 1 in Marriage & Divorce

you had sex with (but you didn't really get much out of it because it was her first time and she was in pain) but when you ask her to do it again, she said no and wouldn't not budge no matter how many temper tantrums you had? Would you lose respect for that girl?

2007-09-24 06:36:29 · 19 answers · asked by . 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Is this falling in love think USUALLY and I dont mean ALWAYS but just usually a mutual feeling? I mean if a guy is falling for a girl, is it usually the case that she also is falling for him? There must be a vibe/chemistry before someone starts having the feelings right? Personal experiences really appreciated!!

2007-09-24 06:34:51 · 5 answers · asked by profe 1 in Singles & Dating

We are both educated, of sound mind, no family dysfunction. We do not have a history of dating out of our age range. This is our only exp. with age gap dating. We have always dated within our age group. So we dont have "mother/father issues". People who dont know us cant tell by looking at us so we dont get weird looks. Only my family has disowned me. Hes not a thug or lowlife or freak. He's prior military and now has a very good job and is supporting us. He is by far the nicest, most loving, normal, stable minded person I have ever met. They just cant accept it. I dont care and am not trying to change it but it would be nice to hear from others some encouragement and acceptance of our "non traditional, socially unacceptable" life style.

2007-09-24 06:30:27 · 19 answers · asked by mrsbarrett10607 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I are going through a divorce and my daughter over heard him telling his new girlfriend that it is stupid that I am giving them organic food.Do you think something like that can be held against me in the divorce?

2007-09-24 06:27:04 · 13 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If my 2 year girlfriend, 8 years older than me, insults me all the time and humilliated me. She does things that makes me feel disrespected but in her world are acceptable.... she does not give me 100% attection or respect as a man. And a day like today I could not take it anymore and I decide to go out tonite and meet a woman for a personal encounter.. would I be chetting? I dont feel like cheatting... I just need a break from this woman cause I am not able to even say or express myself to her... If she comes to me like yestarday and ask me what's wrong? and I tell her that myheart is broken cause her acctions.. she transform herself into a devil, loose patience and will tell me that that is my problem and will insult me to make shut my mouth. So basically she gets mad .if I even say that I am sufering..
So tonite I am meeting this other woman.. I dont know I dont know but I dont feel like cheatting.... or am I?

2007-09-24 06:21:04 · 21 answers · asked by enrique v 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok so here’s the thing, I just found out my husband has been cheating on me with a girl he works with. He says he has ended it and doesn’t want anything to do with her anymore and that he has told her that on a couple of occasions. He has repeated to me over and over again that he is sorry but it’s hard to believe him after all the lies he has told me. Well anyways, this girl is repeatedly putting things on her myspace profile about their relationship to include a picture she took with him. He told me that he told her to stop doing that because its hurting me and our relationship. I know she is not going to give up so easily and she will continue to harass me and go after him. While I no longer go into her profile to see what she is putting because this was hurting me, I know that other people are seeing what she’s putting and this is embarrassing to me. Last week I was almost positive she called the house to talk to him even though my husband told me it wasn’t her because he had just talked to her again that day about leaving us alone. I have already told my husband to quit his job but he doesn’t want to because of the money. We live in an area where unemployment is high and he wouldn’t make what he makes now anywhere else and we have a lot of bills. He says he is waiting to pass certain exams to work for the INS and then he is out of there. So in the mean time, what should I do? Is there a way I can get her fired? I have gotten a person fired from work before because of the shady things this person was doing but I don’t know what I can pin on this girl since I don’t work there. Is fraternizing illegal? Could I accuse her with their boss of harassing us? I need this girl out of our lives for good without getting my husband fired!

2007-09-24 06:20:37 · 37 answers · asked by alexn 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i knew her since we were little i moved and we lost touch 4 a couple of years i refound her like a year and a half ago and ever since we bein really good friend we do everything together movie, dinner chill talk on the phone every night have sex ect. it's like were bf and gf but we don't have that title since we started back talkin we haven't slept with anyone other each other recenlty a freind took me out to chill with him am some friend he meet and they all when to school with the girl that am in love with they say she get around town i asked her about she started to cry and said it no true she said in her 20 years of livin she can count the amount of guys she slept wit on 1 hand i don't know wat i should do i boy is tellin me not to mess with her but i lover i think he like her she said she think her ex boyfriend started the rumor that she get's around how do i handle all of this

2007-09-24 06:20:35 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-24 06:20:19 · 11 answers · asked by ShanTrey12 4 in Family

2007-09-24 06:19:44 · 2 answers · asked by qat_800 3 in Marriage & Divorce

and you lose interest in her as well?

2007-09-24 06:17:42 · 19 answers · asked by . 3 in Singles & Dating

administrative assistant for a construction company suckssssssssss!!! i wanna go home!! =(

2007-09-24 06:13:24 · 19 answers · asked by KB 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

well..i m married since last 4 months...still unable to do sex with my husband..as he is too caring, when ever he tried to penetration and it hurt me tremendous he just stopped there.as it hurt me he also tries less...i feel really sorry for him as i cant make him satisfied.

i took a serious plan...next day i will go to ask him -

1 - hold me hard.
2 - straight insert ur penis inside me - dont do it slowly, do it just quick...just enter it at one chance.
3 - no matter how much i get hurt, dont stop hold me tight so that i cant push u from me....

so...this is my plan. do u think, will it do any harm to my body without hurting tremendous? i m a virgin and i really dont want to delay anymore..i want to serve my husband truely!

2007-09-24 06:13:24 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i want to know is this a culture thing ?, why are some guys that are and some that are not?? what is the benefit tot his?

2007-09-24 06:10:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My mom had a camera and I used to use it a lot, especially for picures for my sites.But jus the other day[friday] I had it and the camera hit the sink[nozzle] and the screen cracked.Meaning you cant see the picture you just took and...its just messed up ! But Im not sure what to say to her,how to tell her, and when I should.Like she would probably go crazy.But I know sonner or later she will be looking for her camera.So what should I do?PLLLLLLLLLLLLLEASE help me !

2007-09-24 06:05:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

About 2 months ago, I met this older man through my friends. He is attractive, funny, smart, wealthy but has legal ties...wife and kids to be exact. He pursued me and I followed along. He kissed me one night 2 months ago b/c he was wasted and I was too but I told him no. Then it happened on a different night. And I said this is the wrong thing to do. He said I was right and we didn't really talk or look at eachother when I would visit my other friends. Then just this last month, I saw him out and he asked me to go get a drink, I gave in and went. I didn't know what to expect but we did have sexual relations not intercourse but you get the idea, and now I am just so wrapped up in this mess and I totally think he is a great guy but what am i doing???? Am I disrespecting myself here? Is this ok? Is it not ok? No one has a clue what is going on but there are several people that would get hurt, how do you walk away? I am so confused!! Please help.

2007-09-24 05:55:26 · 15 answers · asked by TextnQueen 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have sister and about three years ago she ranaway. I was always more mature than her so I was always left to take care of her and she pulled this big, "no one gets me, I hate you all" dramatic thing. She even wrote me this big long email talking about how I was a big mistake and I couldn't get over myself, she never wants me as a sister or to see me again. WEll that was fine with me, if she wanted to be like that I told her I was done saving her ***.
Well about 6 months ago she came back, all of my family thinks she has changed but she hasn't. She is still the ***** she was the day she left only now she needed a place to stay. Everyone is getting on my case cause I won't talk to her. She comes to all our family events but I ignore her. If she tries to talk I walk away. I take the whole if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all thing to a new level. I promised her she would never have to hear from me again and I stick by that.

2007-09-24 05:50:31 · 13 answers · asked by unicorncaptin 2 in Family

say ur a guy tht likes a guy how do u say i love u???

2007-09-24 05:50:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Can any of you mature men who do the online dateing thing tell me why in God's name do over 80% of the men on there think and use it as a SEX SIGHT??

I'm 50, have a few friends the same, and we're getting these complete ******* who lie about what their looking for, and then on the first date expect to have or be given SEX!!
WHY??????????????

I make it a habit to pay for the dinner if the "creep" has drivien a far amount of miles to meet me, and if not, I go dutch.

We're confused..........please answer honestly.
Also, for those of you only looking for sex, why do your profiles say "long term"? Why not run your profiles under.....intamate encounters instead, or just go to the sights where singles are only looking for sexual encounters?

2007-09-24 05:48:58 · 16 answers · asked by peggin_beast 6 in Singles & Dating