Can any of you mature men who do the online dateing thing tell me why in God's name do over 80% of the men on there think and use it as a SEX SIGHT??
I'm 50, have a few friends the same, and we're getting these complete ******* who lie about what their looking for, and then on the first date expect to have or be given SEX!!
WHY??????????????
I make it a habit to pay for the dinner if the "creep" has drivien a far amount of miles to meet me, and if not, I go dutch.
We're confused..........please answer honestly.
Also, for those of you only looking for sex, why do your profiles say "long term"? Why not run your profiles under.....intamate encounters instead, or just go to the sights where singles are only looking for sexual encounters?
2007-09-24 05:48:58 · 16 answers · asked by peggin_beast 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi trailsend,
My honest opinion is - many guys see on line dating as a protective shield. They can contact women and ask questions they would NEVER be comfortable asking a woman in face-to-face conversation. They use the anonymity of on line dating to cater to their desire to ask these questions, make these comments, or generally shock women.
In general, people you are describing also feel it is the largest pool of women they can approach. Odds are, if they pose these blunt questions to 25 women, 1 will show interest.
I can't comment on the last part of your question. Hopefully you will get some honest answers from men who do this - my profile was accurate. I was searching for a woman, open to a long term relationship, and found one.
good luck ~
2007-09-24 06:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say long term because what they really mean is "Long term sexual relationship". I've given up on this. I'm 42 years old and that's all I've seen too, men who are very good and telling me what I want to hear. When they want to know what kinds of "freaky things" you like before they even ask your name, that's a dead giveaway!
EDIT: Regarding what "me" said: It doesn't matter how much the site costs to join, men will still use it as a sex site. E-Harmony, Match, you name it. I have found that men will pay a lot of money and travel many miles if they think they're going to get laid.
2007-09-24 12:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on the earth do you feel that online dating sites are meant for serious relations or a decent ones. If you want a decent relation then go join a library or club where you can meet people one to one. These sites are being created for people who are not fit socially and that is why they tend to search people online especially with no social responsibilities and wants only fun. in first instance itself your approach towards life is wrong and you are expecting nectar from the bottle of wine. So change your way of life and go to right place. You don't get wife's in brothels so don't search one at a place where everyone is on sale. They tend to think same for others as well. Take care an change your attitude.
2007-09-24 13:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Gaps 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think most men automatically assume that the women in dating sites are lonely, divorced, etc; and are looking for companionship and sex just like the men....one of the answers said for you to put in that sex wasnt an interest at the first or second date.......might set a few men straight.......good luck
2007-09-24 13:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not male but my husband uses these sites. I am not sure why either if you know let me in on the answer. Sometimes I think it is just to see if they can get someone to respond and then meet them. I don't see any reason for people to be looking for sexual contacts on line. IT would scare the hell out me. If my husband ever had someone that did come and met him (and I would find out) he would not be able to have sex with me without going to the DR first. I don't want anything transfered to me because of his stupidity.
2007-09-24 14:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not try some of the phone dating lines at least there you can weed out the ones that are only wanting sex . I met my hubby on one of the phone dating lines . You have to be carefull though and be safe and agree to meet at a public place like a restaraunt or somewhere ,where there are a lot of ppl . good luck ,hang on dear you will find someone .
2007-09-24 12:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have used online dating sights, and I have learned to expect nothing. That way, I've made mostly friends, and one girlfreind who I still friends with 5 years later. Unfortunately, some guys ruin it for others.
2007-09-24 12:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Tireless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men do not think of women as any other then sex objects (generally speaking). I reccomend that you put in your profile that your not interested in sex for at least a few months....
2007-09-24 12:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well DUH You expect men to tell the truth . Look your 50 I'm 57 we both know men are LIERS. Men lie even if the truth would be better . Aslo the men that use Internet dating usually are losers , not all but most . Be carefully Little Lady and good luck .
2007-09-24 12:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol i take it you are using plentyoffish.com thats the disadvantage to a free dating site, you get every creep and perv in town. you might have better luck at a pay site, such as eharmony.com if people are going to pay for a site they might be a bit more serious
2007-09-24 12:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋