My friend's childhood friend apparently has some beef with me. She's been talking about me behind my back to mutual friends even though I've only met her twice and didn't really talk to her much. So when I heard that she was saying stuff (some pretty rude stuff as well) I sent her an email asking her what was up. I wasn't confrontational or rude, but I just wanted to ask her why it was that she had a problem with me.
She wouldn't respond to my email, but instead went to 2 of my friends and started telling them that this was some "high school bulls**t". I don't get it! Why would someone talk a bunch of trash and then when asked why they suddenly had nothing to say?
I'm not trying to pick a fight with her, I let her know that I just wanted to discuss the issue with her and hopefully get it resolved. Should I have just left it alone and let her continue saying stuff about me? Or was it ok to email her and ask what it was she had against me? What else can I do?
2007-09-24 06:58:21 · 6 answers · asked by Vbonics 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I definitely would have prefered to talk to her face to face, but she lives over an hour from me. I really wanted to nip this in the bud and just find out what it was that I did to offend her. Thanks to everyone for the advice and great answers.
2007-09-24 07:34:16 · update #1
I think you did the right thing. Shes no one to be talking about being childish. If she was mature she would have told you what her problem was to you not to everyone else.
2007-09-24 07:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by TheLight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to talk to her (as you already did). Usually these kinds of people have very little respect for others or they are jealous and want to make people look bad and therefore come out on top.
That might be what she is doing.
The best way (my experience) is to ignore. She will get tired eventually.
At least that is what happened in my case.
And another thing... if your friends are really your friends, they won't believe a word of that rubbish. Maybe sometime in the future, you and them can look back at this poor girl and laugh, because she hadn't had anything better to do than what she did.
Good luck!!
2007-09-24 14:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I probably would have preferred a face to face confrontation.. but that's my personal preference... if all you did is what you have said.. and nothing else... then you have done nothing wrong... and since this isn't your friend... but a friend of a friend.... if you don't have to be around her.. then just forget about her.. she isn't worth your time.
If you do have to be around her... then try again in another way... or find out from friends what she is so pissy about and bring it up more directly... expect her to be very vocal if you do this.. and you'll have to be very mature in the situation to keep it from escalating... but it should solve your problem.
2007-09-24 14:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all if it bothers you that much, confront her face to face. Do not use e-mail or text messaging. It is easy for us to be rude or say things that may hurt peoples feelings when we are not face to face. you may use the same tactic, let her know you do not want to fight. You just want to understand.
2007-09-24 14:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by ella c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have email her to and trid to talk to her at school I have a friend doing the same thing. We have been friends for 3 years then she does around talking behind my back. I talk to her then she got mad and we fighted.So I would just live it alown.
2007-09-24 14:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when peole are in an emotional time, they like to pick on others to make themselves feel better, don't take it personally, and remember, no matter what, that you did the right thing!
2007-09-25 11:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋